My boyfriend is in jail and i love him so much!!

My boyfriend is in jail and I love him so much!!! He is the best man I ever cam e in contact with, he help me in school, He open my eyes in many ways. I feel lonley without him, he is facing 15 years in federal prision. Honestly he was and is my...

future... Help me my soul is gone??? He is the best thing that ever happened to me!!!
KayBarbie
NY,NY

ok,first of all... Let's start with why he went 2 jail? you may not want to tell, but as soon as you mension JAIL it doesn't sound any good. But LOVE IS BLIND. Girl, he is in there 4 a while... Get 2 know someone else and you'll fall in love again... it isn't the end of the world you know!!! But anyways... Your last call... you're soul is not gone and he ISN'T IN YOUR LIFE... wake up and smell the coffee girlfriend... I don't want to sound mean, but you can do better.. Think about the reason he is in there and come to your senses!!! Again you know what's best for you and your life!!!

Spanishgal...
Toronto,Ontario

Girl dont listen to anyone on here, they dont know what kind of a relationship you two have. STAY WITH HIM, let him know that you are there for him. My boyfriend is in jail( not in prison), im still with him right now, but what ever your boyfriend did sounds bad, BUT stay with him. How long has he been in there 4? well I hope you take my advice on this and stay with him, he needs you right now.

ok... so how many of you people on here thhat has said something negative towards her and her guys relationship have ever done anything illegal?? whether its under age drinking, stealing a piece of candy from a store, etc. Or im sure you know somebody that has done something illegal, do you think of them diff.?? are you still their friends?! UHH im sure you are! so but yourself in someone else's shoes!!! If you were in love and this man you were with is all u've ever wanted or needed then you wouldnt drop him! He kind of becomes your responsibility and you need to take that responsibility! Im in love w/ someone in jail to for a pretty big crime! But I love him with all my heart and I wouldnt trade him for the world! im going to be by his side because so many HEARTLESS people in this world have put him down and made him feel like NOBODY!! he is HUMAN and HUMANS make mistakes! He needs me to be there and your man needs you to be there too! 15 years. is a long time, but the way I see it is God is testing your strength and feelings for eachother! Love conquers all!!

Hey dont listen to any of those heartless fucken bitches. Jesus christ 15 years is a long time, but you have to make the decision urself. Actually listen to them, but let it go in one ear and out the other, because the more people that tell you not to stay with this guy the more ull want to be with him. Fuck the world, you know what you got and you know wats going to be coming back to you. But think on the reality side too, 15 years can take a big toll on someone, it can make them bitter and depressed. Do you want to have to deal with that? Probably yes because you love him... but go with it girl... get back to me and let me know wats up with the situation now...LYLAS I know what your going thru!!!
-Sunshine

Hey girl! Thought i would write back 2 your question because i know how your feeling. My boyfriends been in jail and currently got relesed on tag. Since he has been out its been the best, but the other week when i was at college i recieved a text message saying that he has been locked up. Luckily he got out later that day but we have been talking and its very likley he will go back, he has court this upcoming wednesday. But if you love him like i love my boyfriend you need 2 think and make a choice i am waiting for my boyfriend no matter what but 15 years is a very long time depending how long he does. I hope everything goes well and you make the right decistion. x

IF HE IS IN JAIL !! HELLO HE DOES NOT CARE ABOUT YOU OR ANYBODY ELSE!!
IF you LOVE HIM THEN WAIT FOR HIM REMEMBER you live once!

DId he thought about your happiness before he got himself in trouble! HELLO!!!

WOW..what is he in 4?? but i know what it feels like..im in love with a guy that has done so many things 4 me and i luv him so very much..in my opinion..it would depend on what he did..if it wasnt that bad.. i would wait for him..because true love can last 4ever wherever u are..
good luck and stay strong!!

I understand how you feel all of this is new to me i havebeen with my boyfriend for one year now and he might be facing up to 5 years in jail. I have never felt so stong about a person one day in my life, you stay by his side because he needs you more than anything and i know it is going to be hard but we have to let go and let god! If you really love him then your love for him will get you threw all the tuff times. Yes love does make yo do some crazy things but its those crazy things is what we love so much!!! Be a good women and stay by his side because no matter what I will be by his!!! I wish you the best of luck...

Do not let anyone tell you how you should feel because it comes from your heart not from what someone thinks. My boyfriend went to jail 2 months ago and he has 3 years to serve. It is nothing compared to 15 years though so I cannot say I entirely know how you feel. I lived with my boyfriend for 4 years and we brought the best out in eachother until one day circumstance led us into crime and we have become coaccused meaning legally I am not allowed to even so much as wave at him for 5 years. I believe if what your saying is true then your boyfriend is probobley a good man who just makes bad decisions. It is hard to move on espessially when you dont want too and it is extreamly hard to deal with the time frame in which you have to be apart from him. You should send him letters, visit him if you can. . show your support and share your feelings with him though do not make yourself seem as if you can not go on because if he loves you how you love him he would not want to think that your life is ruined because of him. You should focus on you and do good for yourself so that when that beautifal time comes when you can be with him again then it will be better then ever!! I hope all works out well for you.

