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My cousin and sister ruined what i have(a tad long)

me Asked by little_lyn_ritalin 3 months ago, 1 answer.

see I am 16 at the moment I am visiting in south carolina with my cousin who is 23 her husband 24 and my sister 18 .and a few days ago I thought I was pregnant and I was terrified. I asked help from my friends and eventually while I was crying my sister...

was there and asked whats wrong. I knew there would be a likely chance she would slap me if I told her what was going on but I blurted out to her that I think I might be pregnant. and surprisingly she was calm about it and told me shes there for me and just let me cry. she said she'd help me with what was going on and the next day I got in the mail a pregnancy test my friend sent to help me. and my sister helped me to see what it was. while I was waiting for the test to determine whether or not I was pregnant, my sister lectured me that she is very pissed at me and that she wants to beat me up. the test said I wasnt pregnant. but my sister told me she is gonna tell my cousin who is very strict. my relationship with her isnt very great. and when she told my cousin she got very mad. I went to my sister and she was crying saying that she is disappointed in me and that I broke her heart. my cousin took me for a drive and yelled at me for having sex. I get that I really messed up but I was feeling bad that I hurt them. I talked to my boyfriend about what was going on. he feels terrible too. it was a lecture after another and eventually those two told my cousin's husband just to ask for the guy perspective. they went from me ruining what trust they had in me, to that I shouldnt be having sex, to that my boyfriend wasnt good for me. it pissed me off because I was actually now, due to what they told me, having second thoughts about my boyfriend. basically they kept telling me I am a screw up, or thats what it felt like they were saying, and that they are disappointed in me. and after staying in my room to think, they come in to tell me that they have to tell my mom whats going on. I wasnt afraid she'd be mad, just that she would hate me. and I wanted to be the one to tell her but my cousin decided to tell her. and when they were done talking to her my cousin said that surprisingly she took it well and that she didnt sound mad. she just started choking up in tears and that she sounded disappointed. which hurt. and that eventually I will talk to her. but she needs to calm down. and later on that night she called my sister and I thought it was time to talk to her but apparently she just called to ask how things are going over her. and if we're having a good time. she could've asked me that but apparently she can'T even bring herself to talk to me.. and the next morning I got a call from my mom and she asked how I was with an awkward tone. she told me that she doesnt know what to do. and that she'd rather discuss it in person when I come back home than on the phone. she told me that if she doesnt call me that it means she doesnt know what to say to me. and I know its my fault but it feels like my cousin and sister ruined everything I have. my relationship with my mom is ruined. what I feel for my boyfriend is ruined. the trust I had in my sister is destroyed. the trust they had in me is destroyed. basically I feel like someone that is nothing. and I would like to ask of you, to please give me advice on how to fix everything that has been ruined. because I feel lost. thank you for your time on reading this

lovin it, lol Answered by confused12 on Nov 17, 2009, 01:34PM
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I think you need to tell your mum the whole story of what happened with your sister and cousin. What they did was WRONG with a capital W. I agree, you made a mistake, but they didn't have to go and put the rest of your life in tatters! You must apologise, tell her what your cousin did and hope for the best...good luck, this is a really hard situation, im sure you will handle it really well!! Good luck!! xxx

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