Love triangle problem..

Ok I met this girl about half a year ago and we get along amazing, we talk all the time, etc etc. She was single at the time and I have fallen in love with her and she has fallen in love with me. However her boyfriend/exbf of 3-4 years is still in the...

picture they keep going out and breaking up and going out. Honestly Its ridiculous how they are. They fight lots and everything. I have talked to her about it a lot and she keeps going back and forth on what to do. Apparantly they dont do anything sexual even kissing because she isnt attracted to him so its more like they are just friends to me but they concider eachother boyfriend girlfriend. I concider her my girlfriend also tho and she is very attracted to me. He doesnt treat her very well and I would treat her properly and she knows that but she wont make the move. It hurts me knowing that I cannot have her I dont know what to do I've thought a lot about just letting her go but Im to in love with her to do that so I can't do that.. We get along perfect, she is my everything, we always can make each other happy, and all that goodstuff. Any advice on making her see that I am the obvious choice? or break them up or something(I know that sounds bad)

Shes 20 btw

I have 4 theories..

1. she's making excuses and being with the other guy because maybe she isn't as into this as you think.

2. she might actually like her boyfriend.

3. she doesn't want to be committed to anyone.

4-(the most hopeful theory). she knows what you guys have is real, and she's afraid to be hurt or something...

you need to make her believe that you're there and that you really really want to be with her. let her know you're committed and she can trust you. but don't put pressure on her to choose.

Any other opinions?

hey hunni!!
I know how hard this situation can be..been there done that!! DO NOT ATTEMPT TO BREAK THEM UP!!! this wil turn you into thte bad guy in the relationship. as hard as it may be...you need to tell her that you love her, and are willing to love her and wait for her to fully get over this guy no matter how long it takes. she will realize that you are commited to her and eventually come around. all you can really do is bear down. suck it up and be there for her. sometimes we just get caught in relationships that we cant get outof very easily, but it WILL happen!!!

Thanks I hope so.. This has been driving me nuts:/ they will fight 75% of the month then he will do something like take them out and have a dinner and movie date and they wont fight that one night and they are happy again for a bit then they start fighting constantly again.. its soo stupid just when shes ready to kick him to the curb he always saves him.. and yet the entire time we have been together we never have fought and im not a dick to her like him.. ugh I hope she realizes this soon cus its really starting to kill me