My crush has a girlfriend, what do i do?

I have a crush on a guy that has a girlfriend what do I do ?we are friends and close but around his girlfriend he ignores me sometimes and when she's not around he's all hangout type and his girlfriend doesn't even care if he flirts with other girls.I...

told him I liked him so he knows and he said if him and his girlfriend weren't together he'd go out with me and we are a little closer now but my life is horrible knowing I can't have him right now and I can't get over him it's too hard. so what do I do?

Absolutely nothing there's nothing you can do, imagine you were his girlfriend and the roles were switched how would you feel if you found out. He knows how you feel and if he feels that he sould rather be with you he will make the choice but there's nothing you can do. You will destroy this girl if you do react on it. How would you like to know that your relationship would be based on you knowing he can cheat on his girlfriend....
Your time will come my Girl.

Hang in there

there are so many people out there that will love you. you dont need him. you will see that once you ignore him he is going to come to you.

I know exactly how you feel. I feel the same way. I love this guy and I mean LOVE. but he has a girlfriend, but I know that he likes me 2. a lot of the time I wish that we could be together, but then I think about her. if you and the guy you like, (or me and my guy), are meant 4 each other then I think it will happen. just live for today, I think that's the best advice! =D

I am in the SAME situation as you are. In fact, I was typing in things like my crush has a girlfriend and other related words in Google, and this page popped up.

Well, I can't help much, since I'm still obviously trying to find myself, wondering if I should continue pursuing this guy or let go, and stay as friends.

I read your second-to-last sentence, and it just got me stuck. You said that he'd date you if he and his girlfriend weren't together. That just sounds like he's the type to treat you like a mere substitute. If he does break up with his girlfriend and gets with you, sure, that's great. But think about it - it's like he's saying you're the rebound. Who knows, if another girl that claims she likes him comes along, YOU could be the next ex-girlfriend. The way you quoted him makes him sound like a non-committed type (if he's committed to his current girlfriend, he wouldn't say something like that to you, even if he's lying, trying to be nice).

There's nothing else to explain, but if you still love the guy, just wait and see. You don't NEED to get over him. If he breaks up with his current girlfriend, go for it. Just make sure he's a worth-while guy. Otherwise, be friends.

Always remember - if you and your crush truly love each other, you guys don't have to be officially LABLED (as I call it) boyfriend/girlfriend. No one needs to be married to love each other. In fact, I think it's a lot easier if there's obvious chemistry, but no OFFICIAL title.

Sorry I talk a lot, but I hope that makes sense and helps.

ughh. I am in the same situation! except his new girlfriend his totally goth. he broke up with her for me and now they're back together, and its a sucky feeling. everyone tells me to move one and get over that jerk. but I know in my gut that I should hold on and wait for a little and everything will work out for what it's supposed to be!
that's my advice :] 3333

something like this happened to me.
The guy has a long term girlfriend and I'm getting out of a long term relationship. However, everytime we see eachother we can't keep our hands off eachother and end up doing something stupid we feel guilty about later. I know he wants me but I also know he loves his girlfriend. So I decided to see what happens. Do not sit around waiting for him or your life will pass you by. Go out there girl and experience life and eventually you'll stop thinking about it as much. good luck!

