My boyfriend ditches me for drugs

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 9 months. We both love each other very much and are together all the time. We spend weeknights and weekends together, but the problem is that he doesn't have a curfew because he's 18, im still 16, so he can still go out and see his friends when I go home at 11:00. I, on the other hand don't have much time for my friends, but honestly that doesn't bother me much because I enjoy being around my boyfriend. But the one thing that really bothers me is when he makes me go home after being over for like 30 minutes, or not do anything at all, and he'll go buy drugs with one of his friends. He doesn't understand why that upsets me. I feel like something he shouldn't even be involved with, is a priority over me. He will say, "I don't understand why you're so mad, we do something every night!" Granted, I do drugs myself on ocassion, but I've never ditched him to do it. In fact, he gets really upset when I smoke and drink, but yet it's OK for him to do it!? It makes me feel like crap and puts me in a bad mood. I don't really argue with him: It's more the silent treatment. I guess I don't feel like I have a good argument, because we DO spend every night together... Do you agree that I should feel upset about this...what should I do?

You should definitely be upset. Tell him that if he really loves you, he will quit the drugs and get into rehab. Any guy who would put drugs ahead of you doesn't really love you. I don't know if you are addicted to drugs also, but you mentioned that you do them periodically as well. Perhaps you could get help together. I know this is probably not what you wanted to hear and you probably won't listen to my advice with an open mind, but I just don't see how drugs are any benefit to a person. Look at the costs versus the rewards drugs give. Sure, you feel good for a temporary high. I really don't see any rewards besides that. Drugs cost a lot of money, carry a myriad of health risks, destroy a person's ability to concentrate, and, besides all that, they are illegal. Being found with drugs could cost you your job, you could get kicked out of school, or you could even wind up in jail. I know you've probably heard all this before. I'm 19, and through high school I saw a lot of people on drugs. I'm not saying it destroyed every one of their lives, but for some, it did. I can't think of a single person in which drugs helped them succeed.

Best of luck to you!

well I had a boy friend that would do drugs also and I didn't like that about him because I knew that if my parent's knew that he did drugs they would not let me get with him. well were going around behind their back but my bro told my parents and they decided to let us stay 2gether and one day I wanted him to go out with me but he decided to stay with his friends to smoke. I remember I got mad because I really wanted him to go with me, well a few days later we started arguing about why he smokes and I told him that if he really loved me he would stop smoking and I told him that I would not talk to him until he make his mind it was either me or his drugs and eventhough I loved him and I wanted him to stop for me he didn't. then one day he told me that he decided to keep smoking and it hurt to see him go I didn't wanted to continue that relationship because the drugs would always b between us but in the end he wanted to get with me and he said he would stop but it was too late because I had found someone that would put me first instead of other things. if he really loves you he'll stop if not let him go.
good luck

I was in the same situation once about 2 years ago when I was on drugs, nowadays it just my boyfriend that some it and I hardly see him becuase it, bit when he comes home at night I explanin to him how am feeling and that I want to spend some time together without his mates. (he sometimes understand)

just sit down with your fella and explain to him that even though you some it yourself you want at least one night a week where it just you and him together, and ask him why he ditched you after you get the time to come round and see him. if he doesnt answer you, just you do it to him one night and see how he likes it.

Sooo basically he thinks he can do whatever he wants, and doesn't care about how you feel about it, but then your not allowed to do anything at all. hm, that was sort of how it was w/ me and my husband now. He use to lie to me saying that he was working w/ his grandfather when really he was out smoking pot. I thought I was going to kill him when I found out. After time, I told him that if he can smoke it, I can smoke it. Really I was against it (b/c of how I was raised) but then one day when he was suppose to come over, he didn't. I went out looking for him and found him w/ one of his friends smoking. I was just so mad at him, I grabbed the blunt out of his hand, lit it and started smoking it. Then I ran out of the room w/ it, smoking it in anger, and found my self calmly starting to cool down, when I noticed his entire blunt was gone, I stood up and felt completely different. I felt powerful and happy, also stupid for making a big deal about it. He didn't want me smoking either though, and after that he is more opened w/ me and quit lying. My husband told me it was b/c he didn't want me to get hurt or want other drugs (which I experimented w/ later and hated) b/c he said pot can open up doors for other drugs (Sadly, again he was right). Just talk to him and let him know how you feel, let him know that you care about him, but if he's going to treat you that way than your gone. Saying that will be hard, but I've found my self saying that a few times. And it sucked. I hated seeing him cry and I hate crying too. Good luck, I hope everything works out w/ yall. God bless

I think you really should tell him, (if you haven't by now) and I think he gets mad when you do it because he doesnt want you to mess up your life. I AM NOT SAYING YOUR LIFE IS MESSED UP OR HIS. im just saying with drugs it can happen, trust me I know someone who is18, only a junior in high school, and is going 2 jail.

talking to him about it is the only way really, just dont aske him to choose between you or the drugs because thats not fair at all. hopefully you meant just weed cus if its anythign else than you should probably consider not being with him. weed is one thing girls tend to overeact about. the fact that he spends everynight with you is a good thing, and sometimes us guys like to just chill with our friends sometimes.

WELLL, If I had a boyfriend like that [ which I did ] I would have broke up with him sooo quick.

Im not down with drugs and stuff like that so I would'nt be with him for longg.

my boyfriend use to do the same thing with me ditchin me for drugs so I got rid of him