My 12 yr old sister is being called a slut

My 12 year old sister is sleeping round with so many guys in my town like I dont mean 5-10 I mean 40-60 guys and there a lot older then her! range from 16- 21 how do I explain to her that this is wrong she has a real bad name now and people are calling her a slut and im bashin everyone for her when they bad mouth her I dont know how to let her know this is a wrong thing to do expecially at her age. she comes home telling me how old the guy was how she did it and everything im scared for her what do I do! her mother is a dumb mole and wont do anything bout it and she runs away all the time for months on end im scared for her she comes to me crying with cuts on her wrists and everything is she useing sex to mend her pain?

tell her to picture her future from now and how her life is going to be like, she needs some self-help

thats sad tell her how much you care and how the guys shes been with dont care bout her their just using her

your sister is messed up...and really needs help...REALLY needs help
not only can she get pregnant but she probably has more than 1 std if she isnt using a condom
12 is too young to be having sex, especially sleeping around with older people
those older people can be charged with statutory rape
because shes too young...thos men can be charged with rape
even if she was the one consenting to it
...and thats wrong...its also wrong that a 21 year old would want to sleep with a 12 year old
so not only does she need help but shes been sleeping with perverts
...id say she has emotional problems, that she thinks no one understands
she could also be doing it to rebel, or because everyone else seems to bei doing it...or to be cool
...and because shes cutting this makes it worse
she has problems that she thinks no one will understand
so she cuts to release that pain
get her some help...she really needs it
her life and health are at risk
perhaps even have a seriouse conversation with her mum...MAKE her mum see whats going on
and that to fix this...they both need some help
or get her to talk to some friends, counsellors, teachers...somtone
...you shouldnt bash other kids who are calling her a slut
...when someone sleeps with lots of people...just because they can
that makes them a slut...the other kids dont need a wake up call
your sister does...get her help

It seems to me like she has no one to guide her, so she has turned to what she learns from the media, kids around her, etc. I met a girl like this once at a rehab center. Her name was Tasha. She was ten years old, a foster child, addicted to Oxycontin, and ran away and found shelter sleeping with men three times her age. She cut all the time, had mental disorders and was headed nowhere fast. She was the 'nutcase' of the unit. And far beyond help. I sympathized for her, and in no way did she bring the slanders upon herself. No one has taught her right from wrong. The last time I heard of Tasha she was pregnant, and had been transferred to a higher security juvenile rehabilitation center. The only way to stop your sisters destructive patterns, I'm afraid, is drastic measures. She needs professional help, as her situation is far beyond the 'keep it in the family' stage. Talk to a parent or trusted adult about what is going on, she might start therapy, or she might be put in a facility until she recovers. She will fight, and resist, she won't trust you for a little while, and she may never change if it's that bad, and you can't change that as much as you can change the growth of grass. Chances are she will emerge as a better, enlightened person and in the end, thank you. You, as the responsible, older (I presume), one, have the power to save her. Good luck. I really do hope she gets better hun.

The situation has changed her mom is moving her to Western Australia then her moms moving to the usa leaving her here on the other side of australia to me I told her she can move back and stay with me any time she wants but how could her own mother do that!
Everyone knows what she's doing but I'm the only one that seems to care but she's been real distant from me latley I cry to her begging her to just be a 12 year old she smokes ciggies weed etc drinks a lot of alcho at 12 this is not what she should be like her mom tried sendding her to a detention centre but in the end her mom gave up and well yeah as I said before she's movin usa and moving my lil sister to the other side of australia. This is braking my heart

BEFORE ANYTHING CAN BE DONE: I've seen way too many of my friends start out like her, and the majority of them didn't make it past 20. Next time you see her smoking/drinking/drug usage, take them out of her hand and throw them. Destroy them. Take her to a clinic so that she can get tested for STDs. (You mentioned before she was extremely sexually active) There is no way to be sure, and an early reading can prevent it from getting deadly. Ban her from going out. Sleep in her room with her so that she can't sneak out (she WILL try this). In a situation where the parent is not acting like one, some one has to step up to the plate. And it looks like your the only person who cares. This must place terrible pressure on you. If there is no authority you can alert to this problem, be the parent. Tell her she's on permanent lockdown strict until she starts behaving better. Be with her 24/7. You'll be sacrificing a lot. She is likely to rebel and say
"Your not my mother!"
to this, you may kindly reply,
"I'm the only one acting like one."
This will keep the protests to a minimum.

PARENTAL ISSUES:This is irresponsible behavior on her mothers part. I'm sorry, but that's the honest truth. Try calling CPS or DSS (I don't know what it is in Australia) . That's the only way somethings going to get done about this. In any case, her mother going to the US (I assume you meant there isn't any one going to be watching you two, this is child neglect. This is illegal. Some one has to be notified and something will be done about it. Don't be scared of what will happen. Your sister needs intervention, not cowardice from those around her.

WHO CAN HELP HER: Next, she needs a friendly institution that can help. A children's Mental Hospital (the term gives it a bad name) will help her deal with her psychological problems. It's not padded rooms or what you see in the movies, read in books. I've seen one when my friend was in one. It's like a boarding school. They have basketball games in the court, therapy, counseling, high supervision, daily activities, groups, group therapy, and one-on-ones every day. One facility I recommend that I've witnessed firsthand turn a kids life around [to be cliche] is Four Winds Mental Hospital. However, this is located in New York, the US. In the most drastic of situations you find some where similar near you. And the worst thing that you can do is give up.

