What do I do to save my marriage?

I am devastated. My wife told me last week that she does not love me anymore. We have been married for more than sixteen years and have two wonderful children that are twelve and fifteen. I had hoped that we would grow old together. I don't know what to do ?? She tells me to give her space. She is totally miserable, but does not appear to give me any hope that I may have a chance to rekindle the spark. She tells me that she has been feeling so sad for a very long time. She says that I am the greatest guy she has ever know. That I treat her so well, but that she has grown and does not love me anymore.

What am I to do ??

I am not married, so I do not know EXACTLY whats happening. But I'm a girl, so maybe I can help. Your wife sounds like maybe (just maybe) Shes asking for attention. Maybe you've been hanging out with the guys too much or been drinking. Invite her to a romantic dinner buy her a gift. Make her feel special. If she means that your the greatest guy shes ever known, then dont let her walk out! Its a sign! Hope I've helped Lemme know

My married brother. I have been married for a little over 6 months. Sorry to hear that you are going through this. Some suggestions that come to mind would be marrage councling. I think that communicating through the councling would help to a degree. The bad thing is that everytime you both talk or get into a fight, the councler is not in the other room to ask for advise. Marrage seminars are good as well. I would search for these in a local Christian church. Do do all attend church together? Another thing (have to suck this one up) would be to pray together. You, as the head of the house, take her and pray for both of you all. That God will reveal what is wrong and give suggestions on how to fix the problem. You be supporised how this will help out. Theres nothing better than spiritual guidance with realistic expectations.

Then if you have tried ALL options on saving the marrage, then please have a plan B set. Where you going to live, getting a lawyer, counting all of the assets, insurance, and of course the children. A lot to think about. I will pray tonight that God will give you the wisdom to make the right decisions and say the right things at the right times.

You need to respect her choice and give her space. You can see how gutted she feels about this, she just needs some space to work out exactly how she feels, becos its not easy for her, she has been your wife, and given birth to your children and is so busy in raising them that she prob feels like she has lost herself along the way and needs to find herself again so she can trust how she feels about you. Right now just be supportive of her, give her space, and if she wants to give it a go suggest going to marriage counselling together to get to the core of the problem.

Thanks for all your advises. I will try to give her space and see what happens. Unfortunately it does not appear that she wants to work on it. I have asked if we should see a marriage counselor , but she does not want to. To help her with her sadness I contacted a friend of hers to see if she could talk to her. I did not tell her friend anything other than she is very sad. She found out and is ready to kill me. All I did was to try to help her get through the pain and sadness she feels. We have prayed together, but she is now blocking me totally out. The way she is acting towards me after sisxteen years it does not look like we will survive this. I was not the guy who was hanging out with my friends after work on weekends etc. I was home helping out bringing up our children etc. Home at night, home on weekends etc. I guess I should have been like the guys that are never around.

No you shouldnt have been like those guys hun, you did everything the right way, you were there for your wife and children but unfortunetly sometimes people fall out of love. Im guessing right now that your wife needs to be alone, she needs some "me time" so to speak to find herself to be able to trust herself. Once she has worked out her feelings then she will be able to give you answers, its not like you will never see her again, she is the mother of your children, she just needs to be by herself and who nos what the outcome will be, but everything happens for a reason and whatever is meant to be will be, just have faith.

I deeply understand what's happening inside you, because what's inside me can't be expressed by words that's why I will tell you this: it's difficult for a love to end without knowing the reason. When you give your heart and soul for a person, you do that because you want it to be forever but unfortunately life is unfair and will never be an easy solution. We get pain and tears from the closest to our hearts and our dreams of love and happiness end to be a sad truth. I am not sure why your wife is doing that but all I can say is if you were a man that loved his wife and gave her your soul, heart, mind and body and made her smile and happy all these years then you are someone special and precious that deserves to be loved and to be happy... It's never too late to have that in your life, let her leave, she doesn't deserve a love like yours...