My boyfriend is in jail and I love him so much!!

My boyfriend is in jail and I love him so much!!! He is the best man I ever cam e in contact with, he help me in school, He open my eyes in many ways. I feel lonley without him, he is facing 15 years in federal prision. Honestly he was and is my future... Help me my soul is gone??? He is the best thing that ever happened to me!!!
KayBarbie
NY,NY

ok,first of all... Let's start with why he went 2 jail? you may not wana tell, but as soon as you mension JAIL it doesn't sound any good. But LOVE IS BLIND. Girl, he is in there 4 a while... Get 2 know someone else and you'll fall in love again... it isn't the end of the world you know!!! But anyways... Your last call... you're soul is not gone and he ISN'T IN YOUR LIFE... wake up and smell the coffee girlfriend... I don't want to sound mean, but you can do better.. Think about the reason he is in there and come to your senses!!! Again you know what's best for you and your life!!!

Spanishgal...
Toronto,Ontario

Girl dont listen to anyone on here, they dont know what kind of a relationship you two have. STAY WITH HIM, let him know that you are there for him. My boyfriend is in jail( not in prison), im still with him right now, but what ever your boyfriend did sounds bad, BUT stay with him. How long has he been in there 4? well I hope you take my advice on this and stay with him, he needs you right now.

Forget him, he sounds like a creep, in fact, so do you. 15 years means he's real scum and should probably have got the chair.

WOW!! Some of you guys on here really don't have any heart at all. These are real people here. Come on, we're not all perfect!! If we were, how boring would that be??? People screw up EVERY DAY! If he could take back what he did to get in there, I'm sure he would!!
Girl, you need to keep in contact with that boy and figure out what is going on. Ask him what you should do. He may tell you to let him go and go on with your life or he may want you to stick by him. Hopefully those charges that he faced with that are getting him 15 years are dropped or reduced. Follow your heart! If you think that after his time is served that you will still be in love, go for it! That support is definately something he needs right now to get through jail. It is a hard situation for both of you, especially him and letters, visits, and phonecalls are essential at this point. Good Luck!!

ok... so how many of you people on here thhat has said something negative towards her and her guys relationship have ever done anything illegal?? whether its under age drinking, stealing a piece of candy from a store, etc. Or im sure you know somebody that has done something illegal, do you think of them diff.?? are you still their friends?! UHH im sure you are! so but yourself in someone else's shoes!!! If you were in love and this man you were with is all u've ever wanted or needed then you wouldnt drop him! He kind of becomes your responsibility and you need to take that responsibility! Im in love w/ someone in jail to for a pretty big crime! But I love him with all my heart and I wouldnt trade him for the world! im going to be by his side because so many HEARTLESS people in this world have put him down and made him feel like NOBODY!! he is HUMAN and HUMANS make mistakes! He needs me to be there and your man needs you to be there too! 15 years. is a long time, but the way I see it is God is testing your strength and feelings for eachother! Love conquers all!!

Hey dont listen to any of those heartless fucken bitches. Jesus christ 15 years is a long time, but you have to make the decision urself. Actually listen to them, but let it go in one ear and out the other, because the more people that tell you not to stay with this guy the more ull want to be with him. F**k the world, you know what you got and you know wats going to be coming back to you. But think on the reality side too, 15 years can take a big toll on someone, it can make them bitter and depressed. Do you want to have to deal with that? Probably yes because you love him... but go with it girl... get back to me and let me know wats up with the situation now...LYLAS I know what your going thru!!!
-Sunshine

hey there sweetie...I understand what you are going through, My boyfriend is not only in Jail but he is in Wisconsin, I am in Texas. Talk about hard. He faces his felony charge April 11th. I have promised him that I would stand by his side no matter what. Through thick and thin, thats what a woman does for the man she loves. I booked a flight to see him in June...Wether he is out or wether he is in I am going. If he gets sentenced I am probably moving there. he needs me and wether I think I need him or not, I do need him. we write everyday. He is my whole world. My best advice is follow your heart it doesnt let you down. Hope for the best and prepare for the worst. What is he in for if you dont mind me asking. Hang in there. God works in mysterios ways, let him take the wheel.

