My best friend is changing.

Okay so, whenever your life would go wrong, you'd go to your best friend right? Well my life had problems and whenever I needed a shoulder to cry on, my best friend would always be there. And I've told her all the secrets about my life, and she's always listened and supported me. And whenever I needed her, she was always there, and I've been really grateful for that. I helped her, she helped me. It was a balanced friendship.

But lately I feel like she's changing... I notice it in her fashion, her friends, and most of all her attitude. She's been trying to be "cool" like and we're on the same bus for school. And so our bus came to a stop because there were some "technical issues", I cracked a stupid joke when I was hyped up and said, "What if the bus started moving and all of a sudden we crashed into something else?"

Then she says, "That'd be cool."

And I'm telling her wth, because if it crashed a lot of kids could've got hurt or even killed, and she just keeps telling me that it's COOL if people get hurt and die. And really now... This isn't what the best friend I knew would say. And after that conversation I began to realize that it soon became a onesided friendship, and I was the one that started every conversation. She didn't tell me anything anymore, she wouldn't talk to me about anything, and whenever I told her to read my new stories, she'd usually be really excited, but lately she'd look annoyed at me. Like we're in a cluster of friends and we hang out all the time, but lately she doesn't show. And I don't know what's happening, she won't talk to me unless I'm the one who talks first. And I have no idea what to do... Because she's the person who knows every detail of my life, the person that I trusted, the person who used to be so innocent and kind. And yet now she's turning into something that she used to be against. And lately I don't feel like talking to her, it's as if she thinks she's better then me now. And she won't even try talking to me, it's like I'm always the one who has to come up to her, and I'm really sick of it. Like I'm the only one who cares that she's changing. And I really don't know what to do.

Should I keep trying to close the gap and be her friend? Or should I just stop my efforts?

Growing up is hard, and people change. That's just how it is. It sounds like your friend is just tyring to fit in or to find herself.
All you can do is invite her over to your house one day and sit down and talk to her. Explain the way you feel and tell her that you feel like your losing your best friend. If she's a true friend, she will put more effort into the friendship again. If she doesn't than all you can do is let her have her space and find herself.

I had the same situtation girl. man just completely ignore her you don't need her what the f*ck. yes I know you guys knew eachother but you C people change and they don't stay the same ya know. rite now shes showin you that shes gettn older and shes much mature and naw mo kid stuff. let her come ta ya not you that you are comin 2 her that means your showin that your weak and don't DO that. but hang in there don't trip she isnt going to tell youre secrets if you think so then why dint she did it already??? C thats the point she still lovez ya as a friend but has a hard time showin it. GOOD LUCK

Keeping a friendship is really hard when you know that the person you knew is no longer there. So I think you should talk to her and tell her how you feel. If you have no worries on losing her just get another friend. Or at least try to make new friends, the type that you would like as a friend. I hope you get your bestfriend back and that my advice comes to some help to you... Good Luck

I agree with mandyloo the most...and I am going through a very similar thing. I would suggest that you leave it for a bit, give her some space, maybe some thing is going on with her that is deeper then you think? -after you give her some time I would invite her over, or go for a walk and talk things out. ask her whats going on. tell her how you feel like your the only one trying to make this friendship work. let her know that you miss how things used to be, and that you will still be there for her no matter what... people change, and friends grow apart.. its just part of life I dont think that you should try to force anything. I know its hard but for now just leave it, maybe things will pan out on there own (for the better HOPEfully)
anyways.. good luck =)

Do you have an pictures, videos, anything to remind her of how you guys used to be? A friendship diary, anything like that? If you do, they invite her over one day, act normal, then bring out all the stuff and go through it... bring up old memories. Then talk to her, tell her what you feel and see what happens from there.

that sucks...lol bad advice

but thats a part of growing up
even if this doesnt have much to do with your personal changes, this must be happening for a reason
I don't know maybe you should just try talking to her about it first before making any rash decisions