My boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me

Hi, I am 34,considered attractive
fit and healthy and have a great life in every other way. My boyfriend
of 18 months proposed to me a year ago and we are planning on marriage
next summer. Thing is, our sex life is almost non existent and if Im
lucky, he mounts me once a fornight for five minutes, rolls of then goes
to sleep leaving me completely unsatisfied. This has been the case from
day one. There has never been any passionate 'at it like rabbits' period
in our relationship.We never talk about sex, joke about sex, he never
touches me outside of our 5 minute fumble. He has never asked me what
turns me on, how I like it or even if I like what he does. Sex is a
taboo for us.
So why have I put up with this. Well firstly, I just
thought that he was a gentleman and didn't want to rush our phyisical
relationship. After 2 months, I confronted him with the issue and have
found myself bringing it up every 8 weeks or so. He has given me these
excuses so far: He's tired (even at weekends and when we went on holiday
to the Algarve for a week - never laid a finger on me.)He doesn't like
condoms (I went on the pill) Im too noisy during sex (Im now silent) Im
too hairy! (I shave EVERYTHING now every day) He feels that he cant
satisfy me (he's never tried)He wasn't raised that way (well my parents
didn't teach me how to be a good lover either)I put pressure on him (I
actually have kept my mouth shut about it for the majority of our
relationship). I have brought hundreds of pounds worth of sexy
underwear, suggested ordering porn of his choice, getting drunk and
seducing him (he told me to go to bed and sleep it off.)pretending not
to be interested (he didnt notice)striptease and even suggested
swinging. (he just presumed that I wanted to sleep with other men - I
didnt then but Im so frustrated, I do now!)
All of these excuses kept
me from addressing the issue and I blamed myself. I now feel unatractive
and insecure and never make a move on him as he has knocked me back once
too often. After 18months of excuses and no change I have begun to lose
patience. this morning we had a row when I cuddled up to him in bed and
he pushed me away - the final insult. I told him that I was tired of it
and asked him to leave and to be honest, I feel relieved and dont want
him back as much as I adore him. The only way I would consisder taking
him back would be if he sought proffesional guidance. If he can't be
bothered to make that call then I cant be bothered to put up with this
crap. Am I making the right decision? I would really love some advice from those who have been there. In fact, I'll take advice from anyone.

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) What I wonder is that you have not had sex with some other males during this very busy time trying to seduce your b/f such fantastic ways you wrote. Some males are simply lazy to make a real hard sex, even not with Pamela Anderson. These males can be very good husbands and all the stuff but their wifes usually find an other male for sex. Time to time this is the guaranty of the good marriage.

He may be gay or have some problem with his manhood that he doesn't want you to know. But why do you want sex with somebody outside marriage it is not a good practice my dear.

I want to know what this girl did! I hope that she was able to overcome the problem with this man that she adores! However, if he is not willing to discuss and work on any issues that she is having, he is not ready for a mature relationship. He may be insecure, or even gay, but he cannot allow her to feel unwanted and undesirable because of it.