Jealousy freak and possesive

I know I have a problem, I am possesive, jealousy freak, I have trouble trusting people, and I can become a stalker :s :s
When a guy is intrested in me and I am intrested back all these things just get worse, I get very jealous, and I get furious if I...

am not his priority, or if he's late, and I intrepet things in the worst way, and I am always doubting his unfaithfulness to me, and its consuming me and our relationship :s:s but I cant control it, what can I do?

Well, it seems that the reason you are jealous and possesive person is because you might feel insecure about yourself. Maybe you are the one you can't trust. Maybe you feel that he will mess up because that is your mentality. Maybee that is how you view things.

I think that you might feel like you need to be in control of the situation at all times. this doesn't mean your wierd. just anal retentive. which means (for all you pervert out there with smile mentalities) things have to be a certain way. all the time. its a form of a compulsion disorder. if you won't ever trust anyone you won't ever have a long lasting true relationship. all relationships are built and founded on some form of trust. if you never trust anyone then you will never have an equal relationship.

if you need to be the priority in someone's life constantly maybe you lack or have had lacking emotional support from your family when you were growing up. this could be the cause of why you feel you need to be the center of attention when you are with someone in a relationship. does this happen in your friendships or just romantic relationships?

so here are some words of advice then to maybe help you out:

You can't always be in control of every situation in life. life is filled with circumstances and situations that will be out of your control at some point. Take for instance you have a date planned and he is a little bit late. he couldn't call because his cell wouldn't pick up a signal. and, the reason he was late was because of a bad accident backing up traffic and he couldn't take another route because he was stuck in the middle of it. I'm not saying that this is the only case but it is merel one example of how things are not in your control. try talking to him and finding out what really happened before you jump to a conclusion and push him away.

No one is perfect. not even you. everyone has their faults and flaws. accept people for the little things that make them imperfect. I'm not saying to settle for something less then standards you have set for yourself, but go into a relationship with realistic expectations of who a person really is.

If you want someone to control, get a submissive. this won't work for you either because it is still not a real relationship. they would do what you want when you wanted and would only do things you told them to do in regards to anything involving you. I don't think you are asking advice on this matter to find someone like that. it won't really bring you happiness.

Ask yourself when you are alone why you treat people the way that you do. no one but you can answer that question. and only you won't lie to yourself about your reasonings behind why you do the things that you do. there is no right or wrong answers. you need to remember that when you do this mental excercise because you are trying to better yourself and become a better person. change doesn't happen over night ad it will be a long road ahead. but how badly do you want to change?

you can funmail me if you want. I do counsel people on life's little or big problems that people have. it always helps to have someone to talk to about stuff no matter how insignificant they seem.