My boyfriend's brother verbally harasses me

I am 16 and I have been dating Al for three months. We are a normal couple he is a typical guy and I am the girl who wants him to respect me and so we take it slowly. We have a generally awesome relationship. His brother, Joe, everyday comes up to me...

grabs my neck as so I cannot wrench myself away and says this to the effect of quot;God made a fucking mistake of putting you on the earth and you are worth nothing and you are nothing but a waste. You suck at everything you do and you deserve to die.quot; Why would someone say that? I have never been mean in any way to him. He told Al that I am really smart and I act like a ditz, I laugh too much and I am really annoying, and that I don#039;t know when to stop talking. That I his reason for hating me. Why can#039;t he just ignore me if he hates me so much. My mom says he is flirting with me but I am not dumb or naAtilde;macr;ve and I know he is not flirting. I asked him why he is such an asshole to me and he says because he likes it? I just don#039;t get it. He knows it gets to me but I always try to be nice and say whatever Joe but he keeps on. My mom say that I will never be sorry I was nice but he just won#039;t stop and it has gotten to the point where I come home and cry at night. Also, my big brother won#039;t take up for me he only makes it worse and he says I should take up for myself, but I have tried. My boyfriend tries to take up for me and we try to avoid him at all costs. Al says that I shouldn#039;t let Joe get to me. I am sure some people may think I am being emotional but I am being a human girl. I think I deserve to not be treated this way. I know that I am not worthless but when Joe says that to me everyday its kind of hard to not believe it. I don#039;t want to make a scene I just want Joe to stop. I know I could never ruin the brother relationship, which is why I am not making a scene with Al about it. I just want to know an effective way to make Joe stop verbally harassing me all the time.

He does sound really rude and you have a right to be upset. No one should say those things to anyone for ANY reason. I would ask him how he would feel if you committed suicide from the things he says(he#039;d feel guilty right?). And explain to him that what he says is very hurtful and upsets you. If he comes back with some smartass answer tell him he#039;s sadistic and needs some REAL counseling(truthfully!). It is pretty sad that a guy would have to talk down a girl to make himself feel better. (I bet your bf#039;s brother doesn#039;t have a gf!) I would tell your BF that if his brother keeps this up you won#039;t be going to his house anymore and maybe your bf and his brother can work it out to make him stop. I can#039;t believe no one is stepping in for you. You have to make an ultimatum on where you stand and that the verbal abuse has to stop.

IF UR MOM IS SAYING THAT HES FLIRTING SHE NEEDS SOME HELP IF MY MOM FOUND OUT SOME 1 WAS DOING THAT TO ME SHE CALL THE POLICE OR KICK HIS ASS HER SELF

well basically, this guys not evil, he prolly thinks u r takin his brother away from him and wants him back and thinks that this is a way to do that. just let him no that ure not doing that

well maybe u need to start taking matter into your own hands Ex.If he would try to grab me by my neck srry to say this but i would kick him where the sun dont shine dont let him take control just dont kill him plz give him a slap on the face and if he is gonna hurt you im sure your mom well help you the rest of the way just dont bring yourself down keep your head up EX. Never let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game good luck!!!

Hes not flirting with you and your boyfriend should do something about his brother if he wont he isnt worth dateing u