Is this wrong?!

So I'm 14, I will be 15 in October and I really want a baby. I realized that my life is going to change and that I'm going to be responsible for another life but deep down I think im ready..I've thought about this a lot and I think I can do it. But the...

thing is im afraid what my family will think. Im young yes but I think I could be a great mom! I've been told so many times that Im going to make a great mommy and that Im great with babies!

Is it wrong to want a baby this young? Even if Im ready to give up everyting just to be one?

Don't do it! Im 19 and have a, 8 month old baby. My boyfriend is 21. We have 2 decent incomes and we still struggle!!! Live your life. Your not even old enough to drive so how are you gonna get to you or the babys dr appt.? You have no idea what you're gonna get yourself into. How do you plan on going to high school when youre pregnant, exhausted, and emotional? How do you plan on making it to class when your baby was up crying the whole night before? If you don't graduate how will you get a decent job to support your child? Where I live I see too many people who mess up their lives. Trust me, you getting pregnant would be the most stupid thing you could possibly do right now. Don't bring a helpless baby into the world when you're obviously just a baby yourself.

you too damn young
and imma put it juss like that
get your education
how da hell you suppost to support the baby
just people say ull make a great mommy
NO ..thats dumbb
GO To SKOOOL.so YU cud get a great JOb.find A GOOD man.AND then do your thanG

yes, it is
no mater how mature or stable you think you are
in reality, your not, and your not ready
you dont understand that taking care of a baby is not like taking care of a doll
it is a HUGE responsibility,much bigger than you think it will be
not only that but at your age you have no source of income, no job
a baby costs around $10,000 in the first year alone
how do you plan to make that kind of money?
especailly when you dont plan on finnisheing your education?
because its that education thats going to get you the job
without it, you wont get anything that pays well
also NO 14 year old boy wants to be a father
you are under your countries legal age of consent
I assume you have little if any sex eduxation as well
and a 14 year old guy with a kid, even if he runs off, he will still have to pay child support and it can impact future relationships for him, so you cant just make a baby with ANYONE
it has to be with someone else who wants it
do yourself a favour and WAIT untill your older
at the very LEAST untill your 16, but around 18 would be better
and LEARN about as well as sex education, everything thing you can about how increblly HARD raising a child can and will be

no no no hun you'll f*** up your life and wish that you didnt have the baby afterwards! and your not old enough to get a job so your parents will be paying for your baby! Is that what you want? to have to have your parents pay for everything? because then your not realy the mom your parents are! So just wait!!! Go to school and enjoy your life without a baby then when your older you'll get to enjoy having a baby!

Its not wrong to want a family at some point in your life, however at the age of 14 there is still so much more in life that you should accomplish first: high school prom, graduation, college. career..these are only a few things. Don't be selfish and think about how happy you will be. you need to think about the baby too, it will have needs needs that don't go away. instead of going to the park and hangin with friends you have to be at home or find a sitter, all your money will go on diapers and formula. don't think you are going to have an awesome job with no education either. and when you do get a job at minimum wage guess what most of that money will pay the sitter and all those baby needs. no gucci, south pole, nikes or anything else. I tell you from experiance that having a child at such an early age is very very difficult and the cons out weigh the pros in this situation...please think about the decision you are making...it will affect your life FOREVER...o and the daddies usually don't hang around long either...so you will be a single teen mother

Yup its wrong don't do it. You need to live first, not be burdened with a small kid.

I totally get that you want to have a baby because they are so cute and funn and you want to be a cool parent but you are just way too young. they come with so much responsibilty that is unexpected and will drastically change your life-no more friends, how are you guna pay,medical bills, finishing school,going to college, reliable father?- it would just be a horrible mistake. I dont want to put you down I just want you to have a fun life untill the time comes to settle down and have children. at least just wait till you graduate high school. well anyways good luck with whatever decision you make

Okay I am 19 years old I had a baby last year...trust me at your age you are not ready. You might think that because you think you will be a good mom you are ready that way but you got to think about everything else...first off the boyfriend..at your age he prob wont stick around. If he does then you too are two young to have real jobs to support the baby. Do you know how much it costs just to have a baby. 12,000 just for birth and thats as long as there are no complications. Then your doctors bills, the child's doctors bills. A house, the house bills, food, diapers(100 a month) formula(125 for about 2-3 weeks), bottles, clothes, crib all that good stuff. Then school forget that since you wont be able to afford day care. My boyfriend and I have a house and he has a full time job and we arebarely getting by we are getting a lot of assistance from the state but its not enough. You migth think the idea of a baby is agreat and you wil be a good mom...nodoubt you will be but when you are older. You will not literally be able to support your baby which willmake you a bad mother. You want whats best for the baby. Your parents will be furious and might even kick you out then you are homeless and the baby will be taken away from you. If dss thinks you are not fit to take care of the baby which you arent they will take it away. please just think about this. This is not a doll its a human life which needs a lot of money in order to live. If you love children work at a daycare or something. Dont think you want a kid because of some show you watch its just tv just please think about it. message me if you want to talk about it. I'll help you see that its not the best time not even at my age.

listen to them hon

YOUR WAY TOO YOUNG

You need a good education
A good job
Money for the babys pre school when they get older
Lots of spare time - you would probly be busy doing homework
A husband - NOT BOYFRIEND because THEY MIGHT DUMP YOU AND LEAVE YOU WITH A BABY
Be prapared to sleep 2 hours per night taking care and feeding baby
Changing dipers
Missing School - because for the first 3 month a baby needs there mum by there side
Not being able to hang out with your boyfriend or friend after school
Spending majority of your money on baby toys, pram, cloths, cott, and dipers

I dont think your ready, even though your 15 your still maturing...
wait till your married...

