More than friends

can a relationship between friends workout?? I've known this man for almost two years and we seem to share an attraction. we talk, laugh and joke around a lot. he always talks about a future plan with me in it. when we are close to each other or alone in a room we can't help but to touch one another in some caressing manner. he told me once what he is looking for in a relationship and told me about his past and present relationship problems. he is married but says that he has lots of problems with his significant other and says there is no more love there only convenience due to the prenumptial agreement and doesnt want to lose all his assests like he did his first marriage. I feel in a tight spot I really like him but know that at the present time he can't give me what I am looking for. he tells me that it will take sometime. I'm not to sure what he means by it but it sounds like he is trying to find a solution to his current problem so he dont get the short end of the stick. don't know what do you advise?

Ok, I see where you are coming from but you need to face reality. He is married! now he may not be in a loving marriage and want to leave and so on but the fact is, he is still married. It sounds like he is taking care of his assets and getting all the love and affection from you on the side so he doesnt really see the need to leave his wife yet. He is getting his cake and eating it to. Dont be a fool, how long do you plan to be his doormat? you need to let him know this isnt ok, and let him go until 1: he leaves his wife for good 2: he proves to you he wants to be with you only and 3: you trust him enough that he wont cheat on you either. Thats a long time to wait, you need to work out if you are willing to do that for him. Take some time out away from him to work out what you really want and need in a relationship.

It is one thing to ask about a relationship between two friends, and another to ask about a relationship with a married man. He is married, and this kind of behavior (in my opinion) is really unethical. Do you want to be the 'other woman'? It is absolutely not fair to his wife, and men having problems in their relationships and who are tempted to have affairs rarely ever leave their spouse for another woman. You need to stop this before you get so into it that you get hurt. It may be his decision to do this behind his wife's back, but it takes two people and you need to step out. You deserve a single man who can give 100% of his love to you, not live in a fantasy as his marriage suffers through problems. Good luck.

you are both right...I have not slept with him or allowed it for that matter and have been refusing his advances of late. I know it is not right to mess with married men. I've realized that he would not be faithful to me either if he decides to leave his wife. I have been seeing other men 'dating' and he always wants to know about my personal life if I am seeing anyone and so on...he asks my friends questions. I want to keep it as friends only and I remember telling him that and him telling me the same but he seems to want more. I think the best bet is for me to avoid seeing him.

Thats right hun. You need to avoid seeing him at all costs becos its him thats wants more from you and makes the passes. You just give in, tell him you need time away from him to work out what you need. If he calls and asks questions either ignore his calls or tell him you dont feel comfortable discussing your personal life as you feel its non of his business. If he really wanted you that bad he would have left his wife by now for you and not messed around in the first place.

I advice you to look for what you really want, I mean a person with who you can have that relationship what is most convenient for you, but meantime do not push away this friendship you described here. Yes, friendship may contain even more than only the friendship itself. I also had this type of friendship in my life. And when you have found that person I mentioned above in the first raw, you may make you decisions on that how to continue. Do not forget that there is no guarantee for finding the ideal way of your life, but even then you have to live your life.