WHILE SHE'S GONE: Give a "talking to" her friends , as they are likely participating in this. Make sure they know that when she returns they better not try any funny shxt. Go through her things and find anything that may be harmful to her, and throw it away (cigarettes, weed, pills, lighters, razors, sharp metal objects, etc). This will prepare the room for her return. Make sure your family knows that things are going to be running a lot different, and parental authority is much needed. Prepare your self to be able to spot her tricks, as if she comes back wanting to do it all over again, you'll spot her out immediately. Mentally prepare your self for her return by reading certain chapter of Queen Bees & want to Bees. (Most of this books is bull like about cliques and popularity manual but there are some good ones about how to spot lying, a liar, how to react to the sex thing, etc).

WHEN SHE GETS BACK: Only allow her to go out when your with her. Take positive walks with her down the road. Encourage her to write in a journal. Be productive with her. Talk to her calmly. Watch some movies about her situation, like "Thirteen", etc (this movie may not seem good for her at first, but watch the ending). Exersize with her (this may seem gay but produces Serotonin, the happy chemical in your brain. It also shows her positive ways to channel her energy and emotions). It is important to be cautious about certain subjects. Even more important is to teach her about good sexual health. That not all sex is bad (this can lead to emotional problems later on) but should be saved for when she's ready, and not used as a coping mechanism. Encourage healthy, positive hobbies and habits for her. It is very important to watch her from then on, very very intensely for the first few months, and see how she is adjusting. Make it very clear to her that just because you take care of her, and she has to respect your authority, doesn't mean that she has to hide anything from you because of it.

If your wondering why I'm taking all this time out to help, it's because this story touches my heart. Here's why. When I was about fifteen, I was on so many drugs and headed so many dark places. Weed, Coke, Oxys, Xanex, the occasional X on good days, Opiates, had an alcohol problem, etc. I know first hand what happens when people give up on you. You lose all reason to become better. Give her an incentive. Your sister needs you right now.

Ok She's leaving to WA this week I dont know when and she's not the easiest person to find I would never put her in a one of those I went to one and it would be the same one she would go to I escapped and almost died they dont have very gd councilling and they lock yooh in a tiny room at night the food is slop and yoor not to whatch tv or listen to music the only time yooh can go outside is when yooh get visiters IF yooh get visiters they take yooh for a walk to shops once a month I always came back with glass or when we did our daily activities I always snuck scissors out in my shoes and cut they then again shoved needles in me and locked me in solutary once they even strapped me to a bed while injecting stuff in me just because I cut I hid glass in my under wear when they put me in this room were I slit my wrists deeper because they made me feel bad about myself they say the nastiest things etc I had stiches and everything I almost died in there to many times and I came out worse then ever!.

If my sister comes back to live with me I will do what yooh sugest but wont send her away
I am a alcholic myself and I am just getting off the drugs
The CPS wont do anything they say my sisters out of control and its not her mothers fault (Her Mom Aint My Mom) im just so lost what if she doesnt move back here with me what if something happens to her will it be my fault

Can't you find a better place? There's some really good children's ones. But anyhow, if that's not an option, then here goes.

The whole 'whose mom is it anyway' this is confusing me. So let me put it simply. Your sister is twelve years old. Law states that a minor (any one under 18) has to have a legal guardian unless emancipated. Assuming she's not emancipated, I'd say she has a legal guardian. This legal guardian is taking neither action nor responsibility for her. Therefore, legally, CPS is obligated to get involved, no matter how 'out of control' she is. In fact, it would provide more of a case.

It's not your fault. Just for now, try to keep her out of trouble and follow the suggestions. Now you know what to say to CPS next time. If they refuse, you have a lawsuit against them. Warn them that. Make sure they know that intervention is needed.

And sweetie? I really do hope that every thing works out for you. I hope your sister gets better and you kick your habits and your entire life works out. I really do.

omq . just qet a psychologist .
it will really help . real-talk .
she needs help . who knows
what has happened to her that is makinq her react dis way .

I believe her rampage is a cry for help. PLEASE tell a school counselor to call her in and talk to her. You can ask them to do it annonmously and they can just say they heard it throught the grapevine. She is headed down a VERY bad path and she needs help before she contracts a disease, gets prego or turns to drugs or ends up on the internet. Please seek out an adult to talk to her.

Ok number one the law told her mother to kick her out number two she refuses to go to school and they accept that number 3 she goes to a shrink but just abuses them

sex should be replaced with fighting its a much better stress releaver boxing karate wrestling weightlifting when I feel mad at the world the pain I feel from these sports makes me feeel better find that pain she needs in something healthy cause a kid should be leaving home like that at all and stop being so nice to your sis stop sugar coading it tell her straight how you don't like what shes doing and tell her that you thinks she should be treated better then having sex with random stranger she's not even getting paid and smoking and drinking just helps you run away from that pain you have in you you should talk about that pain and face it cause if you look at that and try to understand it then you can try to get better 4 drugs she uses is smoking drinking cuting and sex