Before meeting my boyfriend he faced 90 years in jail. 90! And that is because he had 9 hunting rifles, and was selling pot at the age of 18. 9 x 10 years each. He spent about 2 months in jail, and was put on probation for 18 months. We've been dating for 4 months now while he's been on probation, and he got a trespassing ticket for rock climbing on land a friend of a family owns. And now his probation may be revoked, and he could be in federal prison for 27 months.

Dont listen to what the world tells you about 'criminals'. These men need our love, 15 years is a long time, but I would guess he serves 1/2 or less for good behavior.

I dont know why life throws us these curves, and why good men are sent to jail for petty crimes when jail time will not improve them. Our goal needs to make these men into valuable members of society. And fors ome reason the majority of this world see's people in jail or prison as plain and simple Horrible people.

Stand by him if you love him, they need our love just as ANY other man out here, if not more. And we women who are in love with incarcerated men need to stick together.

Uh sh*t my boyfriend went to jail because his friend got him drunk and they broke in a house..but just because someone goes to jail dont mean there bad it just means they made a mistake were only humman and we make mistakes get over it..My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years he's never did anything wronge to me he's been there for me through everything..and if I need anything he gets it...My point is just because someone went to jail it dont make then a bad person unless they did a really huge crime like murder but other then that im tired of you lil bitches judgeing people you dont even f***ing no your not perfect and you cant pretend to be get a life stay out other ppls cause you aint no better!!!

STAY WIT HIM, because HE NEEDS U $ SO DO U...
i´m in the same situation, my boyfriend is in jail 2...
and I know I need someone better than him,but I just can´t broke up wit him because I know how much I needs me in this moment, this is going to be hard 4 all, but thats how people learn, by their s mistakes..
and you know what: ..his family don´t want him, in their home NO MORE, and he.s only 17, i´m the only person he´s coutin´ wit, now...I ain´t going to leave him alone now....whenever I had a problem he´s been here 4 me, that´s what I going to do now.....i´ll stay up 4 him......cux I really luv this man!!!...I luv mah babe ALEJANDRO, te amo papi why siempre stare contigo babe!!!...

So, GOOOD LUCK GIRLA
N IF you REALLY LUV U´R MAN STAY WIT HIM, DON´T LISTEN 2 THESE CRAZY PEOPLE TAKIN SH*T!!!::..

well to let you know my boyfriend is in jail too for 6 months...n it is not easy 2 know his there and your here...but seens his going to be there 4 15 years I suggest you let him go and find some other guy who'll be there 4 you....if it was 4 a year or something well yeah you could've waited 4 him...but his facing 15 years...c'mon....I'm 16 years old and I'll wait 4 my boyfriend until he comes out..but if he does it again then I'll just let him go....but still I'll always be there 4 him...

I feel ya pain 4 girl trust me. My b/f just got sentenced to 3 years; we been 2gether for 2 years now. It's not going to be easy believe me. But dont send the rest of your life feeling poopie. Of stay by your man side & ride 4 him. Visit him let him know your there for him. But at some point gotta say to you sef 'am I happy ', get out and enjo life you only live once. you will find some else take away the pain but dont forget about your love. That what I keep telling myself &take I day by day.

Hey girl! Thought I would write back 2 your question because I know how your feeling. My boyfriends been in jail and currently got relesed on tag. Since he has been out its been the best, but the other week when I was at college I recieved a text message saying that he has been locked up. Luckily he got out later that day but we have been talking and its very likley he will go back, he has court this upcoming wednesday. But if you love him like I love my boyfriend you need 2 think and make a choice I am waiting for my boyfriend no matter what but 15 years is a very long time depending how long he does. I hope everything goes well and you make the right decistion. x

