My boyfriend was a virgin but I have a few questions...

Im 17 and have slept with 4 guys(including the guy im with now)and my boyfriend is 18 he was a virgin till just the other day and I've talked to a coupleof my friends and his friends but im so scared to ask them questions. My best friend said she heard that if you take a guys virginity then he'll be attatched to you and hes yours forever that sounds great but really how true is that.Italk to my guy friend and he said that guys don't get attatched and he leaves for the millitary soon to and everyone tells me to break up with him because 95% of the guys cheat or break up with their girlfriends
PLEASE HELP ME AND ANSWER MY QUESTION PLEASE!!!

I've got an answer for your question. I am sort of going through the same problem as you, but on the guys side instead. My girlfriend who has also had sex with a couple other dudes also took my virginity, like you. I don't know what your boyfriend is like, but if he's like me, he's in love with you and is attatched to you. I've completely lost my mind now, because I've waited till I found someone that I truely loved to lose my virginity to. Now I'm stressing myself out that she's not going to be trustworthy and faithful to me because of the fact that she has already rode some other dudes. I am truly in love with my girl, but now I need to be proven that she'll be faithful and trustworthy to me, if not, I don't want to be in this relationship anymore. I'd be too heart broken once, and if, she ever cheated on me. You should help me out also, give me a girls point of view.

Oh yeah, I don't think he'll cheat on you. I know I wouldn't even consider it. Just talk it over between the two of you and set up a plan. If either of you are attracted to another person, break up before you do anything stupid. And don't just do it because some dude wants to bang ya. It's a lot better than having your heart torn out of your chest. Remember one thing. About 97% of guys out there only want to ride you then leave you for nothing, they're horny disrespectful fools. Are you close to the dudes you rode already? That should answer that question. Guys are scared of relationships and commitment. I'm one of the 3% that love it though. I guess I'm old fashioned. I'd keep that current boyfriend if he's special to you. You're very special to him. Be faithful to him, because he's going to be faithful to you. I hope I'm right. I'm using myself as an example. Good luck

Hey, I've been in the same situation as you are, I can tell you this only SOME guys become attached not all do. I personally don't know your boyfriend but I say just think about how he acts normally around you and you should be able to decide if he's the kind to become attached or not. It's all about how he is around you and the way he is. Good luck.

hey I`ve never had sex befor but I think you should tell him you wont to tack a litte time away intill he gets back frome the millitary and see ware it goes from there I hope this works for u!!!!!!

having sex can sometimes change a relationship, but how exactly it does that really depends on the person. if the relationship was already good then it will strengthen it, but if there were problems before they could become worse. good communication is the most important thing -- tell him your worries and feelings even if they seem silly to you. if he doesn't listen or want to help you, then he's no good for you. virginity is more of a social construct than a biological entity anyway.

If you know that he loves you and you love him it shouldn`t matter and you shouldn`t worry about what other people say and follow your heart.

It all depends. I took my boyfriends virginity because he allowed me to. He fell in love e with me and I fell in love with him. We both would never ever cheat on eachother because we are devoted to only eacthother. We only live because the other lives and we communicate. We talk about everything so we always know how one another feels. Also we have an 800 mile distance between us but it does not stop us from staying together. We are truly one.
Now if he wasn't madly in love with to begin with well you can see how things go but chances are it can't work unless both people are truly bound to eachother. How do you know both of you are bound to eachother? Well...thats easy talk. Does he tell you and show you that you are the only thing in his life worth anything and he would be lost without you? and when he does tell you and show you do you feel it? because you should.

My boyfriend seems to have the fear of cheating instilled in him stronger than anything I've ever witnessed before. Since the beginning of our relationship I was constantly grilled on accusations of cheating. He thought I had sex with my ex, he thought I was cybering people when I replied slow, he'd see me talk to some guy right in front of him and he'd interpret things I found totally innocent conversation to be flirting. Of course I'd get defensive and pissed off, because I've never cheated on him nor wanted to, and then being "defensive of my behavior" would mark me down some more notches in his book. It's a dangerous thing to be paranoid of. Oh, he's a virgin and I am not, and boy do I take hell for it, which I find entirely unfair and hurtful. Don't think someone's disloyal just because they've been with someone before you, that's so dickish. I know there's a sense of jealousy in it and I think people turn that into cheating accusations to avert dealing with their own feelings of inferiority.

I've been cheated on plenty before, but I'm willing to take any risk to be happy. If you think he can make/keep you happy, stay with him. Be honest with yourself. Happiness is the most important thing, you never want it to slip away without knowing what could have been. On the other hand, if you know deep down you don't want to stick with this person, it's okay to let go when you want to, and better on your mental health in the long run.

(I realize the original post is way old, but I wanted to voice that)