My boyfriend and i seem to be growing apart.

he makes decisions without including me...like he is on his own. it wasn#039;t always this way. we have been together for almost two yrs, living together for a yr and a 1/2. when he has free time he doesn#039;t try to make it quot;wequot; time. we...

may both have the same day off, rare, and he does what he wants. i try fit in, when it is good for him. i never hear him say quot;hey, what shall WE doquot;? he will make plans with his friends when he has free time and will tell me quot;you can join, you know thatquot;. well, as much as i like the friends, i#039;d like to have time to ourselves. his friends will live without him. people in relationships do boyfriend- girlfriend stuff...we never do. he also is shortfused anymore, so when i address this issue @ times, he is mad and says i bitch. that is no way to help the situation. i am lost, i have tried...what to do now?

emme

There are some questions I would ask you if we were talking in person. Such as,
*1. have you talked to him about this? Not during a fight, but outside of one.
*2. Have you told him you#039;d make plans for the two of you for one of your days off? If so, did he turn you down or go with you?
*3. Have you usually gone along with what he wants, but don#039;t like it and don#039;t tell him?

Each of those questions would play out a slightly different question. For example.
*1. You need to calmly talk to him about this and a compromise might be made. If you#039;ve talked to him already and he doesn#039;t care--then you need to ask yourself why you are with a guy who discards how you feel, especially if you are not asking for quot;be with me everyday off,quot; but a compromised, quot;Day for you, day for usquot; plan.
*2. Same as above, after you#039;ve told somebody who supposedly cares about you, how you feel, if he acts like he doesn#039;t care how you feel--maybe he doesn#039;t.
*3. If you silently set this situation up by always going and doing what he wanted, why would he want that to change? You gave and gave and gave [silently] and now you feel used. But you placed yourself in that position. Change can be made, but he#039;s had his way most of the time and will be resistant. But if he truly cares he will.

Lastly, a relationship IS going to change after 2 1/2 days together. The honeymoon stage is the time that makes a bond that can help you move into the deeper love stage. So don#039;t expect #039;honeymoon#039; behavior to continue forever. And you need to find your own interests also. There should be some spaces in your togetherness as it makes you both more interesting when you get together. He fell in love with an individual.

So talk, compromise, and weigh your options.

Blessings and good luck