my BoyFriend is in Jail 2 .! I just found out my boyfriend is in jail he called me and said he was in Jail and he was like Baby im in Jail they came and got me to day I I was like I thougth they were takeing you the 26th he was like I only got 2minutes im like ok hes like I love you im like I love you 2 well were really not going out because of ang his age17 my age 13 but we still love each other and his brother James called me and told me my Mike my boyfriend called and told him to tell me he loved me im like when u talk him next tell him I love him 2 so I know how you feel but my mike could face 10-15-20-life

my boyfriend is also in jail, but he only got 4 months. hes been there before over this past summer but only for 3 months. I think you should see how much time he gets. if its over a year then dont wait. you can always see if the loves still there after he gets out. I dont know if you had to goo through this before but its not easy. all you get is letters, 1 visiting day a week, and phone calls that cost 8 dollars for 15 min. more then a year wouldn't be worth it.

Sammi

I say go with whatever your feeling and as times goes on you'll know whether you should continue with him or without him. Good luck!

well my boyfriend is in jail too he got 6 years for drugs, and has been in there before, but not when I was with him. He has done a year already and it has been the hardest thingg I have ever bin thru in my life....BUT, although everyday it feels so hard and it hangs on your shoulders and runs around in your head there is something missing and your hurting so much, you have to make sure you think positive and think evrything happens for a reason!!now I am only 18 and when he gets out I will be 20, but before he went away we wre really really close, too close really for my age. So I have always said that I wished I could have met him when I was older, so now this has given me the chance to do so. And stay with him and build and work on our relationship, we may not have a physical relationship but we sure do have a emotional one since he has gone in there we have become so much closer it may seem daunting that the only way you can speak is a cuple mins on the phone and letters, and visists wre ya cnt even kiss really, however letters are really special becuase you cn express so many things you are not usually able to do when you talk. But neway during these two years he has got left I am just thinking that I can get my life sorted become a stronger person, becuase really this is what tests ya and makes ya stronger in life, becuase nothing can be moire restricing than this. But if you love him then nothing can stop that all of my friends laugh and dont see how I have done this for so long but its not them that have the connection and love from this person, so you can have your life go out and at leats you will always know where he is !!, and personally this has given me the chance to make it up to all my friends hu I fuked off for him when he was out, but all the while I still know I have somebody sitting there hu loves the bones off me, and when you think people hu say lets have a break and see what life can offer and plan to get bk togetehr in years to come it just never happens but this way if you are a strong person you can keep him and have all his love.

JUst remeber it is not only you hu is going thru this there are a lot of women hurting from there partners just being taken away. But 15 years will more than likely be halfed and the way tiume is flying it'l b there in no tyme I really feel for ya cus I am finding his 2 years heart renching, but you cant predict what happens in the future, so you cant say whether you will deffo b with him in so many years time but you just have to take each day as it comes it is the only way to get thru this cus thinking to far ahead is too scary. If heis the best thing that has happened to you stick by him and when that day comes when you are togetehr it'll b so magical beciase god cant keep you apart forever, and think aswell I know its hard an annoying when pple say this I get annoyed but just think at least he isnt dead and you can always keep in touch. I wish you the best of luck stay strong you will get thru this

Listen to your heart ladies....it doesnt matter what others say..only you and your boyfriend know what love and feelingz you have 4 1 another no1 can judge that...u stick by him and in the process make urself and your boyfriend strong...hang in there!!

IF HE IS IN JAIL !! HELLO >>> HE DOES NOT CARE ABOUT YOU OR ANYBODY ELSE!!
IF you LOVE HIM < THEN WAIT FOR HIM > REMEMBER you live once!

DId he thought about your happiness before he got himself in trouble! HELLO!!!

My boyfriend just went to jail, were not sure for how many years yet. He is a heroin addict. But I've know him since I was ten and I love him with all my heart. I understand completely how you feel. And trust me, my Dad got 11 years in jail and he only served 7 of them. So there is hope, although you can't stop living. People will judge you, regardless but only you have to live with the decisions you make. I am 21, a real estate agent and I own 2 of my own houses. Poeple still think I am a f*ck up. DO WHATS RIGHT FOR YOU. good luck.