I usually don't like answering questions that so many people have replied too, but if you have a child now, it will be the BIGGEST mistake of your life.

You have your whole life to get married and raise a family. Do you realize that you will be responsible for your child for 18+ years? You're young. Just a kid...aren't you just starting High School this year?

Right now you need to focus in school, and get good grades. This is when it ALL matters. If you screw up now, there's no going back to fix mistakes. I say you should work hard in school, graduate, go to College and then start your career. Assuming, you want to make something out of your life.

Don't throw it all away now! You will never sleep the same way again once your kid is born. I guarantee that. There will be many sleepless nights, and you won't get to hang out with your friends like you used to.

I'm the same age as you, turning fifteen in October. I can't tell you what to do, but please don't have a baby this young. Babies can be a blessing...but also a curse.

no, my friends mum done that when she was 14, and that worked out fine.

please dont do it wait

think get an educaion or

have a screaming baby with an

a load of sh*t in his/her pants

I was 17 years old with my first child and it was not fun at all, im 22 and have two children now and guess what Im single a big part of my life is missing the father of my two children just pops in say hi to the kids and Im so lost by that.. How ever im not going to tell you your too young even know you are . But think about how this will effect your mother and father. I use to cry my self to sleep when I found out I was pregnant with my first born. It changed me and I never had the chance to be a child so please dont do it.
Yours truly,
Demika Ray

babe I know how you feel I have a baby I had her at 16 but I was 15 when I found out if your in love then go 4 it

now that is the best advice anyone could give this little girl. please use this advice it sound wise to me.

Most kids do what they wanna do and dont listen to advise either way, but at least your taking a step in the right direction to at least ask. What you should do is maybe you have baby cousins, or you babysit for someone who has a small baby. Stay over for the weekend at there house, tell them you wanna know what its like to have a baby. Do everything that mother has to do, wake up with them when the baby needs to eat. see what its like, im telling you at fourteen you wont enjoy it even for a weekend.

I have done that...for a week..and I loved it...the mother left for a wedding and let me watch her almost month old baby

going to school though and waking up with a baby is a different story. It may be one thing only doing it for a short while then being able to go home and sleep, but when its yours you cant. I just think you would be struggling with sleep, money everything at fourteen you need to figure your life out, cause you say you love babies wouldnt you want that baby to have the best life possible. How will you raise a child, go to school, and work. A baby costs a lot.

dont be selfish and reckless. do you honestly think you could take care of a baby the way he/she deserves to be cared for at 14. dont do it. I always knew I wanted to be a mom and that I could do it. I knew it was a big big responsiblility but you really dont understand how drastically your life is going to be effected. one can truley not understand what its like to be a mother until they have a child. one week is nothing. I babysitt for years and I never ever could have imagined the impact having a child at a young would have on me. I am 20 now and have a 1 yr old. its hard. really hard. believe me. I have given up everything. everything I used to like including drawing, painting, music, hanging out with friends, parties, just relaxing oh and not to mention MY BODY. I have given up every peice of me and my adolesence to be a full-time mom. dont make your life more difficult then it has to be. every single second of your day will be about that baby. I barely have time to take a shower every day. you just dont understand the responsibility that comes along with having a baby. please consider waiting untill you are more mature, stable, and able to physically and emotionally take care of a child. a lot of women also go through post partum depression especially when your minds arent fully developed. and you are less capable of handleing such stress. I have been on antidepressents for a year now and I promise going through postpartum depression while having to care for a newborn infant, loss of sleep, appetite, energy, and time is the hardest most horrifying feeling I have ever gone through. I was so scared that I couldnt do it. that I coudnt handle being a mom but this was the post partum talking and I hated going through this. it felt horrible. I was so emotional and terrified I would do something wrong or something to hurt my baby. its not as easy as you think. I am just now barely starting to get my old self back.

while having a child is wonderful and my daughter is just perfect and is the best thing in my life along with my husband of course, its still so hard. its scary, tireing, time consuming, life changing, chaos, ect.

think looong and hard before you make the same mistake.

why do you think all of us young moms have answered your question we know what its like its not all fun and cute. we know. and we all dont want you to make the same choices that while they are blessings they have truley changed everything, wait until you are older.

Just because you think you're ready doesn't mean you are. One of the girls I go to school with just had a baby and she is 16. She thought she was ready to but it made her parents fight all the time and her dad got really mad at her and wouldn't talk to her for like 2 weeks after her found out. He also said that she counldn't see her boyfriend anymore. Everything is ok in the family now but her parents are the ones taking care of the child and she complains that she can't do anything. And to be totally honest she got really big even after the baby was born. My advice would be don't have a baby yet wait until you're older. That way you can get the education to succeed and then when you do have a baby you can provide a good life for it. Just seeing what this girl went through between getting called names, not being able to do anything, and having her family fighting I wouldn't want a baby at 14, 15 or even 16 because even though you really think you are ready doesn't mean you are. I hope this helped and you're not mad.
lindsay