My best friend wants to go out of state to meet her "true love"!

yes, my best friend wants to go to ***** to meet her boyfriend. I have never met him because he was only in america for like 2 months. My friend says that he paid half of the airplaine ticket so now all she has to do is to pay the other half. im so happy for her that she's going to meet her boyfriend which she so adorely loves but,.... the thing that's been bothering me is, is that it's been 7 months since they've seen each other. they keep in touch on the phone and stuff but... I mean, I think that, that's just not enough to keep a relationship going. She's also saying that she's planning to stay there for 7 months to go to school there because she dosen't like the city we live in.

Here's some background info ===
My friend is a hot sexy latino girl w/ like the "perfect" body that about... 99% of the guys she meets falls for her.AND THAT'S WHY IM SO WORRIED BECAUSE SOMETIMES SHE GETS "BLINDED " AND CONFUSED BY ALL THAT ATTENTION SHE'S GETTING!!! I don't know how to tell her that most likely they're after her body and not for her. I mean, don't get me wrong~ she has a great slapping personality but... looking at guys she date from a third person point of view, I think she can do better. I tried to tell her this but she always comes up with some come backs that gives good points and makes me shut up. agh!

well, back to the situation ===
she showed me a picture of this guy and he's not that bad looking. if I think he's ok looking, then so will other girls~. if it's been that long since they met, it's not surprising that he cheated on her.
another reason why she claims to want to go there is, to get over that loving feeling that still aches, from her ex-boyfriend who moved to some far away city. I am so confused about why she still keeps in touch with him. they use to fight A LOT and I don't blame her for that because her ex- is such a jerk off !!! and he cheated on her too with one of her "friends" (which I don't know and never met before) well, I guess~ it's because she lost her virginity with him. grrrr~ I don't know what to tell her anymore to make her not go~
she's going to ***** to meet her boyfriend on june the 6th and so I hope to hear from you people before then~ thanks* byee~~

My advice would be to let her live out the mistake, and make sure that you are there to help her get on with it after the eventual break up

Unfortunately, permanent long distance relationships don't really work - but, if she moves to see him that is a prett strong commitment.

>>>re: your point about him being good looking

Just because a guy is 'good looking' doesn't mean he will even have a *small* chance to cheat. Aside from that, to many men (myself included) the very idea of cheating is apalling - it violates the trust that I believe is a part of the foundation of love that is sure to last.

I digress, though. What YOU need to do, is to get a love life of your own as well

If you had that, perhaps you would be here asking how to make that better or ~best case scenario~ you'd have a perfect, blissful relationship and would be consumed by that. (only kidding)

Good luck with your friend, and above all, let her know you are there for her if & when things crash down. Perhaps next time, she'll listen to you?

I know that you really care about your best friend, but in this case I think you should let her do what she wants. It sounds to me like most of your concerns are idle, and you are just looking for excuses for her not to go. Could it be that you are a little bit jealous of her foreign hottie?

dear happyexcited... & funnyman:
thanx for your suggestions. Yea I guess I should let her be but just to tell you, I've done that before. it's just that this time, I can't be there to help her since she's going to be somewhere far far away~ (like not in the U.S. far away~) I feel so bad for her because her life is sorta messed up and she dosen't really have anyone to help her out, or a shoulder to lean on except me. ( let's just leave it at that)
nO! it's not that im jealous because although she is appealing to guys, the ones who come and ask her out are just piles of jerks. And she cries about that too. sometimes I don't know what to tell her since she keeps going out with the same type of guys=jerks all the time. she says that they like her for her personality but looking from a third person point of view, I can see he's an ass behind her back.
I don't have anything to be jealous of because everytime I get into a relationship, it lasts for a long time (my last one lasted for 2 years). while hers lasts for a couple of months.
bottom line--------
im just so very worried for her and I just don't want her to get into 'trouble' over there because she has here, many many times. so yeah I guess that's it.

THANK YOU SO MUCH REALLY~
I'll take your advice you guys about being there when she needs me, as usual~ . But I don't plan to start a relationship of my own soon because I don't want to ask anyone out. im going to let nature take it's course and wait for someone to ask me out. (it won't be long till someone does tho... haha just kiddn&#039 ok then bye bye~

Look your friend souns like my friend. I care a lot about her and im a guy but being a guy I can see right through other guys all they are after is sex thts all. Your friend likely wont listen to you if you tell her to not go yet so you have to help her through it she has to see her mistake but make sure its not an I told you so thing. make sure you say I didnt want it to be this way but I guess it has to.