Having trouble with my boyfriend's family

I am having problems with my boyfriends family. His sister has spread rumors about me without even knowing me, and checked her brothers texts to get him in trouble.

His mother constantly tells him that we've been together too long (2 and a half years) and that we need to break up. Then, he told me...so she said that she was "just kidding" even though she says it all the time. Now I know they don't like me, so she tells him that I have problems since I believe that.

His dad told him that he doesn't know what love is, but his brother does. (which is ridiculous, his brother is a year older, and has a girlfriend, but they haven't been together as long as us, and they fight constantly...) and his brother got his girlfriend a promise ring ages ago, and didn't talk to his family about it, but his dad didn't care. Then, my boyfriend had the maturity to talk to his dad about it, and his dad was completely against it for some reason. Keep in mind that my boyfriend wanted to get me one over 2 years into the relationship, and his brother got his girlfriend one before the 1-year mark.

To me, they seem unfair. I'm trying not to hang around them anymore. They never let him see me, they always have excuses, and now they're trying to plan our prom for us. May not sound bad, but when I tell you about it, you would understand. There's more.

If you want to know more about it, ask. If you have advice...please help!!!

Wow there's not too much you can do unless your boyfriend is willing to destroy his relationship with his family for you. I mean me and my wife both got away from our families because they weren't supportive. The best thing to do is to out with all of the secrets and rumors and set his parents down for a good talk just them 2 and you. Do not involve your boyfriend in the conversation because he'll become really emotional but let him know what's going on which I think he can figure out for himself.

well, he knows what's going on. he got mad at his family for acting that way, and tried to have a calm talk with them. they grounded him just for talking, he didn't raise his voice or anything...it was ridiculous...

tough it out until you are old enough to move away. my guess is they will warm up to you around his 18th birthday.

I don't know... would you like for me to e-mail his family a kick in the pants for you? lol... I have the same problem with my husband's family, mostly because they think that they are better than me, but my husband told them that if they ever want to see our children or be invited to our wedding ceremony (we got a civil service, but I still want a real wedding), they will treat me with the same respect with which I treat them.
His parents, no matter what they say, can not stop him from seeing whomever he wishes to, even if they do not like you. If you really love him and think its worth it, stay with him, but keep in mind that if you ever decide to get married, you will be marrying his family, not just him, and they will be forever in your life.
I am not saying this to discourage you from a relationship that seems to be working, but simply to inform you. Also, eventually, if his family does not start treating you better, he will be forced to choose you or them. Just remind him that no matter what, even if he decides that he does not want to talk to them until they start being better to you, they will still love him whenever he decides he wants them back in his life.

yeah...I know that marrying him will bring his family even closer to me, which is why I want them to like me. but I'm not going to be fake to get them to like me.

he's been saying that when he turns 18 or 19 he is probably going to move out. my mom is so mad at them...every time we talk about them she's like "one day they're going to lose him...they need to think about what they're doing!!"

well I dont blame his parents because I only know you throught the internet and you get on my nerves cause you are very ingnorant and you think your blunt but you are just rude and you judge people your not going to get far in liffe with that kind of attitude