Lifes hardships ,how to cope?

My husband had some very disstructive behavior in 2001, that it is now 2003 and I#039;m still feeling the consiquences to his actions. He ended up spending 50,000 of our money racked up 15,000 in credit card dept ended up in jail and is now in a rehab.I...

was left to pick up the slack one of our kids is 2 the other is 7 months I continued to work till i had our 2nd child and have been living with my parents to save money to get us back on track.I have been very supportive of his recovery and like a good wife and mother taken care of our childreen and other obligations not to mention being house maid/manager/cook for my parents and siblings.I feel like im going insane with no outlet to vent.local groups charge money witch i no longer have and I really cant count on family to babysit uless its to work.I feel like Im going to explode. Why don#039;t these rehabs help spouces or other family members cope with the disturction the addict left behind? where do we go to deal with our issues? don#039;t you think we shoud have help to deal with our issues prior to them comming home?And to make matters worse I can#039;t even find a job. I have collage and 15 yrs in my carrer whats up with that?Im a strong person but enuff is enuff. someone please tell me its ok to lose it. I feel I#039;ve erned that right.I do have a plan to better us as a family unit.my husband agrees, it#039;s just a matter of time.sometimes I forget how welloff we used to be.to go from financially great to piss poor is devestaiting. May be some one out there can help me cope or maybe there is a # to speak to some one? thanks for any sound advice.

Phew! Rough stuff.

I just did a search at several search engines and its hard to find anything in your case. You hit the nail on the head with this problem.

Here#039;s a suggestion.... why not start a Yahoo group about this issue? It would be a *great* outlet for you:
http://groups.yahoo.com/

Think about it, there are so many women in your situation right now across the United States, that over time you would get a lot of members in your online group.

Maybe there is even a group for your situation that#039;s there already. Let us know how it went!

Hunny if anyone can go through that and still have the air in their lungs to vent then they deserve every second of frustration they want. Not only is it ok for you to lose it occasionally but it#039;s ok for you to give up for a day... surrender to the inevitable... defeat. When you do that .. that humbleness will give you such a rejuvenation of strength that you will think you are a new person. Explain to those around you what you are feeling and if they take it as bickering then let them take it that way cause I want to see anyone go through that and still have the sanity to talk about it. you and only you have the will to go on, but you have to remember that you can only be so strong.....i hope that things do get better, keep me posted.

Uh, you could come here to vent. Just a thought.

I dunno, take up a cheap hobby, like walking or jogging in the mornings. It#039;ll help you stay sane