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Well I#039;ve been married for quite a few years and have 2 kids.Husband is a great guy but I#039;m not in love with him.I don#039;t want to leave my marriage for a number of reasons,kids financial reasons and my family would flip.I#039;m just not...

sexually attracted to my husband.I want some excitment.I#039;ve tried rekindling my love for my husband to no avail.I#039;ve had an affair and enjoyed it but felt really guilty because this other guy got married and his wife got pregant.Now I#039;ve established this close friendship with this guy at work and want to have an affair and he does to but afraid because I#039;m married.Should I follow my heart like the saying goes and go for the affair or just deal with my life the way it is,which isn#039;t really bad.I just want to have some excitement and the feeling of being with someone my age and my interest which this guy is.The age difference between me and my husband is 10 years.Another reason I like tyhis guy is he is sooo cute and very sweet,and innocent seeming.Does this make any since?

Dont do get excitement with your hubby every man loves sex so do that its way easier than him finding out and you two gettin and divorce and putting your kids through that and then there is always who gets custody and what not so dont be stupid!!!

you are a back stabing trader if you want to get with another guy then do it but get a devors first.I mean how do you leave with your self? thats mest up to have a affair becase he porpobly still loves you and want you to be happy?the only advise I can give you is go get theripy so you two can work it out togerther and if I leads to a divors then you will not fell gilty being with another guy.so see you and good luck.

why dont you just put excitment back into your marriage rather than hurting your wife?? wouldnt you feel guilty?? I mean it makes sense, but its your wife...

Well, as the saying goes, the grass ALWA YS looks greener on the other side. You should probably do, NO, not what your heart tells you, but what is RIGHT. There is not a single marriage that is a bed of roses and where it is all lust and love. It takes work. Could it be that YOUR disinterest in your husband has put you in this dilemma? We women cause so much of the problems that we have.

It's that damned dopamine release that's got my brain obsessed with an affair! I know I shouldn't, but I want to - I crave that first kiss high.

I almost had an affair. The delivery guy that comes by my office occasionally is quite nice to look at. I wasn't trying to flirt, just saying, hey, how's it going when one day he said, are you going to invite me in? I was so shocked I couldn't speak. The next time he came by, I did invite him in. My heart raced! I stammered, nervous, flustered... But, when he kissed me, I didn't pull away.

He came by a couple weeks later. I can't believe how hard my heart was beating (and that wasn't the only thing hard in my office) but, after kissing for a couple of minutes, I ran out of time, I had to leave.

I asked how he does it (he's married, too) and he said, just don't think about it. Well, I thought about it so much I decided I could not think about it. It's not because I don't love my husband, I do. It's not for a lack of sex at home; it's the quality of that sex. My husband, try as he does, just doesn't get it. There is more to my body than the northern hills and the mid-town tunnel. And stop jabbing your tongue in my mouth! I want someone to make love to my whole body, make out, explore; what so many of you have mentioned.

So, here's the part that leaves my head in a spin. I finally decided to do it and the delivery guy won't come by any more. It seems he's had a change of heart but he won't tell me why or what happened.

I can't stop thinking about him. I see his truck drive by or he sends a substitute to do his work and I spend the next hour wondering what I did or didn't do or what he's thinking. I'm sure it's for the best because at least I'm not cheating on my husband.

The dopamine still kicks in if I see him on the streets, and it's helped me keep about 5 lbs off, but those two kisses are fading from memory.

I don't feel guilty for what I did, some of you may say that's wrong. I think it's part biology; we're wired to want sex with attractive men.

I feel a little guilty for what I want to do; that's the cultural stereotype setting in - be faithful.

I have no answers but I appreciate being able to read everyone's comments and releasing my own thoughts.

I think that you need to believe your feeling, I think your desires don't lie. What I do feel is that most men do. They love sex and how it feels and many stop at that. As for a commitment, leave that to the women, but they get their hearts broken DURING the relationship, men get their hearts broken AFTER the women feel they can't take it any more. That is where it all stands. Don't lose who you are!!! You can;t depend on guys to make you feel better, at least with most of them.
take care!

