Is it normal to fight a lot?

I am a 20 year old who is recently married and had a baby me and my husband fight a lot he is a type of person who thinks he runs everything what do you think I can do to help our relationship because sometimes he makes me feel reeeaaallly bad.

Yes it is normal. I am not sure how old your husband is and how old our baby is but sometimes too many changes can be too much men. I know that my son's father and I used to argue likle cats and dogs when we first moved in with eachother. Like your husband my fiancee likes to run things in our household as well, he is also confrontational at times but I do love him and have learned to except him for who he is. My advise is to get yourself a journal and use your pen and a pad to do some serious venting. . Also ignore him when he wants to argue, you don't always have to fight back with him, there is so much power in silence trust me you will be amazed.

Also depending on how old your baby is it could be a little bit of post pardum as well.

thanks ill use your advice and see how it works if i have any more questions ill turn to you thanks again

Dear hernandez2120,
NO...it is not normal to be fighting all the time...fighting is a symptom of an underlying problem that needs to be discovered and talked about. You married him knowing he was controlling...did you think he would change. Men marry with hopes their wife never changes (of course we do) and women marry in homes he will change ( of course they never do). Your fighting will continue until you resolve the underlying problem. Marriage counselling is a great place to start. It takes two to argue and if you choose not to argue but wait until you both are calm and discuss your problems they will get resolved quicker. Stress of a new baby can create tension and fatigue and that is normal but on going fights are not.
Sue...good luck

yes thats the beauty of relations ships

You're probably fighting so much because you got married SO young.
And you had a baby SO young. You didn't have time to party like most 20 year olds do.
I think that you and your husband should have a friend or relative watch the baby and then you and your husband should go out.
To a party or to dinner.
Something.

thank you for your thought yes that is probably what happened no i wasn't ready to marry ne have a baby but it just happened he wanted it and partying I never in my life have been to a party Ive been on my own since i was 12 and all i have did was worked I skipped my teenage years meby you dont understand how can anyone skip there teenage years? well anyways maby we should try it who knowsbut sometimes he acts to maturev almost like a grandpa its really weird but weve been at the same stages we both started off young. but thank you for your imput I will try it.

I know im a little young and I dont know anything about marriage, but me and my ex-boyfriend used to fight every single day just like that. But I stayed with him because I loved him... Eventually it got so bad that he broke up with me, and now we are just best friends (yes it was really hard to get over him). We never fight anymore because we would always be arguing about our relationship and such. Sometimes taking a break is what you need to do to get those 'new love' feelings back that you had at the beginning of the relationship
I wish I had the chance to go back and do it all over again though. If I would have known that our silly arguments meant not being together anymore, I would have listened to him more and I would have tried to stay calm when something he did bugged me. You just have to look at the big picture. Is fighting about how much time he spends with his friends or what restaurant you want to eat at or even about what happens in a movie or something REALLY worth loosing the relationship forever?! Just remember that next time you guys start to fight, and try to come to an agreement. I wish you the best of luck, and I really hope you two are able to work things out easier. 3