My boyfriend's mom...what should i do?

Me and my boyfriend have been together now for a little over a year. At one point we broke up for you know typical boyfriend and girlfriend issues. (I was being too clingy basically is what it was…wasn’t the cool girlfriend, jealous and insecure.) but...

were past that phase now and we have moved on from that. I love him more than anything and we both have changed our ways. Back when we were together I slapped him on the side of the face twice…once in the beginning of the relationship and the second time was in the middle of our relationship, I had my reasons why but I came to realize there is no excuse to ever slap your significant other and I learned that the hard way after we broke up. But now that he has forgiven me for that and were trying to move forward it seems like we can’t. His mother which I don’t blame her for being upset with me for what I had done to her son back when were together in the beginning is still very upset about what happened. I have sat down with her face to face and apologized to both her and my boyfriend for what I had done (the slap in the face). My boyfriend has forgiven me and we want to be happy but it’s hard his mom doesn’t want me around. She doesn’t want me to come near her house, when me and my boyfriend first broke up she didn’t want me around he kept seeing me without her knowing and I wasn’t allowed in the house but then when I spoke to her and apologized for being disrespectful I started coming around again and I have been for the past 2 months, she made it seem like she had forgiven me, but this past weekend out of nowhere she was upset that I was there, and she told me upfront i’m not over it, things haven’t changed, please leave. I have done everything in my power to try to make it right. Were trying to move on but it’s hard when his mom gets involved and brings up things from the past that were both trying to let go of and now i’m not allowed in his house, family is a huge thing to me and it’s important that I get along with my boyfriends family just like I would want my own parents to get along with him. It’s crucial to me. What do I do…

Ps. Im 21...someone asked...does it matter? Lol

Have you both tried sitting down with her and telling her that it is now none of her business?

You sorted out your issues and she needs to drop the past. I think both you and your boyfriend need to speak to her alone.

Or alternatively you could ignore it. If she sees you aren't making a big deal out of it, she might let it drop. I also have a boyfriend who's mother at times can be terryfying and putting her nose into our business. I learned the best thing is to completely ignore her when she acts like this and it works.

She should realize that since you had the decency to apologize for slapping him even though when you did you felt it was the right thing to do at that moment. Don't let her forget that people aren't perfect, and that at least you can admit where your mistakes are.
Ask her which is more dangerous: a girl who sets her mistakes on the table and apologizes and reconciles them, or someone who makes excuses?

Let her know it's better to make a big mistake in life and fix it, than to make a million little ones and brush them under the table.

Is she religious at all? If so, she is weak-minded and you can turn it against her. If she is a Christian you should cite some verses and whatnot about passing judgment on others, and forgiveness, and all that other BS in the bible. Even if you don't believe it- never be afraid to turn another's weaknesses into your strengths.