My boyfriend's mom doesn't want us together

Hello everyone...This may sound like other questions being asked here but it's more complicated than it seems...my name is Vigilia and I'm with my boy friend, JD since Sept 2005. We've grown to love eachother to death and we've already decided to get...

married in the future. JD is a wonderful man and he's perfect for me. The problem here is that his mom doesn't want us together and she is black mailing him by telling him that she will disown him and keep him away from a large amount of money that his father left them when he died. She has a lame reason for not accepting me and is becoz she thinks she'll lose her 3 sons this way...she went through a nervous breakdown when JD's father died suddenly 18 years back. JD has a good job in a bank and I'm working and studying for the final year of my Bachelor degree. He's 25 and he's drawing quite a good salary and it will surely increase in time, whereas, I've just started my career as I'm only 21, but I'm surely going to draw a good salary in the future becoz of my education. there's so much to say about this situation. My family and my extended family love him and he comes to visit me in the evenings at my place and on Sundays we spend the whole day together. My dad is very strict and JD is the only boy he's ever accepted..I've never been in a proper relationship before and the same goes for JD. As I was saying..my dad is pretty strict and he's been patient so far with the fact that JD's mother hasn't accepted me yet..when he first found out he stopped me from seeing JD becoz he didn't want my heart broken..but when he saw that I couldn't do with him he agreed to let us be together only if JD promised to convince his mother in the future. Another condition my dad put forward is that JD and I can't go out freely like a couple usually does unless his mother accepts me..I've never been allowed to go out much even before I met JD so it has become very frustrating, sad and depressing to see other couples enjoying themselves by going out and being a part of a big group..while both of us are only allowed to meet at my place...
JD desperately wants to marry me but he wants to wait till his father's money matures as it is put away in the bank..he wants to wait till his mother finally gives him his share of the money so that we can start our lives comfortably without struggling with finances..He really wants to give me everything..he loves me so much. We always talk about marriage infact we've already chosen names for our kids!! but the things is everytime I ask him how long it will take he tells me that we need to wait for another 2-3 years...n I'm getting so frustrated because I want get married to him soon by next year...I know you guys are probably thinking I'm young and I don't know what I'm talking about..but believe me I do..u guys don't know how much I'm longing to start a life with him, to get that freedom to do everything we want to together...I've always wanted to get married early..it's been a fantasy ever since I've known what a marriage is..n I know it isn't easy but I'm willing to take that step because I know nothing can come between us..
whereas the financial part is concerned, it won't be a problem..I told him that we don't have 2 buy a house..we can rent one till we have the money to buy one.. I told him we don't need the money his mother is blackmailing with...God will provide us with everything we need...I don't want a big fancy wedding..all I want is to be with him..be his wife...We can't keep on waiting..we have to deal with this now...it really saddens me to think that his mother doesn't even know me, she hasn't even met me but she's been rejecting me for no reason...it really hurts to hear my friends talk about how their boyfriend's parents love them...I wish it could be that way with me 2...I still don't have anything against his mother..all I want is her love and acceptance..

well...that's all I can say to sum up this situation...I'm feelin so down right now..I'm going to talk to him seriously today and I hope he understands me...I'll never leave him no matter what because in my heart he's already my husband and I'll never stop loving him...I know he feels the same way 2...i’ve been trying to avoid this for too long but it’ eating me up and I can’t avoid it any longer...please say something that will help me...i’m so sad..

ok as far as I can tell you have a pretty anoying situation...
I think you should just say screw his mother and get married, or threten that she wont be able to see her grandson/daughters and just that she wont be a part of your new life at all. if she loves her son a lot then the fact that he is sad about not being with you would do something so just try to make it obvious to her that he is sad about it. if worse comes to worse I would just go to vegas and get married they do cheap weadings. it wont be all beutifull and amazingly dreamy but he will be your husband and you will be his wife. that would work if you really think you would be financially set. but remmember this may take some time so you have to be patient. I would say if you get to a point where you cant stand not being married just do the vegas thing.. I really hope this helps and you live a happy life with JD. please funmail me , I want to know how it turnes out best of luck and may god be with you