Does my husband seem like a horrible person?

Ok so everyone is saying that the boyfriend/husband being controlling is wrong. Well ever since I can remember my husbands been jealous. He dosen't want me wearing revealing clothes,which I really don't care for b/c it makes you look trashy(my oppinion!) He dosen't want us to be around peeps our age b/c they're destructive.(I have winessed this.) He gets upset easily.(I don't take it I igore him!) So he kinda sounds ABUSIVE, CONTROLLING right? WRONG he has NEVER layed as much as a finger on me.He is sweet most of the time and just wats our life o go smoothly w/o interferance.So do you think he sounds like a horrible person?

He sounds like a controlling man. DO NOT let ANYONE tell you who to hang out with and what to wear. How DARE HE!!! Do not justify his controlling you. You are your OWN person and do not ever let a man take that from you. Just because he does not hit you, doesn't mean that he is not hurting you still. Controlling someone is never okay. Even if it is telling you what to wear or who to hang out with. You seem to have lost yourself, because you are justifying what he is doing to you. Why did you ask the question if you had already made up your mind about it? Did you need validation for deciding that your husband controlling you was okay?

He sounds like a man with good intentions who is just a little zealous about things, its up to you how you handle it though, OI personally would talk to him if it became a problem but if you agree with him then it seems fine.

he means well ... he just doesnt want anything to happen to you and he cares for you

Personally, I couldn't handle anyone making decisions for me. In all of my relationships, we're equals, I couldn't last for a minute with someone telling me what to wear and who to hang out with. It's not that they are wrong or bad people, they just want the best for their girl. And if you're OK with that, then awesome for you both. It's a personal decision.

Yeah I'm fine w/it It's not the kinda relationship where I'm sad all the time!Try barely ever and that's b/c I really need to move right now b/c I'm too scared to live in my neighborhood now.

My boyfriends the same way. No they're definitely not bad people. ALTHOUGH IT LOOKS LIKE IT FROM OTHER PEOPLES PERSPECTIVE. I feel you.

Thanx I know he's not I just wanted to know if other people could see that he means well.

Maybe it is difficult for you to compare if you have not been in a loving relationship with a partner on equal terms.

How about a guy that buys you flowers for no reason, you get home for work and he has dinner prepared for you, He arranges to take you away overnight just to gat away for the weekend, he allows you to have an equal input as to who you want as friends and who you want to invite over, and a guy that lets you have a say in how your lives are going to be.

Just a thought.

PS
Ref you saying that he has never laid a finger on you, I know women who have been scared for life because of emotional and mental abuse from their partners.

They have told me that this sort of pain is far worse and long lasting. The pain from a slap goes away but emotional pain can last a life time.

As far as I am concerned, both are totally unnaceptable and often men who are mentally weak or have low self esteem are the ones that lash out or hurt women emotionally or in a controlling way.

I'm not saying that this is necessarily the case for you, I just wanted to point out that there are other types of pain other than physical that can come from a difficult relationship.

He does buy me flowers/games/make dinner and is very nice he does only tell me that he doesn't like something b/c it makes him feel bad.I do have the last say in everything and he doesn't mentally abuse me.If something upsets him I don't act like a dumb a*s and still keep doing it like some people! I think the people who care about dressing revealing and don't care what their guy thinks are the mentally abusive ones and selfish.He doesn't isolate me he lets his bros who are only a yr younger than me and my bros and sisters spend the week w/us he's not jealous like that.He gets mad at a guy for flirtting but dosen't take it out on me.He always brings me home stuff as a surprise and if I wanted to go buy a 1000$ bed right now you can bet he'd be at the store buying it for me.He tells me that I deserve whatever I want b/c I treat him like gold.We don't put eachother down and we talk about his day at work every night over dinner.Girls that don't care what their guys think are in more danger than they could imagine.The guys anger is going to add up over time and he will start to resent you.I have it a lot better than a lot of people.My husband won't look at another girl and never has he tells everyone that I'm all he needs he's pure and genuine and you are all jealous b/c your guy isn't this good to you!And judging by the way you don't care if you hurt your guy you deserve whatever happens b/c your selfish :b HOW DO you LIKE ME NOW?

You can have a guy that does all those nice things for you but still has enough trust and respect for you to allow you to have an equal input into the relationship, does not have outbursts of anger, is not insanely jealous and whose self esteem is not so low that they need to be in control all the time.

In my opinion you are in an abusive relationshiop but thats your choice and if you are happy with that it does not matter what anyone else thinks.

However, I am interested in why you felt the need to ask this question in the first place as it appears to me that you already knew what sort of replies you were likely to get.

Why ask the question and then attack people for giving you an honest answer based on their own opinion?

Clearly there is more here than meets the eye.

ok...I am a little exhusted from hearing about your great man, your great life, your weekly income, your husbands restraining habits etc...you sound very young, ignorant and naive. sorry, I am not a hater or saying this to pick on you but seriously sis, relationships should liberate you not bind or restrickt. My fiance and me, we have no limits. we don't even dicuss them because we trust each other so much that its never questioned. we tease each other about it but thats it. And I am slightly offended that you wrote in your profile that you dont need to drink or party. I am not a big drinker but I will have a drink on occasion and even go dancing for a special evening and it can be a lot of fun. You sure have it commin. thats all I have to say. If I were you, I would never broadcast so much information about your man, your income or your life. ...unless you want to be judged. And p.s. I am not the slightest bit jealous of your relationship, infact, I am worried. funmail me when you need that advice...I'll give your marrige 3 years tops. good luck on staying so opinionated...I am sure you have millions of friends

not everybody drinks and parties to get away from their problems. you are so ignorant just like I used to be