After work tell the man to stay walk straight up to him or into his office and graphis balls all tight and tellhim you feel horny and trust me when youre going throgh your first orgasim youll no you did the right thing. After you do that he wil beyours

And all guys are assholes?

Okay, talk to your husband and tell him that you love ohim but are feeling the sexual attraction diminish. Tell him that if he can tell you something he wants you to change for him, you tell him something you want him to change. Perhaps lose some weight, or learn some new moves in the bedroom.
Work with what you have. Because sooner or later someone will find out. Your kids look up to you now, but would they if they realized you were sleeping around? Because that's what you're doing.

Maybe you are just bored. Did you ever think about spiceing things up. Such as maybe try role playing, taking dirty or a threesome. You might find out that you do love him. Besides my parents divorced and my life sucked after that

Well...having an affair is unethical, but who am I or anybody else to judge you. We all fall short and make mistakes. Life is too short to not have some excitement, I would just suggest not doing something that could affect your children or cause a ripple effect that you may deeply regret later.

I think that is really bit*chy of you to do that to a person who Trusts you with all of his heart I would never do that to my man imagine how he will feel if he finds out do you really want to have that on your shoulders to know that you betrayed the man that you married and imagine what your kids will think of you they will look back and say god my mom was a fu*cking slut I really think that what you did was wrong and it will be even wronger to do it again especially if it is with someone you work with if you end it bad you still have to work with then.

first of all, I understand where you are coming from for not divorcing afraid of hurting other people, but hun, you are already hurting everyone. imagine one day yoru kids find out and your husband, family..ect.. you would be ashamed. listen. I am an expert on these things and reality is, you can never say you are NOT sexually attracted to someone. See, you have to spice things up in many ways. and in fact, there is something behind it all, its not jsut the sex. Your husband must have done something to you that has killed that feeling of desire and passion. contact me at my email Fun mail me
I can tell you what to do really if you are still interested in saving your marriage. other wise, dont stay in a relationship you dont care about and forget what everyone else says. YOU will be the one alone at the end. dont let that happen. and if that guy is just a lust. that proves that you somehow care about your husband. so take a break from the relationship and you both can date other people. anyways, long response I gave, but I hope you can take one of the advices. take care,
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maybe talk to him, and its not that you want someone else but you want it to e like old times, see you married him because you love him, right? and there was also passion there as in you would go out and there would be an air of surprize, but im assuming uve got into a pattern of...well nothing, get him to take you out, book a baby sitter for the night and see if after that is rekindled whether you feel the same, if so, maybe tell him and see ehat you can sort out

if he is having an affair, I want to have one too...

hi, I am a daughter of a father who had an affair and it destroyed my family.
you say you want excitement and whatever- not sexually attracted to your husband...thats crap, think of your two kids...I know things may be bad but be creative because me and my sister are stuck in a horrible family life and it was all because of my father's affair...it also messed us up really badly with relationships I can't get close to anyone and she gets to close to quickly because she never had the father-daughter relationship everyone should have and I'm afraid I'm going to get abandoned again, but enough about us...THINK OF YOUR KIDS! that's all I am saying.

Go root like rabbits in the back seat of his car just try not to think of yoor husbands face aye might put yooh off

Ok, I haven't been married, but I know the feeling of being with someone and wanting/having an affair. Honestly, I felt guilty for some time after but being with one person was just boring. I'd go for it personally, but you have to make sure your husband NEVER finds out and your kids NEVER find out. make it a purely social, I need a lil excitement but I still love my husband and family thing.

why dont you leave him before you have an affair an affair hurt everyone ,what happens if you catch a disease or something in that nature or even worse you could do all the right things and still get something

I'm just not sexually attracted to my husband - maybe because its the way you want to see it... try to work things out with him..what if he's doing this to u? would you be happy about it..life is 2 short so make the most out of it..