WOW..what is he in 4?? but I know what it feels like..im in love with a guy that has done so many things 4 me and I luv him so very much..in my opinion..it would depend on what he did..if it wasnt that bad.. I would wait for him..because true love can last 4ever wherever you are..
good luck and stay strong!!

I completely know how you feel. so is mine. but he should be getting out a bit sooner. its hard because family doesnt want him to hurt me, but I love him in a crazy blind love kinda way. its different with me because he didnt say he loved me till he was about to go to prison. I have many letters. I hope you have asked God what he thinks. Prayer is key in these kind of issues. Be chase for God and he will reward you. Things happen for a reason, 15 years is really a very long time. Be encouraged in love, faith Joy and a positive outlook towards what is best for your future. This man will need your friendship, and letters..but remember, he's locked up, you are free.

Hey I read your post and I can honestly say I know how you feel. My boyfriend is currently locked up right now and will be for the next 7-10 years. You really can't help who you fall in love with. My boyfriend is my best friend, my backbone, and the love of my life. The first time I went and visited him, it was the first time I'd ever seen him cry. Just be there for him as much as you can and try to keep his spirits up because its harder for them to cope with their losses behind bars than it is for us. This has, by far been one of the most difficult things I have ever had to deal with in my life. I'm not going to lie, at his court date when they told him how much time he would have to serve, the reality hit that maybe I would have to move on. I tried to move on and start over and I would meet new guys all the time but none of them compared to the man that had my heart. Don't stress over it too much. It will get easier. If you see him at visitation or write to him, try to stay positive and remind him that you'll be there for him through thick and thin, if thats really what you want. My boyfriend has been locked up for 3 months so far and it really does get easier. Keep your head up and good luck with everything!

I know how you feel my boyfriend is on remand at the moment but hes looking at 4-5 years, I know thats much less than yours but it is still horrible.
I miss him everyday but there are phone calls, letters and visits. Im still with him and hope to be when he gets out, everyone tells me im wasting my life waiting for him but like someone else has said love is blind. if you both love eachother then be together but dont put your own life on hold, go out with friends do things that you used to do. just dont look back in the future and regret things.

I understand how you feel all of this is new to me I havebeen with my boyfriend for one year now and he might be facing up to 5 years in jail. I have never felt so stong about a person one day in my life, you stay by his side because he needs you more than anything and I know it is going to be hard but we have to let go and let god! If you really love him then your love for him will get you threw all the tuff times. Yes love does make yo do some crazy things but its those crazy things is what we love so much!!! Be a good women and stay by his side because no matter what I will be by his!!! I wish you the best of luck...

Now I've never been in a situation like I've gotten my self into ever before in my life. I had beent alking to this kid for about a year, and finally we hung out. from that day forward we had been insepratable. After two weeks he had told me he loved me, I was too afraid to say it back. then he reworded it 'as long as I've known you, I love everything about you', he ws the only guy who ever cared about my feelings, kissed me on my forhead, and loved me like no other. About a month later, he had gotten sentenced to jail for violating probation 3 or 4 times.,When he had found out he was going to be going to jail, he told me and said that we dhouldn't be seeing eachother as much anymore and I hadn't realized hwo deep in he was. As blind as I was I decited to keep hanging otu wit him, he had sid he didn't want to hurt me and I hadn't realized how hurt I actuically would be and how much I realy do love him. his friend baild him out and he talked to me but not for a long itme on the phone, he ws busy so I had told him to call me back, I had accidently passed the out and had missed his 6 calls and 3 voicemails he had left me. I had not actuically at that point known what the next day woudl leave me, but he had called my sister 100 tmes trying to have her pick him up so he could come to my house. The next day I had found out he was sentenced to 8 months. I know its not half as bad as in any other situation, but it still hasn't even been a month. I have dreams about him each night, I've talked to his mom who saw him last week and he told her to tell me he is sorry and that he loves & misses me and wihll write when he gets into another jail. The only thing I can possibly do is just pick up the piecesof my life and move forward with my self make somthing of myself and just miss & love him and wait for him to come home. I have not recived a letter yet but im positive I will. It wasn't until after he went away when I had learned how much I loved and cared for him. It gets harder each day, but each day is one closer to the day that I will see my baby again. For I have been told that the smile I bring to his face while hes in jail is the biggest one his mom has ever seen him make.
My advice is if you still have those same feelings in you for him. then there is no question as to why you shouldn't stay with him. you've just gotta move forward with your own life focus on yourself and do make something of your self, dont let anything in life bring you down, its all ment to make you a stronger person and if it weakens you than only you cand o something to change it