ME TOO!
its this guy from my work. when we started working together we became friends really quickly and we were really flirty and stuff, I had a crush on him right away, and I felt like he had a crush on me too, but at that time I was in a serious relationship and I was crazy about my boyfriend. I knew I should tell him that I had a boyfriend so he wouldnt get any ideas, but something always held me back. then one day he told me about this girl he started dating. I was surprisingly dissapointed. this was around the same time that my almost two year relationship was failing, I was heartbroken over it for a long time after. but as my feelings for my ex faded away so did my feelings from this guy I work with get stronger. we're still good frineds and we talk about everything, but he still has no clue about how I feel. any time he mensions his girlfriend I get so dissapointed. and to make things more complicated, one of his good friends has a crush on me.
im so head over heels for this guy, im almost consumed by it, I even had a few dreams about him where he told me he feels the same, then I wake up and get so sad that it was just a dream.
hes adorable, hes from poland, hes tall, red hair, blue eyes, plays soccer, snowboards, plays piano, skateboards, hes a really good student, gets along with everyone, hes such a good friend. I dont know whether or not to tell him or not, im worried it would make it awkward between us.
hes so happy with this girl but im hoping against hope that they break up, and I realize how selfish that is but I cant help it. its not just infatuation, because I know him, and I like him for him. hes one of a kind
my plan is to wait. we're only 17, things change. thats what I keep telling myself. situations change, the chances of them staying together for a long time are slim. I thought I was going to marry the guy I was dating before, and now I think back at that and laugh.
well, it felt really good to get that off my chest, I never told anyone.
my advice to you is, hang in there.
thing are going to turn around, dont worry.
sooner or later, your crush is either going to realize he has a crush on you too and cant lie to himself, or you're going to find somebody even better, who's going to feel the same way about you that you feel about them.
I know its hard, im in the same exact predicament but your life is about you and not him, or you and him, if that makes sence. you can live without him.
something else I found out; crushes are technically an emotional attachment, a chemical balance thingy in your brain, and as soon as you feel rejection from the person you are attracted to, your brain sends a signal to break down the chemical bond that makes you attracted to the person. I thought that was pretty cool.
so there you go, as soon as you admit to yourself that he doesnt feel the same way about you, you start getting over him.
I wish you the best of luck, though.
I hope everything works out the way its supposed to, and im positive that it will

All I have to say is if he really likes you like you say he does he will break up with his girlfriend but give it time but dont forget about him or dont move on. JUST GIVE IT TIME and you will see what was meant to be. He might be afraid. Have some faith. Mayb you will find out that it wasnt meant to b you might find someone else. I know I said this a lot but GIVE IT TIME see whats down the road.

listen guys, I am in the exact same situation. reading all these responses...it seems like a lot of us are.
the guy I have a crush on is my best friend, and has been for a while. we flirt, you know, but he got a girlfriend, they just celebrated their six month anniversary. he acts like two different people, if hes on the phone with me and he gets a text from her he will spend his time making sure he says the right thing to her, and even asks me for advice. I just want to scream in his face, hellooo! you dont have to pretend to be someone else if you would only open your eyes and realize the girl meant for you is right here! its crazy, I guess it's just life? and btw, I found this by searching 'what do you do when your crush has a girlfriend' on google also(:
-the best friend.

listen guys, I am in the exact same situation. reading all these responses...it seems like a lot of us are.
the guy I have a crush on is my best friend, and has been for a while. we flirt, you know, but he got a girlfriend, they just celebrated their six month anniversary. he acts like two different people, if hes on the phone with me and he gets a text from her he will spend his time making sure he says the right thing to her, and even asks me for advice. I just want to scream in his face, hellooo! you dont have to pretend to be someone else if you would only open your eyes and realize the girl meant for you is right here! its crazy, I guess it's just life? and btw, I found this by searching 'what do you do when your crush has a girlfriend' on google also(:
-the best friend.

Darn, I can't help either because I'm in the same boat too.

I have this friend. We have a heap load in common, we have real conversations (unlike a lot of people I consider friends), we tease each other, have a laugh and generally get on really well.

I have feelings for him and he's said he likes me as more than a friend. He frequently mentions meeting up as it was fun seeing each other last time (with other friends there) which it was - I've never enjoyed a guys company in the way I do his. But he has a girlfriend but rarely sees her due to distance though they've been together a while.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who has this problem - and I'm even super glad-er that it isn't all you tart One thing though, don't date him if he specifically dumps her for you, just think he could just as easily do the same to you. I'd wait a while as friends should he break up with her - It gives you time to see if it was just the naughtyness of it or if you really have feelings you want to follow.

THIS IS FUNNY because ITS LIKE EVERYONE IS IN THE SAME SITUATION ME TO

MY ADVICE IS TO JUST EMPRESS HIM AND UM LIKE MAKE HIM SEE THAT your WAY COOLER THEN HIS GIRLFRIEND SOO YEAH
HOPE I HELPED

BIBBI

Im in the same situation

although he knows I like him and his girlfriends know I like him and they are both fine with it

and I also agree with reeema
good luck

thx for agreeing with me
hehe

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I understand exactly how you feel. One guy that I have a huge crush is dating someone else, and it totally sucks. One way that I cope is by setting my mind off of things for a while. Try out something new, like a 5K or a pottery class. You might just get over your crush quick.

