Am I being selfish or too needy?

ok I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years already and he has broken my heart a lot in the past 4 things like lieing 2 not be with me anymore talking 2 other girls on myspace while being with me not treating me right. And as much as I love him I left him because I told myself that he had changed he stopped being that sweet caring guy who loved me so much. But I guess you only know what you had untill you loose it right? so he came after me those 2 times that we broke up. Know he is kinda being sweeter I guess wanting 2 be with me and sending me text msgs saying he loves me but I really love him but I just can't trust him how I used 2 he changed a lot. He's a baseball player and baseball has always been between us I undersand that is he's passion and he loves it but that's all he does we hardly talk 2 eachother I kinda see he's trying to spend time with me but I just wish e could be like any boyfriend someone I could go out with I m an only child so sometimes I feel really lonely and sad it makes me cry because it hurts . and sometimes he's sweet and everything but I asked him if he wanted 2 go 2 the movies with me and he said he oculdn't because he had 2 go 2 the gym things he does hurts me a lot makes me think that he doesn't love me and gets me confused I've tried explaining 2 him how I want him 2 treat me and the way I feel and what I need but he says that he can't put all his time 2 me and that im selfish. look today he had a tournament and is 12:00 am and he hasn't even called or text please help me! I need some advice Im sorry if this was 2 long but I really don't know what 2 do I feel really sad and lonely thank you!

I dont think you are being selfish, I think he is. and im not just saying that because im a girl. I beleive that everyone has to make their own sacrafices in a relationship. if you dont think he treats you right then I dont think you should be with him. women have so much to offer and men do to but if he cant see what you have to offer and he goes to the gym instead of hanging out with you it seems to me that he is taking advantage of what he has. it is the hardest thing in the world to leave someone you think you love but sometimes its the only thing you can do. if you dont think he treats you right there is always someone out there that will treat you better.

he doesn't really sound like a good boyfriend and he sounds a bit selfish but if you love someone you should love the good and the bad. you need to think about if you really love him or if you just don't want to be alone.. you shouldn't be with someone just to be with someone. If that makes any sense..
But if you really do love him even with the bad then you could try to do something that he already has planed to do with him. LIke you said he was going to the gym you could tag along and help or work out with him. and as for the baseball thing you could go along and cheer him on. Suport him like you would want him to do to you.
You sometimes have to work harder if you really want it to work out.

First you need to understand that there is a distinct difference between love and attachment; and unfortunately, most of what we call 'love' is really 'attachment'.
Loving someone means that you love the uniqueness of that person. You can love your partner and want to see him or her thrive, enjoy and grow. You want to see your loved one become authentic, no matter what that entails. Thats the truth of love. It is what we would call unconditional love.

Attachment is quite different. You want to make your partner conform to a preconceived idea of who and what you think he or she should be. Attachment is not caring for the other so much as it is care for yourself. If you're in a relationship based on attachment, you will experience the hurt and pain of jealousy frequently. There is also a difference between, commitment and possession. The truth is that you are not in a loving relationship if you think that you must possess the other person. You cannot make a person love you.

If you love someone, go deep into your own unique experience of what love is and open your heart and mind to allow love to grow. You do not need to experience jealousy. You do not need to control another, and you do not need to be afraid.

*GOOD RELATIONSHIPS*
A good relationship is one where intimacy develops slowly from a friendship to a commitment
A good relationship is one that is based on a commitment. You feel secure about the future of the relationship.
A good relationship is one where two people maintain an enthusiasm about the other’s hobbies, work, and friends.
A good relationship is one where each partner has a circle of friends and interests outside the relationship.
A good relationship is one where two individuals can resolve conflict in a peaceful and calm manner.
A good relationship is one where two people do not need each other.

*A good relationship is based on trust, love, and faith, self-control and sharing. When one partner is giving more than the other partner this is not love. When one partner trusts that his or her partner is faithful and the partner is out spreading it around like the plague then someone is going to get hurt.*

Everyone, no matter who they are..must take responsibility for their own happiness, through making the best and most ethical choices, in their own lives. So many guys/girls fall into a trap where they seem to seek an 'identity' through attachment to another person.

And when the relationship goes awry..because their partner is treating them horribly, they get confused, needy and lost. This is you right now. You are likely feeling this way because perhaps, you are putting too much of your inner worth & self-esteem on the mere existance of this relationship and this guy in your life. This is what is becoming the constant emotional drain on you, is you are allowing yourself to tolerate his uncaring behavior and it's just making your personal 'nothingness' even worse.
Working, exercising, seeing other friends, taking on more interests and hobbies will help you build up your emotional strength and self-value. But realize hun, this guy is dragging you down and it sounds 'like the writing is on the wall'..let this relationship go before it drags you under even further. You are so much more worth it. Keep believing more in yourself and know..no one deserves to be treated this way. Get out there and live, enjoy life and find a happier you.

In all relationships, we should never expect a boyfriend to provide us 'with a life', emotionally-thats unrealistic and unfair to him because its not his job to do so. Before you take on a partner, you should already have a meaningful life of your own, in place. Have less expectations of others and more expectations' for yourself and never use relationships as a substitute for fullfillment & inner happiness. You should have that in place before entering into any love relationships!