Is it wrong for my friend to beat his girlfriend?

My best friend constantly beats up his girlfriend, I've been raised with six sisters so I have always believed violence against women is WRONG full stop, She came to me one day in tears, and I ended up sleeping with her, should I convince her to ditch...

him and get with me, or just keep my nose out of their relationship, I can't keep letting him bash her

I think what you did is wrong you should have first asked your best frind why he beats her so much and try to let them sort out their problems ,you should'nt have slept with her what will your best friend say when he finds out.

im a childhood friend of herz known her my whole life, he beats her because hes violent and has no proper discipline in his house his parents let him do wtever shes a great friend and it just happened, I'd pick her over him neday, she's like knwn me my whole life

It is never right for a man to hit a woman. And no one should have to endure physical abuse to be in a relationship. You need to talk to your friends girlfriend. Let her know that she needs to get out of the relationship, and report his abuse to an authority figure, or even her parents. She shouldnt have to take that from her boyfriend.

You on the other hand should talk to your friend. (I would not call him your best friend, since you are sleeping with his girlfriend)... If he has made it known to you that he is abusing his girlfriend.. talk to him about it and maybe open his eyes, to how he is hurting her...

--"If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship and needs help or referrals to resources near you, please contact: the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)"

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We were friends, I'm just starting to question that ay, I've had history with her

hitting girls is wrong!

HItting a girl is of course wrong, but choosing to sleep with his girlfriend was also wrong. Two wrongs dont make it right. You are just adding more problems to her life. You need to be with her for support, not for pleasure. She sounds like she has very low self esteem, and feels she isnt good enough for anybody whos deserving of her. Theres really nothing anybody can do. She has to make the decision herself. Counseling might be a good idea.

hell yea that is wrong it never right to hit a woman. your friend need some counseling.
when a woman is beat that makes her have low self esteem and make her become depressed . it also makes your friend feel llike he have the upper hand which needs to stop. if he keeps hitting her she needs to make a decision wheather she wants to be with him or not. if this keeps going on then she could find herself in a lot of danger

How has this guy not had his a** kicked yet for hitting a girl? Does anyone else know about this? Does she have brothers? A father? Where I come from, that's just wrong!
This kind of abuse quite often results in the women being killed by animals like this. Your friend needs help, the girl needs to get out of there, and while violence isn't usually the answer, this guy needs to get his a** kicked for hitting a woman!

Amy and I have history, we used to like each other but things always were complicated, then she started dating Nigel(who I am now no longer friends with) and then he started beating up on her, her parents are seperated and she is an only child, I have brothers who she is friends with as well and they want to bash him, my dad has threatened him before as well

As for sleeping with her, I understand two wrongs do not make a right, but it just happened, me and her know it shouldn't have, I shouldn't have done it, but I don't appreciate being made out to be the bad guy, We both just acted on feelings we've had for each other for years, is that a crime? Its not like I'm going to screw her and leave her because I ain't like that, She's been staying here with us to get away from him, she's always defending him, I'm not letting her see him

I wasnt making you out to be the bad guy, but things just dont happen unless you want them to. Its kind of like when people use alcohol as a crutch for why they ended up having sex with someone. Its all about self control. If you have feelings for one another, its hard to understand why you two arent dating. I think if she truly liked you that way, she would be with you, and not with an abuser.

We are not dating because when ever one of us was single the other wasnt, it was a complicated time, would I be any better than him if I beat him up?

If two people truly liked each other, nothing would stand in their way to be together. Nothing!

This guy needs help, and so does she. She needs to do some self-reflection into why she is staying in such an abusive relationship. '

Beating him up wont make him stop. Talk to him, and let him know that he has used his girlfriend as a punching bag for the last time. Tell him, either he goes in for help, or you'll get the cops involved if he oversteps his boundaries again. Have her take out a restraining order on him. Its a start!

You should protect her in all ways what you may make and (of course) legal. Your friend is a beast.

Here's an update: Nigel got the bash(from someone other than me), Amy and I are together and she's pressin charges on him

well you should get her out of that relationship soon as possible and if she is ready to start another relationship I say go right ahead hook up with her it seems you trwat her better the same thing happend to my step sister and I got her out of it and it was scary to get her out of it and it took awhile for him to leave her alone it seems that you would be a great couple well she knows you pretty well if you grew up with her so good luck if you have anyother questions fun mail me