Also, if you feel totally inferior over this guy's girlfriend, try to focus on good qualities that you have, such as a skill or a good thing that you have done. He might actually like how you are as a person.

One thing, though: Don't tell anyone about your crush, because people can gossip, and that gossip can get to your crush. You will not like the consequences. This might seem a little hard, but don't get clumsy and dorky everytime he sees you. He will notice, and he could find out.

Other than that, good luck with how things go. Someday, your prince will come.

THIS IS HAPPENING TO ME TOO LOL!,I WAS ACCTUALY TYPING IN GOOGLE MY CRUSH HAS A girlfriend THERES NOTHING you CAN DO BUT WAIT... WELL HOPEFULLY THE WILL EVENTUALLY BREACKUP AND HE WILL BE COMMING RUNNING BACK TO U (HOPEFULLY)

OMG..I cant Believe these many people have this same thing in common.

Well with my sitution..I really like this boy and yes his has a girlfriend. One day I finally told him that I like him and he told me that im not ugly but his has a girlfriend and I said okay im cool with that even though im not.OH yea I go to church with this guy and now everytime I see him he gives me hugs and we talk for about 10 mins. At first he used to just say hey but now his giving me hugs. He has a nickname for me know and he told all his friends. My cousin that goes to the same church told me that he might like me cause the way his acting now. So I really cant tell you nothing but just wait and maybe he'll come to you...I hope this boy does.

sme here LOL!!! theres like 1000 answers to this question, but if I were u I was sure that he will never or doesnt like me, id just carry on with my life and take it as it comes! how do you know wats going to happen next, you cant tell the future. if you want to be together its not you or him that decides its both of u!! if he likes u really has the guts to tell you that he will, but in this case if he has a girlfrend then its different!!
but you know watch out theres many fish in the sea, and one cud appear at any time!! gd luck

well heres the story he liked me this hole year and I did 2 I still do.I flurted with him and I still do but hes going out with one of my best friend and my friend (natalie) knows that I love this one guy and she dint do any thing about it!!he doesent like me like a week ago.I realy like him he knows I like him but he sais he only likes me as a friend he came 2 my graduation party and so did natalie they were hiding behind a tree and they kissed!!! I saw them I went to my house running and crying!!I just got of the phone he told me he doent like me!!! kimberley ooohhh and before he made me a super cute nick name kimbo and I made him one 2 franky j ill miss my franky j booo!!!now I have 2 play it koo so he wont suspect

Wow. I know how you feel. Im a freshmen in high school. I met this guy my 8th grade year. Over the summer of 09 I fell for him. But he has a girlfriend. Im in love with this boy. I've never felt this way about anybody before. He takes my breath away. I got lucky and got to have all my classes with him. We play and flirt. Call each other our snuggle bunnies. He sits behind me and plays in my hair. tells me sweet things. says im beautiful. I told him how I felt. He gave me all the signs. Made me think that he wanted me. He didnt respond when I told him I was crazy about him. he likes his girlfriend a lot. I sit there at recess and watch them kiss and hug and love on each other. It breaks my heart to know that I cant have him. I want him to be happy. And if that means that he has to stay with her to be happy. ill try to be okay with it. I wake up in the mornings and hes my first thought. Before I go to sleep. Hes whos on my mind. Hes the one im dreaming of. If only my fantasy could change to reality. I want him! I need him. Every time I see them together I cry, whishing it was me. My friends comfort me and tell me it'll be okay. But it wont. Not until hes mine. I honestly dont know what to say. Im in love with him. when shes not around. Im the one hes being loveable with. he holds me, and teases me. One day me and him had to play a role in the classroom. it was a love role. He changed the lines. Made it more romantic. He kissed me at the end. He told me to wait for him after class. He got in trouble for PDA. After class he told me that what he said in front of everyone was true. And that he was crazy about me to. But hes crazy about his girlfriend also. Why cant I have him?? Why cant he just choose me?? I guess im just a hopeless romantic waiting for a miracle.

I LOVE MATTHEW DAUZAT!!