Do not let anyone tell you how you should feel because it comes from your heart not from what someone thinks. My boyfriend went to jail 2 months ago and he has 3 years to serve. It is nothing compared to 15 years though so I cannot say I entirely know how you feel. I lived with my boyfriend for 4 years and we brought the best out in eachother until one day circumstance led us into crime and we have become coaccused meaning legally I am not allowed to even so much as wave at him for 5 years. I believe if what your saying is true then your boyfriend is probobley a good man who just makes bad decisions. It is hard to move on espessially when you dont want too and it is extreamly hard to deal with the time frame in which you have to be apart from him. You should send him letters, visit him if you can. . show your support and share your feelings with him though do not make yourself seem as if you ' can not go on' because if he loves you how you love him he would not want to think that your life is ruined because of him. You should focus on you and do good for yourself so that when that beautifal time comes when you can be with him again then it will be better then ever!! I hope all works out well for you.

your not alone, my boyfriend has 15 years to go and he has been in for 4 already this jail love is definitly hard

my man is in a federal prison as well he has done 4 years already and has 10 left it's really hard to deal with him so far away but so far I just deal with it, to me losin him would almost be the end of my world I have gotten use to the calls and letters it brings you to a place in love that you can never share with anyone else

First of all hello my boyfriend is in jail now and they trying to give him 15 years to and he did a year...I can't take it no more I miss him with all my heart and if you love him you should stay with him and what did he do...I wish you the best of luck but remeber if you love him stay if you feels through he holding you back leave he prombly understand and my boyfriend I wanted to have kids by him and leave with him into we get old but now he locked up and aint nothing to do but collect his calls...

First of all hello my boyfriend is in jail now and they trying to give him 15 years to and he did a year...I can't take it no more I miss him with all my heart and if you love him you should stay with him and what did he do...I wish you the best of luck but remeber if you love him stay if you feels through he holding you back leave he prombly understand and my boyfriend I wanted to have kids by him and leave with him into we get old but now he locked up and aint nothing to do but collect his calls...

what did he do???

my boyfriend just went to jail, and hes going to be in there for a reallly long time. I didnt even get to sy bye to him. I know how you feel girl. I have been an emotional wreck for the past week. just stay stong, and try to think of the best.

look if you love him wait for him, and if he loves you then when his out of jail you'll be the first person he'll think of!! my mum lost her soul when my dad left I know what you're going through... if you love him belive that your love is strong and anything can happen!!! lovage and good luckxx

Honestly hun listen to your heart if my man went back to prison I would still stay by his side no matter what. It shows comitment and loyalty. And people on here jumping to f***ing conclusions is ridiculous he could be in there for being in the wrong place at the wrong time. Girl keep strong and let your man knwo you love him always no matter what he did

15 years is a long time...ask yourself these questions; why is he in prison? can you wait? is it worth it? what are his plans? your answers are the answers of your questions... I've been in jail once for physical injuries which aint my fault(wasn't been there for long) but the few hours I was there life began to turn visibly beautiful and selfish I'm just saying that your boy is an a bad situation and my sympathy goes to him but then again try to weigh things okay? what do you want for your life? and what does he want? Bless you guys good luck!

My ex boyfriend is in jail too. Just stay by his side threw it all go see him as much as possible write send money and pictures dont let him think you forgot about him.

