Mom told me not to, but I already read 'em!!

so, mum gave me her mobile 1 month ago, and she didn't tell me not to read her messages, so I did (I know I shouldn't but I just read 'em)
and I found some messages that say: you are the sexiest woman on earth I mean it.. another one: you drive me crazy I don't want to leave u.. another day: I smelled your exotic smell... your natural skin one... you have a soft skin... it was different.. you held me tighter. I cud feel your passion. I knew you in some ways you love me...
and I read some messages that say: so? when is our next date? and I'm like.. what the f**k?!!!
and I stopped reading what he sent... (I'm sure he's stupid cause he spelled most of the words wrong!) I know her boss (he's freaky!!) he's an old man!!!
I wanted to read what my mum sent but she deleted them!!!
I cried all night!! and I found some messages from dad that say: what's wrong? you seem sad those days... (my mum's usually crazy) and she sent my dad back: nothing is wrong with me (with a mad face)

what should I do?? what can I do to stop him from sending her this kinda messages?!!! she has a new mobile now, and she's always coming home late at night when it's the weekend and during the week she comes early...
my dad doesn't anything about it!!!
sometimes I just wish that my parents get a divorce, I'm so damn lost!!!
my dad is so much into women, now that mum doesn't give him any attention!!!
something is going WRONG!!! help me, I'm so shocked and I don't know how to accept this kinda things, I can't stop this kinda things, I'm so sad, and dipressed, I feel the world just fell apart, and my heart broke into million pieces, please people help me, what should I do with myself and my parents? :'(

There's nothing that you can do to stop the man from texting your Mother.You can talk to your Mother about what you saw.You should also talk to your Father about what he's doing.
No what they are doing isn't right but,at the end of the day there's nothing you can do to change it.Chances are both of them know that the other has been unfaithful.They know the consequences of their actions yet are choosing to do this anyway.
If they want a divorce they'll do it in their own time.Just let them know that they don't need to stay together for your sake.

OMG my mom is doin the same thing!!!

You should try talking to your mum about this alone and if she just shoves you off with no answers you should try talking to your dad x but if you dont feel ready you should try talking to someone you trust ..x and when you finally get the courage to talk to her you should but dont leave it off to long cause sometimes its better to get it out before things get worse x x x x hope everything goes okay for you x

dear,
you please talk to your mom, ask her why is she doing like that, ask her if your dad is not satsify her needs both sexually and emotionally. ask her if she is no more intersted in your dad. then even ask her if she is in need of money. even ask her if she wants to leave your dad for some one else.
people usally end up doing so if the are not happy and satisfied with there husbands. and if they are not getting what they want.
please ask these question and write to me back then only I'll tell you what you shld be doing.
your mom may get angry on u, she may even inglect talkin to you abt this and refuse to answer your questions.
but just do any thing and ask her the above question.
if she refuses to answer then tell her that your life is also inculed wit her and her daughter you ve full rights to know what she is doing. ask and please write to me.
all the best, and may gods blessing and grace be on you and your family.

Come right out with it.

My mum says she gave up smoking when dad did (8 years ago) but she still smokes and tries to hide it. I would come right out and tell her except that I smoke weed thats her card to play.

Your mum has nothing on you, you caught her. Don't tell her how you knew, just say to be honest and to please explain herself.

Well, to be honest I actually have no idea if this is good advice or bad, it's just what I would do.

Talk to your mum...tell her you saw the text's

But I broke my promise and I read them! She will be so damn angry!

Yeah but really she should have let her male friend no that she had ah new number and erased all the textes so its really her whos at fault you were just curious x but now your hurt and angry so you have ah right to be treated like an adult and told whats going on x

BEFORE attacking or accusing your mom, maybe enter into the discussion with her a bit more diplomatic...you say her 'answers' were deleted, but actually you don't even know if there were any answers...right?

She may be sad simply because a job is 1/2 of a person's life...and they spend as much waking time there as at home. Having a boss who's putting her into this position could very well BE what is making her so sad...that she'll have to find another job. I don't know the relationship between her and your dad, but she might not feel comfortable telling him what her boss is up to...

The texts themselves, sound pretty damn one sided to me...there's a HUGE chance that she's not encouraging this dufus boss at all...so give her benefit of the doubt when you ask her about it.

She may very well have hung onto the texts to sue the guy for sexual harrassment.

phrannie

...that she'll have to find another job.<<<

she talks about him all the time, he calls her EVERYDAY, he sends her a message EVERY SINGLE SECOND!!!

and she already told us a long time ago when her boss was about to change his job that she will go to the place he's going to work in!!!
and she's been telling me about how great he is, and after she got a promotion, she started staying at work til' 11 pm or 1 am!!
and now, that he's away, she comes home early!!!
she always talks to me about her feelings and sometimes when she's sad she tells me why she is, she shares secrets with me that nobody knows about (not even her mother), why didn't she tell me that she has a relationship with her boss?!!! I mean... if she didn't hide it from me, it could've been better!!!
and when she got this job I started feeling that she's hiding something from me...
so I sent her a text saying: mum, do you have a relationship with another man?
and she sent me back: why are you asking?
me: I don't know, I just feel like you do...
her: go to sleep it's late now, we'll talk about it later...
(she never talked about it after that)
I don't want to talk to her about it, I don't want to ask her about it, I just need a way to accept it, cause I know that no matter WHAT I do, it won't work!!! she will only get mad and scream at me, and she won't even give a chance to continue to the end!!

bring it up to another trusted family member who is good with both your mom and your dad and you could both talk to them together but at seprate times like both go to mom first then to dad...I feel for you even though this hasnt happened to, what your going through must feel horrible. I wish you the best of luck and hopefully it can be resolved...it'll take some time but try to do everything you can to make you feel comfortable while it's being dealt with.
GoodLuck !!

you should call someone you trust like an aunt grandparents or even a friend and ask them if you could stay there by the way my mom has some messges like that so I know how you feel.