Is this ok at a funeral?

I went to my classmate, Natasha's funeral a week ago. I felt really sad, but I wasn't feeling sad because of her passing away, I was feeling sad because so many people were crying and had red around their eyes etc. There was a sad aura.
Is that OK?

It is perfectly OK for you not to cry for someone you don't know. My aunt Laurna died a while ago and I didn't know her very well but I cried for an hour. It just means you are sensitive to other people's feelings and you should be liked for that!

I know how you feel!
Its an odd feeling... I was in 7th grade. And it felt like at the funeral I was only sad because people were crying. But on my own time like a week later I cried because I realized I was never going to see my friend again. It just took me a little while longer to kick in then it took others.

There is no right or 'ok' way to feel... dont worry about it, people feel different things when people die...

Yup.. you're just being honest. Lets face it, being at a funeral is pretty surreal. The older I get, the more funerals I go to.. sigh. And I always think, this is the one day when all the people who the deceased knew are finally here in a place together, and the guest of honor is missing. I find that heartbreaking.

if you werent very close to her, then it is ok not to be completley broken down. it is actually very nice that you were crying for those people... so in a way you WERE crying for Natasha... weren't you?

I felt the same way. Everyone looked so sad.

Everyone grieves differently - it may be later that the grief of your classmate affects you...Take care !!

Thanks everyone

OK.