He is not worth it, he is going to probably have sex with other men that is what they all do in there, my brother was in jail and that is what every single one of them did, either they raped someone or got raped, he will probably have aids and you are wasting your life, no future for you or him if you stay, and he will still think you are not being honest with him even if you are 10000 percent faithful, it will never work leave and get out of it as soon as possible

I think it depends what he did.

my boyfriend is in jail too. he was in jail for five months came home for about one and then messed up and now hes back in jail for another six months plus he has to go to an in patient rehab. If he fcks when he comes home though he'll be going to state prison for years. Which I don't want to think about but if it happens I'll still be there for him because he's my best friend and my lover. I've been with him for two years and everyone tells me that it isn't real love and that we won't work because of all the sht we've been through. They don't know the connection we have and if you feel as strongly about your boy as I do about mine then you won't listen to what anyone has to say and you'll do what your heart feels is right. I love my boyfriend and he loves me and we're going to get married someday. No matter what I'll always be there for him. And there's always the chance that your guy will get a deal or get out early on good behavior. But if not you can still visit him once a week. Hear his voice when he calls you now and then and get excited about getting letters from him. It's not the best but it's better than not having him at all.

Wow honey, I cant imagine how you feel...but dont listen to most of these people here, they're so quick to judge you & your relationship...If you love him, you'll get through this, it'll be hard, but you will..Just keep hope & stay in contact with him...dont stop living your life, live for the both of you guys =] just wish for the best, and I wish you the best =]

-CoCo

if he really loves you as much as you love him then dont you think he would have tried to stay out of trouble?

Yeah I also say it depends on what he's in for. My boyfriend has been in jail for almost 2 weeks now, and it's been one of the hardest things I've gone too. But time changes so many things and tends to make people stronger. And I can see how much stronger me, him, AND our relationship, is starting to get. We still don't know how long he'll be away for, but no matter how long it's going to be, I'm going to be right there with him. You can't just STOP loving someone, or even TRY to. When you truly love someone, it's there forever. Good luck to ALL you girls, you are all very strong women, and I admire every single one of you!

GIRL, I WAS FACED WITH THE SAME ISSUE & ALL MY MOM & MY FRIENDS & FAMILY WAS TELLING ME TO LEAVE HIM ALONE & LET HIM GO THROUGH THIS ALONE & TO MOVE ON WITH MY LIFE & NOT LET HIM HOLD ME BACK. I STARTED TO LISTEN TO THEM BUT THEN I THOUGHT ABOUT HOW MUCH I LOVE HIM & HOW MUCH HE HAS BEEN THERE FOR ME THROUGH ALL THE HARD TIMES & I KNEW HOW MUCH HE NEED ME SO I STAYED BY HIS SIDE BECAUSE I LOVED HIM SO MUCH & BECAUSE HE WAS THE GUY THAT I WANTED TO SPEND THE REST OF MY LIFE WITH. HE IS OUT NOW & HE'S TRYING TO GET HIS LIFE BACK ON TRACK AND IM STILL BY HIS SIDE HELPING HIM & WORKING ON OUR RELATIONSHIP. SO FORGET WHAT EVERYBODY ELSE THINKS FOLLOW YOUR HEART & STICK BY HIS SIDE. GOOD LUCK girl !!!

I completely understand what positon you are being faced with. my boyfriend stays in and out of jail CONSTANTLY!!! he recently just f**ked up,hit two police officers,and now he's on the run. I love my boyfriend with all of my heart and I would NEVER EVER leave him no matter what. I know that he's going to be in there for a while but im guna be here for him. you should INDEED stay with him. dont listen to what no one else has to say about it because your choice CONFLICTS on you and him...if you love him and would rather be with him than anyone else STAY WITH HIM. there isnt much that he can do for you while he's in there but thats what bein in a relationship is...its now your TURN to show him how much you love and care about him by being there for him and sticking to his side. TRUST ME...in the end it'll all pay off...and if it helps just think as if he's on a vacation trip when you guys are writing and talking on the phone...it'll probably make you feel a little bit better...so I mean yeah the BEST THING FOR YOU is to follow your heart...stay with him...he will LOVE YOU MUCH MORE for it...G00D LUCK!!!

