My boyfriend is in love with me and his ex

Please please please, somebody help me. When I met my current boyfriend 10 months ago he'd just moved to Canada and casually told me that the last relationship he was in lasted 7 years. I didn't think too much of it at the time and we continued to date. Within a month, we were both completely in love (he was the first to say it), and completely inseperable. After 5 months, he still couldn't find a job and had no choice but to return to Australia where he was originally from. I was devastated to say the least. We both cried our last night together and he told me that if we're really that special, that nothing was impossible and we would simply do something about it. The part that was bothering me was that the only reason he broke up with his ex was because he moved countries. I figured he would return to her and that would be it, but one week later he e-mailed me and told me that he missed me and that nothing was the same without me. Fast-forward to two months later and I'm now in Australia living with him.

Here's where it gets complicated.

He started acting a bit distant and not quite the same. Then one night I heard him crying beside me and I immediately asked what was wrong. After a lot of prodding, he finally admitted that he still had feelings for his ex and that he missed her, but that he loved me as well. He was a mess; completely torn.

He told me that if he'd met us both at the same time, that it would've been me hands down that he'd be with, but he spent seven years of his life with her and they went on so many trips and did so many things that it's just so hard on him.

I should mention that his ex is devastated and keeps calling him, wanting him back.

I moved to another state, thinking that that was the end. I knew he needed to spend time with her to find out what he really wanted. After two weeks, he called me and told me that he knew for sure that I was the one and that he wanted me back.

I believed him, and I know he meant it at the time, but after three weeks, it's started again.

I don't know what to do. I love him so much, but there just doesn't seem to be any solution.

Does he just need more time to get over his ex?

Please help!!!

KW

Im sorry for your pain,it seems like you both are good people in a bad situation,I would suggest you take a break from your boyfriend,he has baggage that is tearing you up,I repect his honesty,that is rare these days with so many people,he needs help,hes not letting go of his ex,he may need help with therapy or counseling,its so unfair to you to have to go threw this,so put some distance between you guys,and give him time to get help,so you can protect your heart.best wishes

Tell him it's one or the other. And if it's the "other" than you're gone for good.