How can I control my jealousy?

How do I get control over this big green monster? My husband and I have been married for 3 years and I can barely stand for him to leave my side, I get paranoid and things fill my head like is he calling someone of meeting them. it is so bad that I find myself checking his e-mail to see if he is doing something..he has never done anything to really cause this distrust I just can't control it? What do I do?

Dear stinkyleemom,
If he has never given you reason to feel jealous than perhaps someone from you past has. This is a serious problem that belongs to you...you need to seek out counselling for this. Learning to trust can be difficult if you've been betrayed by anyone. So the key is to take ownership and get some help.
Sue...good luck

He is your husband, you should be on a level that you can communicate with him. Tell him you don't know why you feel this way but you have these feelings and you don't know what to do, because you love him... thats just an example... but tell him what you feel... you shouldn't have to live like that... you only live once hun, so live life happy...and get it out there.

Jason

No amount of telling you to stop doing this is helping. You could help yourself by getting to the bottom of it. It definitely is a trust issue. Do you have trust issues in any other area of your life.?? Who and what caused it.? If your husband has not done anything to undermine your trust then someone else has. If it wasn't your husband then you are punishing him for something he can't do anything about. That isn't fair to him. If you can't get to the bottom of it in your heart then get help. But before you go any further, let your husband know what is going on. Seek his help? You can overcome this. Good luck Gino

You have to trust him. If you keep going behind him checking on him that's goingdrive you crazy. If you LOVE HIM TRUST. A marriage is built on trust. Don't let your insecurity put him in bondage. Love to Trust him

I used to be accused of things I wasn't doing, just because the other person had a healthy dose of jealousy. It made me not want to be with them anymore. They just kept pushing and pushing until it all just finally fell apart. Turns out he had a girl cheat on him in the past, and he was extremely insecure. He kept saying he couldn't believe that I could love him. Well, I gave US another chance, and he still kept doing it. It wasn't something I could live with on a daily basis, so it was over for good. Please try to keep it in check,otherwise the things you are worried about could come true since you might break up and he'll be free to date other people. Good luck.