my boyfriend just went to jail, and hes going to be in there for a reallly long time. I didnt even get to sy bye to him. I know how you feel girl. I have been an emotional wreck for the past week. just stay stong, and try to think of the best.

look if you love him wait for him, and if he loves you then when his out of jail you'll be the first person he'll think of!! my mum lost her soul when my dad left I know what you're going through... if you love him belive that your love is strong and anything can happen!!! lovage and good luckxx

Honestly hun listen to your heart if my man went back to prison I would still stay by his side no matter what. It shows comitment and loyalty. And people on here jumping to f***ing conclusions is ridiculous he could be in there for being in the wrong place at the wrong time. Girl keep strong and let your man knwo you love him always no matter what he did

15 years is a long time...ask yourself these questions; why is he in prison? can you wait? is it worth it? what are his plans? your answers are the answers of your questions... I've been in jail once for physical injuries which aint my fault(wasn't been there for long) but the few hours I was there life began to turn visibly beautiful and selfish I'm just saying that your boy is an a bad situation and my sympathy goes to him but then again try to weigh things okay? what do you want for your life? and what does he want? Bless you guys good luck!

My ex boyfriend is in jail too. Just stay by his side threw it all go see him as much as possible write send money and pictures dont let him think you forgot about him.

He is not worth it, he is going to probably have sex with other men that is what they all do in there, my brother was in jail and that is what every single one of them did, either they raped someone or got raped, he will probably have aids and you are wasting your life, no future for you or him if you stay, and he will still think you are not being honest with him even if you are 10000 percent faithful, it will never work leave and get out of it as soon as possible

I think it depends what he did.

my boyfriend is in jail too. he was in jail for five months came home for about one and then messed up and now hes back in jail for another six months plus he has to go to an in patient rehab. If he fcks when he comes home though he'll be going to state prison for years. Which I don't want to think about but if it happens I'll still be there for him because he's my best friend and my lover. I've been with him for two years and everyone tells me that it isn't real love and that we won't work because of all the sht we've been through. They don't know the connection we have and if you feel as strongly about your boy as I do about mine then you won't listen to what anyone has to say and you'll do what your heart feels is right. I love my boyfriend and he loves me and we're going to get married someday. No matter what I'll always be there for him. And there's always the chance that your guy will get a deal or get out early on good behavior. But if not you can still visit him once a week. Hear his voice when he calls you now and then and get excited about getting letters from him. It's not the best but it's better than not having him at all.

Wow honey, I cant imagine how you feel...but dont listen to most of these people here, they're so quick to judge you your relationship...If you love him, you'll get through this, it'll be hard, but you will..Just keep hope stay in contact with him...dont stop living your life, live for the both of you guys =] just wish for the best, and I wish you the best =]

-CoCo

GIRL, I WAS FACED WITH THE SAME ISSUE ALL MY MOM MY FRIENDS FAMILY WAS TELLING ME TO LEAVE HIM ALONE LET HIM GO THROUGH THIS ALONE TO MOVE ON WITH MY LIFE NOT LET HIM HOLD ME BACK. I STARTED TO LISTEN TO THEM BUT THEN I THOUGHT ABOUT HOW MUCH I LOVE HIM HOW MUCH HE HAS BEEN THERE FOR ME THROUGH ALL THE HARD TIMES I KNEW HOW MUCH HE NEED ME SO I STAYED BY HIS SIDE BECAUSE I LOVED HIM SO MUCH BECAUSE HE WAS THE GUY THAT I WANTED TO SPEND THE REST OF MY LIFE WITH. HE IS OUT NOW HE'S TRYING TO GET HIS LIFE BACK ON TRACK AND IM STILL BY HIS SIDE HELPING HIM WORKING ON OUR RELATIONSHIP. SO FORGET WHAT EVERYBODY ELSE THINKS FOLLOW YOUR HEART STICK BY HIS SIDE. GOOD LUCK girl !!!

I completely understand what positon you are being faced with. my boyfriend stays in and out of jail CONSTANTLY!!! he recently just f**ked up,hit two police officers,and now he's on the run. I love my boyfriend with all of my heart and I would NEVER EVER leave him no matter what. I know that he's going to be in there for a while but im guna be here for him. you should INDEED stay with him. dont listen to what no one else has to say about it because your choice CONFLICTS on you and him...if you love him and would rather be with him than anyone else STAY WITH HIM. there isnt much that he can do for you while he's in there but thats what bein in a relationship is...its now your TURN to show him how much you love and care about him by being there for him and sticking to his side. TRUST ME...in the end it'll all pay off...and if it helps just think as if he's on a vacation trip when you guys are writing and talking on the phone...it'll probably make you feel a little bit better...so I mean yeah the BEST THING FOR YOU is to follow your heart...stay with him...he will LOVE YOU MUCH MORE for it...G00D LUCK!!!

Well just forget him because he seems to be a freak. I think you should move on and find another person.