My boyfriends mom

Me and my boyfriend have been together now for a little over a year. At one point we broke for you know typical boyfriend and girlfriend issues. (I was being too clingy basically is what it was…wasn’t the cool girlfriend, jealous and insecure.) But were...

past that phase now and we have moved on from that. I love him more than anything and we both have changed our ways. Back when we were together I slapped him on the side of the face twice…once in the beginning of the relationship and the second time was in the middle of our relationship, I had my reasons why but I came to realize there is no excuse to ever slap your significant other and I learned that the hard way after we broke up. But now that he has forgiven me for that and were trying to move forward it seems like we can’t. His mother which I don’t blame her for being upset with me for what I had done to her son back when were together in the beginning is still very upset about what happened. I apologized to both my boyfriend and his mother for what I had done, that I am ashamed of it and it will never happen again. My boyfriend has forgiven me and we want to be happy but it’s hard his mom doesn’t want me around. She doesn’t want me to come near her house, when me and my boyfriend first broke up she didn’t want me around he kept seeing me without her knowing and I wasn’t allowed in the house but then when I spoke to her and apologized for being disrespectful I started coming around again and I have been for the past 2 months, she made it seem like she had forgiven me, but this past weekend out of nowhere she was upset that I was there, and she told me upfront I’m not over it, things haven’t changed, please leave. I don’t understand so much time as passed since this has happened like 7 months since the slap in the face incident took place and I have done everything in my power to try to make it right. Were trying to move on but it’s hard when his mom gets involved and brings up things from the past that were both trying to let go of and now I’m not allowed in his house, or see his family, family is a huge thing to me and it’s important that I get along with my boyfriends family just like I would want my own parents to get along with him. It’s crucial to me. What do I do…this is so hard because I just want us to be happy and move on but she is making it impossible. She makes it seem like I cheated on him or did something extremely horrible, but all this keeps re-surfing and I can’t take no more. I am good to him now we respect other more than we ever have, we don’t deserve it, I don’t deserve this, I made a mistake how much longer do I need to be given crap for it. He has forgiven me we have been through so much which is why we’re still going strong. Even an unplanned pregnancy where I lost the baby and now we’re trying to leave that chapter behind… all the mess that dragged us down but how are we able to move on if she just won’t let it go? I care about him so much and I’m afraid that she is pushing me away.

I will say she is being an outright b***. People need to learn to move on, you're absolutely right. As for what to do, I would say try and get your boyfriend to talk to her again (im sure he already has). For her to restrict you from his family is a really nasty thing for her to do, and she shouldnt have control over them. I would say try talking to her again, mention how family is important, and maybe get him to tell her how she is ruining his happiness as well, and how people need to move away from the past. She is being selfish and overprotective, probably worrying that you are going to slap her son in the face again. Then again, some people unfortunately will continue to be stubborn for all of their lives, and its sad, but theres not much to do about it. Try to get in tough with the rest of his fam. without her knowledge if you can though, just to get your foot in the door. If everyone else likes you, she may feel more inclined, or possibly pressured, into accepting you. Do what you can.