Marriage at 18?

I'm wondering if I'm just old-fashioned here...but it seems to me that people are getting married very young and very quickly these days.

I'm 25, been with my boyfriend since I was 17, and no marriage yet...why? Because I think it's a huge commitment,...

and one that shouldn't be broken. Once you say the I do..that's it.

Hearing about people marrying at 17, 18, etc. to people they've dated for a matter of months just makes me irritated.

Am I old-fashioned here?

***The way I see it, if people want to get married young then whatever, it's them that will have to deal with the consequences.***

Not just them- if it ends badly, any children they have together can be caught in the crossfire. Families and friendships can be divided as well. Not to mention, there's possible societal implications.

***I don't think that young married couples should be judged because they jumped into it, it's their business...***

It's human nature to judge. While it's ultimately the young couple's decision, I choose to impart the knowledge I've acquired- that way, I've at least done all I can to educate them, and whether they choose to take that advice is their perogative.

Well I think its a personal choice.
Some people want to start there life at a young age.
Your not old fashioned its just the way you think.
If you think waiting for YOU is right then so be it.
Everyone has a different way of thinking.
Of course some are going to regret it but remember that tomarrow is never promised. Life isnt long at all.
So if someone makes the choice of having kids/getting married at 18 maybe they have a reason for it? ya know?
When making a desicion like this noone is ever wrong.
If it works then good for them and if it doesnt then leason learned

Just my way of thinking

No ,I dont believe you are people have different segestians

***When making a desicion like this noone is ever wrong.***

I'm going to disagree there. I know and have known plenty of people who got married for very stupid reasons. A few of my friends in high school married the guys who got them pregnant in their teens- all ended with messy divorces within 2 years, one marriage with a restraining order- turns out the guy my friend married was quite violent, he beat her all the time, once causing her to miscarry. She had no idea what he was really like because they were together less than a year before they said 'I do'.

Also, as someone who got married at 21, I think I was too young when I got married. I was too immature, and was not ready for all that marriage entailed. Plus, at 21, you're still growing and changing- it can be difficult for the person your with to still love the person you're becoming. As a result of my getting married too young, things have been very tough- It's been almost 18 months, and we're still working through plenty of stuff we should have sorted before we got married.

The thing is, I know I can tell young people this sort of thing until I'm blue in the face, they won't listen. And the reason why they won't listen is because they think they know better than those of us who have been there and done that.

I wouldn't say it's old-fashioned, just a way of thinking.
The way I see it, if people want to get married young then whatever, it's them that will have to deal with the consequences. I don't think that young married couples should be judged because they jumped into it, it's their business...

I agree with you on this one. I'm 20 and have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and neither of use want to get married until at least in our late 20's (if ever)

But then again, I live and grew up in a very conservative country where if you are less then 20 people still basically view you as a child (just the culture)

It also irritates me that people get married too young, but then again I've also seen marriage that has worked for people that were married young, I guess it just all depends on the person and the circumstances.

Young marriage has its ups and downs.Adult marriage is more experienced and more settled.I think youre fine...

These days, everything is disposable... including marriage.

When celebrities are getting married one day and divorced the next, of course people will start seeing marriage as being less than it should be.

Yes, you're old-fashioned, but sometimes that's a good thing.

sometimes old fashioned can be a good thing, and in this case, IT IS!!! because if you marry too early, you could miss out on a lot of things you wanted to do! But sometimes if people are really in love with each other, they should get married, its their decision (parden me if I make typos) and its no big deal that you wanna wait, I like that decision =)

I agree with u, but somone of them get marride becasue there pregnant at that age.

I think that in the majorety of cases you should not get amrried that young. but I also believe that it depends on the couple.
If you think about it age can come in many forms, Physically someone may me 17 or 18 but as far as mentally or as far as life experiences go they may be at a older maturety level. for example... I will be 18 in June of 2010 and if I happen to be with someone at that time and they ask me to marry them I might say yes depending on the situation at hand, such as how long I've known them, how long we've been together, if we have really spent enough time arround each other physically to know if we could put up with living together for the rest of our lives and if I feel as though I really love them, and there is of course the matter of how our families feel about each of us. after thinking all of that through if I still say yes then I believe in a long engagment where we do live with each other for at LEAST two years to see if we could really handle it.

I've been through enough in life to know what I can and can not handle. I'm only 17 at the moment but I've been living without a parent or parent figure for quite some time. I've even had two of my own apartments under my sisters name (with her permission of course) I payed rent, I had to buy my own food, pay for my phone and internet, I could not afford T.V. I had to pay for utilities so I know what its like to be a grown up and I Personally think that people like me who are mature enough at our age to handle a marrige... if they think it through there is no problem in my mind. as long as BOTH parties involved are at the same level

as for other people our gae who are NOT capable to handel this type of thing I think you are completely and utterly correct oon this matter and have no objections, in my opinion being old fashion or traditional is often a good thing... it keeps you in check and makes you THINK about what you are doing.

hope this helps xoxo
~Ella

Your not old fashioned. As you rightly say its a huge commitment. Im 18 and have been with my girlfriend for a year and a half. I would never dream of getting married until I was something like 26/27