How can I tell my long-distance boyfriend I cheated?

I have this boyfriend that lives in Canada. We're in love but I've cheated on him a few times, by the way we've never met and it's been 3 years. When I met him I was a virgin. I don't know how to tell him what happened. Oh and he's 20 he's very emotional...

and when we fight he always wants to hurt himself. I'm scared to tell him..help?!

Why would you get involved in a relationship with someone who you cant even see? your doing the normal thing by sleeping with someone but you should have broke things off with your boyfriend. Now the best thing for you to do is to tell him what happened, and if you dont want to be with him then just tell him, he is 20, a big boy and he can deal with it. But you need to take responsibility for your actions and fess up.

Hmm....No need for anyone to tell you that cheating was probably a bad idea, but it does seem like you want out of the relationship. I was the "other guy" in a situation like that and I ended up dating the girl for a little while, but I could never quite trust her when I found out that she had a man somewhere else. If you have honestly never met then you need to end the relationship now and try not to mention the infidelity. He has some anger issues it sounds like that are fairly self-destructive. While I do feel for the guy in Canada, I know that if you let this drag on you will not only be causing him grief, but you will be hurting yourself as well. Don't count on men to give you the sense of security that you should try to provide yourself. It is not his right to know what you do with your time, it is his privilege. You decide who gets the privilege of knowing where and what you do. Until you have a ring on your finger, try to love life and love yourself without someone trying to control you (even if that means he is threatening harm to himself).

Great answer funguy.