'let's quit arguing'

The relationship I am in, is really confusing and complicated. When we are together we are always having fun and never fight or argue. But when we are on the phone we don't really talk, we kinda just argue. But when we are in person, we don't talk about...

things that need to be talked about. And on the phone we do. How can we keep from arguing ? And breaking up isn't an option, we've tried it and it doesn't help anything .

its wierd but the healthiest relationships I've seen argue a lot. I don't get it but its what I've seen.

When it comes to arguing, it's more important that you can resolve your differences constructively than aiming not to argue at all. It's all about having 'healthy arguments'.
If you're both making a good effort to improve things only you can then decide if this is how you want to spend the rest of your life.

angelfire2708 - you give some awesome advise. And that is very true, and I have never thought about it. But with my other problem, the one me and you are talking about on my other problem, ever since that happened. He has stepped up a lot. And before I always felt like I would have to be the one saying sorry. He'd tell me I wasn't trying at all, and when I'd start crying - he's say 'here we go again'. And I never cried before. Maybe a selected few times. I would get back and he would always make things worse and always make me feel quilty. But right now we are actually talking instead of arguing. This would be our first time in AWHILE!