Living with my boyfriend but have feelings for someone else

I am currently in a long-term relationship with a wonderful man, who I'll call Aaron. We recently moved in together, and while things are going well, and I do love him, I can't get someone else (who I'll call Jason) out of my head. He is someone that I...

was once involved with in college, but he was never able to commit. We would go through periods that seemed promising, but then he would back off and almost fade out of the picture. He would always be back eventually, though, and I really do believe that he had feelings for me, but didn't want to be involved in a relationship at that time. I ended up getting really hurt by his hot-and-cold moods, and eventually did my best to accept the fact that we would never be together. When I met Aaron, things seemed to be over with Jason, and he was clearly another great guy for me - kind, funny, supportive - he was able to offer me the stability and relationship that I wanted. Jason and I, however, have never stopped talking, and recently, we are in more contact than ever. I know that he hurt me and probably doesn't deserve another chance, but I'm afraid that I am missing a wonderful opportunity if he is finally ready to commit. On the other hand, I don't want to throw my relationship with Aaron away for someone that hasn't been very reliable in the past. This issue has been plaguing me recently, and I really need some advice!

If your relationship is really as great with Aaron as you say it is then why on God's green earth would you toss it away to go out with a guy with a proven track record of instability that has left you hurting?

Look at it from aaron's point of view. he loves u dearly, and has cared for u and in return, you...walk off wiv a man who has abandoneed u many a time? its not so much your missin an opportunity wiv this guy u like, but ur throwin away an opportunity wiv aaron. however, i cant really hav an accurate opinion on ur situation. if u had to choose which one u wood rather live with for the rest of ur life, and if u coodnt ever c the other, which wood u pick? wat ive learned is that u dont miss wat u had until its gone. is this thing wiv jason a phisical thing, or a personality thin? good luc watever u choose