How can i get my boyfriend to stop hurting me with bondage?

He has already manage to fracture my wrist and break my collor bone. Now to me the answer is obvious. Tell him to stop immediately, where as friends of mine think that would be selfish ... What should I do about it?

Bondage is one thing...
But breaking bones is another...
Speak to him about it...if he refuses to change...get the hell out of there...

if youre thinkin its obvious, then yeah its obvious to all of us too.

Have you expressed your dislike for bondage and explained how much pain you've experienced as a result of it? It's actually abuse if you don't enjoy it. The answer is obvious. ULTIMATELY, HE IS BEING SELFISH if he is aware of the injuries you've incurred and still insists upon it. He is being selfish if he is the only one finding it pleasurable. If you haven't expressed your concerns, you need to ASAP. If you don't want to eliminate bondage completely from your relationship, ask him to tone it down and not to use so much force. There surely must be other forms of pleasure you can both enjoy. If he respects and cares for your well-being, he'll stop hurting you. It's simple. You've already suffered a fractured wrist. More injuries are to come if you decide to stay with him and continue to participate. Your friends are full of it. How can they call you selfish? You need to do what is best for you and your well being...and bondage isn't the answer. That would be like telling a battered woman to stay with a wife beater...Your friends should honestly be more supportive and concerned for you. Those don't sound like great friends to me. In addition, they sound like friends with self-esteem issues if they'd submit to pain just to make their boyfriends happy. He's undeserving of you if he fails to understand you. Follow your intuition..you know what to do. Good luck!

wow..that must of hert...thats a bad abuse

FIND A REAL MAN , THATS SO DEADLY S*X GAME TO DO ,. THATS WHY A LOT OF GIRLS AND / OR GUYS IN A RELATIONSHIP ARE FOUND DECEASED..

wow ive never heard of bondage ??? i would just call it beating each other !!! ...that kind of play is not bondage at all its more like a death game not cool people die cuz of that ...mssv

As long as you enjoy bondage, just get better at it. Bondage is a fetish where you enjoy being bound, not hurt. If he's breaking bones, it's because he doesn't know what he's doing.

The friends who said it would be selfish to stop him are idiots.

If you're not into it, and he is breaking your bones, I would suggest getting out of the relationship altogether. He sounds dangerous and abusive. Bondage is not about abusing an unwilling partner.

Call the cops on HIM

a REAL man has no reason to strike a woman. . . . And love will not harm you. Sounds like you got a poor excuse for a guy. . Dump him. .
If your friend say your being selfish tell them they are welcome to him.
Go find a real man that treats a Lady as such Your young and pretty. . . Go break some hearts and pick what you want.
Bondage is a poor excuse for a loving relationship.

I think you shoudl try and talk to him about how much it is hurting you.. even though he should already know. This may sound a bit embarrassing, but maybe it would be a good idea to talk to your parents, and get a restraining order put on him... He doesn't sound like his brain is too heathy... find a way out, cause in the end, you could be seriously hurt or even worse. Good luck. Fun Mail me when you've done something about it.

bondage can be used to heighten experiences and to show love, and should not be used to inflict pain or abuse.

If he broke your bones once, shame on him. If he did it twice, shame on you!

It sounds to me like it's time for a new bf, one who treats you right.