Well just forget him because he seems to be a freak. I think you should move on and find another person.

I understand exactly how you feel. My man is in jail and will be for another year to year and a half and trust me I know its hard. It's all I can do to focus on everyday life + stay here for him + hold him down till we get through this when I have so many other issues to deal with. But trust me, if you love someone you stick by them no matter what. If he's the best thing that has ever happened to you then he will continue to be that, in jail or out.

I know the situation.
Im 16 years old, my boyfriend is 18.
Hes just been sent to prison, 6 days ago.
But hes only got to serve 4 months.
Even so its killing me.
But I know he needs me now more then he has ever EVER needed me.
Imo, stick by him, yes it will be hard but when he gets out you cherish every single moment you share together, it it will make you a much closer, stronger couple.

Good luck.

ma let me tell you this rite now dont listen to anyone but yourself...my man just got out of prison he dis 4 years, we have been together for 6 now, and him going upstate just tested our love...if its ment to be than its ment to be! o and to whoever said that all they do in prison is get raped lol ma you have been watching way way way to much hbo my man spent 50% of his time in the box for fighting when he wasnt doing that he was reading, writing me letters drawing me pics, and looking at our sons sonogram (I was 7 months preg when he got locked up) my mans home now and him being upstate really just made our relationship stronger! and girl the sex is AMAZING when they get out lol

I understand how you feel. My man had 13 years but time has passed. It gets hard at times but they'll past. I had family and friends tell me that he's not good enough for me but then I think about the guys that I dealt with before him and see that he's nothing like them. He's been there for me more then any guy that I dealt with. Your boyfriend could get out on good behavior or if he got parole. You really have to be there for them because prison is a mental break down. Some of these stories on here are a bit much and I'm trying to figure out why some of them were with their boyfriend's before they had gotten locked up. Now you don't want to be with someone if they weren't about anything when they were home. But if he made a mistake that's different. Make sure he learned from his mistakes. A man will make a lot of mistakes but don't keep allowing him to make the same mistake. Remember your in a relationship and it's about both of you. Now if your with someone who is doing things that could get both of you in trouble then you need to leave him. But if he was and is there for you mentally, spiritually, and because he can't be there physically, communication is key through letters and occassional phone calls and visits if possible then try to make it work. Don't listen to those that say that every man that goes to prison gets raped or turns gay. That's a lie. If you turn gay then your a*s was gay or questioning it before he went in. I can't stand when females ask me dumb stuff like that. But you do have to watch those female gaurds that try to get your man to f**k them. That's all on him. So be careful. My boo get them all the time. He knows I'll find out if he slip up.

What's up girl? My boyfriend is in prison for 25 years. He's supposed to be getting an appeal soon and I know he's going to get out. I've been standing by him and I'm not going to stop. Just follow your heart and talk to God about it. I have faith in God and I know he won't fail me. Your man needs you. What if you break up with him and all of a sudden he gets a lesser sentence and get out. You'll feel real bad about it wouldn't you? Don't worry, it'll work out for you.

I am sorry to hear that, thats what happended to my dad.. 10 years

well the only thing that I can say is if you reeally love him stay in it but if you feel like its not the rite thing to do then follow your heart

my boyfriend has been in jail @ least 30 times literrally and you knw what we are still together because I bail him out lol or my parents do or people that want to help me tooo!!!1

you will have to dump him let him go even if you love him he can harm you when he get out because he can go sicodic so you take my word and dump him and it coming for a 10 year old who has a sicdic aunt that came out of jail

my boyfriends amazing, and im so in love with him. hes in jail because he kidnapped and threatened his old friend who raped me... and got caught. so maybe you think 15 years is a long time, but how long have you already been waiting to meet your boy? how long have you been searching for that one person who makes you feel like no others can? I know ill sure as hell wait for my boy.. and write him every single day until I can go pick him up :] good luck hun.