My boy friend wants to have sex but im not ready

WELL ME AND MY BOY FRIEND MIKE HAVE BEEN GOING OUT FOR ABOUT 1 YEAR BUT HE TOLD ME THAT HE IS READY TO HAVE SEX BUT I DONT FEEL LIKE IM READY AND I CARE FOR MIKE AND I DONT WANT HIM TO LEAVE ME AND IM ONLY 17 YEARS OLD AND IM SO CONFUSED MY MOTHER DIDNT LOOSE HER VIRGINITY INTO SHE WAS MARRIED AND SHE WANTS THE SAME FOR ME BUT I DONT REALLY KNOW WHAT I WANT YET OUT OF LIFE SO ME AND MIKE WAS AT HIS HOUSE ALONE ONE NIGHT WE IN HIS ROOM PLAYING CHEST AND IT WAS GETTING LATE SO I TOLD HIM I WAS GOING HOME SO HE KISSED ME GOODBYE AND THEN HE STARTED KISSING ME EVEN MORE HE KISSED MY NECK AND HIS HAND ARE STARTING TO GO UNDER MY DRESS SO I STOPPED HIM TOLD IM NOT READY FOR ALL THIS AND TOLD HIM WHAT WAS ON MY MIND AND HE TOLD ME IF I WONT GIVE IT UP HE WILL FIND A GIRL THAT WILL SO WE BROKE UP AND GOT INTO A FIGHT I REALLY want to CALL MIKE AND JUST GO FOR IT BECAUSE I DONT want to LOOSE HIM AND I SEEN HIM WALKING WITH SOME GIRL AT SHCOOL TODAY I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO CAN YALL JUST HELP ME AND TELL ME WHAT TO DO IM REALLY CINFUSED

Look, any guy who's not willing to wait until you are ready is not worth it.

If he truly loved you, he'd wait. I know it is tough to let him go, but you must.

No one who loved you would try to force you into something you don't want to do. That's not love, that's lust.

By dating you for a year, he obviously feels that you owe it to him to lose your virginity with him. You don't owe him anything.

It is vital to make a stand on this issue. If you give in to his pressure, he will in a sense own you, and will then feel he can get away with anything, cause you will always take him back.

If he is truly a good guy and worth your affection, he will realize he was wrong. If not, he isn't worth the time anyway. There are plenty of people on this earth, you'll find someone who will treat you with respect and dignity.

Take a strong stand. Don't let another person force you into something you don't feel comfortable doing. In the end, you will be a happier person.

Because if you can't get others to respect you, how can you respect yourself?

You answered this question yourself by saying, "I'm not ready." A part of you knows that giving in to his demands would be a mistake--and then you would really feel terrible. Your first time should be a wonderful experience of total trust and giving, not emotional blackmail. Right now he's trying to make you jealous by hanging out with a new girl. And that hurts, but it is not terminal. Get busy--go out with girlfriends you haven't seen for a while. Do the things you couldn't do when you were a two-some. Maybe he'll come around. Maybe he won't. But he WILL respect you for believing in yourself. Be kind to yourself during this time. Blessings

IM NOT GOING TO GIVE INTO MY EX-BOYFRIEND DEMANDS YALL WORDS REALLY TOUCHED ME NOW I TRYING TO GET MY LIFE BACK ON TRACK IM DOING GOOD IN SHCOOL AND IM GOING TO TRY AND KEEP MY MIND OFF MIKE BY HANGING OUT WITH MY GIRL FRIENDS AND GOING TO SHCOOL AND WORK BUT I REALLY want to CALL HIM BUT IM TRYING NOT TO BY KEEPING MY MIND BUSY

suggestion- ask him if you are worth waiting for...(either till marriage or until you are ready...) if he says no, then it wasnt ment to be, but if he says yes, then suggest trying things over again

ANY guy that says something so unsensitive as "if you dont give it up then ill find some other girl.." doesnt desirve your viginity. Dont make a stupid mistake buy having sex with him when its obvious that he doesnt care for you and would dump you in a second if you dont give it up.

well if he loves you he wouldn't have a girl just so he can screw that right there is not love thats use you need to find a guy that will wait a guy that wants that part of life to b perfect win that moment comes it will b perfect and then youll see what your ex missed look for that guy that will wait until your ready thats the kinda of guys that are special just look and find Good Luck!!!

I agree with lagrandellama he isnt worth it sweetie. you'll find someone better who will respect your wishes. if he cant accept the fact that you arent ready you shouldnt be wasteing your time. he'll come running back in the end because you were the girl who WOULDNT give it up. let him go hun..I know its hard but its for the best. good luck.

if you are not shore don't do it till you are shore trist me. Cuse if you do there is no terning back but if you don't you could still do it any time. remember ONLY ONE IS REVERSABLE!!!