Love without sex

I just read one of Esconsult1's questions which got me to think.
I am in a very commited relationship and want to get married to this man. However, he does not like having sex! He says it is not up there on the priority list and that he doesn't need it to love me. This makes me feel guilty for wanting it or getting upset when I don't get it because he makes me feel like I am focusing to much on the physical.
It seems like the only people who complain about not enough sex, is men. This is socially exceptable. When I complain about the lack of sex, I feel like a pervert. We have sex maybe once a week, ang 90% of the time it is him slapping a condom on and saying 'ride me'. Same position everytime, etc.
We have talked about this several times, and it gets better for a few days - then right back to the same thing.
PLEASE - someone tell me how to get it accross to him that to me, sex is very important and something I need?

Sex is a fine thing to want-and almost need- but if you truly love him you should respect him enough not to push it.
But there is nothing wrong with your needs, your'e not a pervert or anything.
It seems like you both have your reasons, and it also seems like you're comfortable with each other, so you just need to come out and talk to him. As I guy, I know we dont take hints well, so be as straight forward as you can.
I hope it works out

Dear meggs,
I am slightly amused. If the guy acts like he doesn't like to have sex with you, there can be a few possibilities I can think of: 1. He might have a sexual problem - find out more by asking him, but in a comfortable and relaxed way, or maybe you already suspect something; 2. Men really like sex, just like you, little players with pigtails, so one other possibility could be that he's playing the indifferent to sex to get you want him more, but I somehow feel this is not it (because of the 'ride me' thing); 3. Some individuals are not sexually compatible, I am sure you've heard about it. I don't think he's cheating on you, because I see this as rather a behavior problem. By belittling sex, he's trying to convey a message to you, but I cannot tell exactly what that message is, because the info you provided is not enough (maybe he wants to seem above you/sex for some reason). You should guess better, I'm just suggesting. No matter which of these one is right, just wait until you solve it somehow or accept it before geting married to him. And next time he's asking you to ride him, just ask him: 'Where do I have to put in the coin?'
Good luck with your sex life, meggs!

Fitting together in the bed is fundamental for a long time good mood man-woman relationship. This can be 'straight' sex when the 2 person satisfy each other sexually, or can be 'roundabout' sex when a 3 person is involved, e.g. 'hot-wife' life style.

there are some man that love being with there loves then haveing sex with them. some man think that after haveing sex that it will change thing. It also counts on how they are raised, like I am not haveing sex till I am married and I know that this is the one that I will have a family with and will she be a good mother.