How to help my mom with her drinking problem?

well..sure...I live wit my dad
*woo..how fun...*

my mom..well..I berally see her...like..2 years ago..we use to be da best of friends.until her boyfriend*who was practically my dad..*passed away...so she started to cry..and get drunk..and then my older...

sister witch was 14-15 at da time...was forced to move in wit us..at first..it was pridy kool..untill at times..our mom wouldnt come home..she would go out and get drunk wit her gay friends..and sumtimes we wouldnt see her for days..we would miss her..but when she came home..it was like it wuznt even her...its like..you would look into her eyes..and shes like not even there..shes like all screwed up and drunk...ugh...me and my sister would be home all alone...and we would have to walk to and from school...we were so depressed that we would go out on da grave yard across da street at like 10 at night and just sit out der...and think...we were so poor..and screwed up...den my mom met him..da most rediculest dummy ever..now there dating and liveing wit eachother..and mai poor sister still lives with them
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I want to help my mom so much
now..since mai grandma(her mom) passed away like 2 months ago...shes bin sooo drunk its like danm..and da only time shes not drunk is when I come over because she doesnt want me to see her da way she is..and mai sister has to put up wit it...
please...I need help..I want to help mai mom..and her mental problomes(lol..)
I miss her..da real her...when shes not all screwed up...

YOU can't make her stop drinking. She will only stop when she realizes that she has a problem - she has to have the desire to quit drinking. At the moment it seems like a lot of things are going downhill for her and she's depressed... so why not drink?

It's a hard thing to deal with because you want to tell her she has a problem without making her mad or resentful towards you. (my mom is going through the same thing.)

Maybe all she has left is her daughters. Maybe try spending more time with her (and in a good moment bring up that you miss the old times like this.)

xox
Sika

from some of these answers I have read they dont know a whole lot, my mom is also an alcoholic and I am now 18 my sister moved out at 19 cause she couldnt take it... one day I grabbed out my video cam when she was drunk and started making a documentary...you say your mom doesnt drink when your there cuase she doesnt want you to see her that way well get your sister to follow her around with a video came and make a movie on MOM your DRUNK and put lil comments in like I missed when we were a family yada yada she needs to be shown first hand what a mess she is to realize it... move alcoholics dont come around themselves thats why theres such things as interventions anyways brotha best of luck to you and your mom

hey dude, im going through the same thing as you right now my moms hitting the bottle pretty hard and basically im planning on filming her constantly and making a movie on her becuase like most people say above they need to realized how they are before they can change so im gunna make sure she knows how awful she is to me my sister and especially my dad and ill let you know how that goes and you can approach it like that 2... my buddy went this way and his mom is better then ever... anyways bro best of luck to you your mom and your family! stay strong

Yeah I'm going through the same thing. My grandma and grandpa died within a year and my stepdad divorced her. This really made her depressed and she just hits the bottle everyday. Days that she is sober, she is the greatest mom in the world. But days she is drink I just can't take it. My whole town knows it too and I have to suffer for her actions. I'm a freshman in highschool by the way. I play football baseball and hockey so I have to either ask people for rides or walk. It's gotten to the point where parents call me everyday to know if I need a ride. That's just embarrassing. I really don't know how much longer I can take it. I've had sooo many heart to hearts with her but nothing has worked. Pleaaase help!

well you can take her to Church and it would help her if you pray for her you never know when GOD will answer your prayers he can answer them any time he wants to he wants to answer them the first time but he usually doesnt bcause he wants to make evry1 strong.

Dear Kala,
Your mom has really gone through a lot of horrific times in her life.

It is hard to tell her what she should be doing or should not be doing.

The trauma that she has encountered is really beyond most advisors.

What I would have you think about is maybe getting in touch with the TV show called Intervention. Google the name intervention television show
Tell them your story and I believe they will have people/therapists that will be on your moms level of help, it does not have to be on TV...they just may be able to send you to the right people. Goodluck
Familycoach

A drinking problem is one of those things that a person must want to get help with before they stop.

I know it seems selfish, and I am not trying to excuse her behavior, but from her standpoint she is in pain and the drinking is helping to numb that pain. Eventually it becomes a pattern and now she is simply addicted to it.

Im sure she knows she has a problem. Try explaining that you miss her, and maybe try getting her to an AA meeting. Maybe if she sees the ways drinking can screw up her life (yes it can get worse) then she may get help...