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Well I#039;ve been married for quite a few years and have 2 kids.Husband is a great guy but I#039;m not in love with him.I don#039;t want to leave my marriage for a number of reasons,kids financial reasons and my family would flip.I#039;m just not...

sexually attracted to my husband.I want some excitment.I#039;ve tried rekindling my love for my husband to no avail.I#039;ve had an affair and enjoyed it but felt really guilty because this other guy got married and his wife got pregant.Now I#039;ve established this close friendship with this guy at work and want to have an affair and he does to but afraid because I#039;m married.Should I follow my heart like the saying goes and go for the affair or just deal with my life the way it is,which isn#039;t really bad.I just want to have some excitement and the feeling of being with someone my age and my interest which this guy is.The age difference between me and my husband is 10 years.Another reason I like tyhis guy is he is sooo cute and very sweet,and innocent seeming.Does this make any since?

Love is such a weird word. I think its just a chemical high from your brain that makes you attracted to sumbody. Pple fall out of love so quick and its stupid. But you did marry this guy and he is takin care of his kids so that a gud thing. Don't let that go. If you want to have an affair, then go ahead. Its your life

I have one simple question that I am confussed with..Been married for 20 years, my wife is very attractive and gets a lot of compliments, is slim etc etc. I am 51, and would have sex every day if I could...but she is very busy. I work in a college and exposed to a lot of females. For years I have just flirted with the odd student, but more worryingly and recently have had brief encounter with a married student who said her marriage was not good, and now have fallen for a younger student who reminds me of my wife when we first meet. A bit mad and fun to be with..and with a few issues (as we all have). And I cannot keep her out of my mind...I wake up thinking about her..I want her to text me...I have arranged to go out and have a meal with a few other students for a cover up..At christmas ended up at a party holding her hand...I asked her out...she said stop it you are married...but we have been out for lunch since then..no sex yet. SO the question is why am I doing this...it is consuming me and how do I stop myself (even if she is not interested) I have this urge to have an affair WHY...???

I heard an expression once: once a cheater always a cheater... are you going to prove that true? What I think is you should do it the right way this time.
If you have the gutts to have this thrill, have the gutts to just move on first.
Leave because you are unhappy, not just to have another man.
Guilt is a hell of a thing. It looks like you have some sort of conciousness, and you should listen to it. Don't drag innocent people into the potential issues.

Totally Understand...I am there!!

Totally Understand...I am there!!

Totally Understand...I am there!!

He is soo sweet and innocent and you are not, you are about to destroy him, and they you will blame him and feel bad for your husband, when hes not necessarily the one whos been hurt the most... and hes probably not doing much to revive your sex life.
Keep that in mind, ok?

He is soo sweet and innocent and you are not, you are about to destroy him, and they you will blame him and feel bad for your husband, when hes not necessarily the one whos been hurt the most... and hes probably not doing much to revive your sex life.
Keep that in mind, ok?

You selfish women not one of you mentionned a word about the guy, that sweet guy who is all that your husband never was, and yet you will not have any regards for him, use him and dump him.
Well that guy is the best you will ever have, much better then your controlling ugly husband who makes you think that you cant get any better.
You women are hopeless and heartless. Do everyone a favor, you decided to marry a great man because you can find better and yatta yatta, then stay in marriage and keep living your fake dream and dont go destroying other guys.
I hate this.

YES YOu LIVE IN A DREAM WORLD IT IS NOT YOuR Husband that is wonderful it is you and hes just and idiot sitting at home all day long and scratching his balls.

Dont be a fool. If your husband id there for you, supporst you, etc., then he loves you. He may just not be good at showing it anymore because that happens after you get married. You fall withing the same routines of life and the love life fades. Rather than put energies into a cute guy, put energies into your husband. Plan a trip or vacation, do things together you use to like to do. Dont expect change to happen overnight. It took time to fade so it will take time to gain it back. It will require work and especially on your part since apparently you realize this is yhe problem and your husband may not realize it because he feels he is doing right by you. Maybe its in the back of his mind to want to do things for you too, but it takes a lot to motivate guys sometimes. Women like to get up and do things and guys have a harder time getting motivated. Its a stage of marriage so you are not the only one going through this. Sometimes certain people react more sensitively to this stage of the marriage. If you have an affair you risk losing everything, even the chance to save your love. The words Until Death do Us Part and For better and for worse are the vows you accepted when you got married. That means there are going to be times of good and bad I a marriage so do just get up and run away because of it. You will be a stronger person for working it out. It takes time. If anyone tells you to end the marriage then dont listen to them. In todays modern society its easier to give up, run, and end a marriage as soon as something goes wrong because nobody wants to take the time to work anything out.

thank you all now you've all given me another reason why not to trust women and I was thinking about getting married at age 25 or something with my asian honey now I feel like you female are just nasty if you marry some one you do not cheat you get a divorce your only using his money b!tches like you make men sign prenups b!tch

Start doing ATM(a$s to mouth), that should spark some excitement.

MEN, did you just read the comments from the some of the ladies here.
DO NOT GET MARRIED. Much more better living alone then marrying - * modern, liberated women* -.

BAD WIFE!

I can identify with all of the ladies who have reponded to this question.

I am going through a hard time as well. My hubby is my best friend and I can't imagine being married to anybody else. But eventhough I love him dearly I do not think I'm in love with him anymore. I have been feeling this way for over a year.

The past few months have been even worse. Lately he has become downright inconsiderate. He rarely initiates sex. So I have been making an effort to initiate instead eventhough I am not particularly attracted to him anymore. When we do have sex, he's done in five minutes and makes no attempt to delay his orgasm. He then rushes off to the bathroom and dissapears, leaving me high and dry, frustrated and sometimes crying alone in the bed. When he cooks meals when I am working nights, he no longer makes enough for me or leaves me a plate. He didn't even get me a card for mother's day. We barely talk anymore and the only time we spend time together as a couple or a family I have to suggest it.

About 6 months ago, I started talking over the phone and via text and email with a very sexy manager from another branch of the same company I work for. We have gone out once, but we've only hugged. When one of us has to stop at each other's branch, he will hug me or the one day he even told me how amazing my breasts looked in the top I was wearing. The one day I texted him after I stopped at his store to tell him how hot he looked that day and he repsonded that I looked really hot, too. All of the signs point to his interest, but he seems hesitant to seal the deal. Another male friend I talked to says since he is a single man, he may be hesitant at becoming the 'back door man'.

It's hard because I am feeling rejected at home and now by my potential affair. I feel like I am a yo-yo with my 'affair'. For a week he's in constant contact, hot and heavy, then radio silence for two weeks. Just when I begin to forget about him and move on, poof - he is calling and stopping at my store again.

The worst part about all this is, is that you would think it would be fairly easy for an attractive 29-year-old-woman to find a fling. Not so much.

I am just so frustrated and my usual good self-esteem seems to have dissapeared. I am miserable and lonely and feel sometimes like I am in high school again. I just want someone to spend time with me, someone to enjoy who I find sexy and who finds me sexy, too. I just want to feel alive again.