Is this fair?

My parents found out I had an abortion, and I took drugs, selfharmed and attempted suicide, the thing is they blame my boyfriend.. when he has nothing to do with it... its my own fault I am like this.. do you think it is fair how they have locked me up...

and not allowed to see him? They think its the answer to all their problems, when it isn't.. they want me to get better... but surely if they let me see my boyfriend I would be happier? I am happier with him then not being with him... I was wondering.. is this fair?

Mabey it is but what do you think in your heart

Well in my opinion it isn't because the same thing my parents are doing to me rite now except in a different situation, I didnt do anything bad, just hanged out with my friends but my parents found out that my friend is slutty and thinks shes a bad influence to me and the family that theyve banned me for going out with any of my friends and going on the computer by puttin passwords on it and they thought its the solution...

I was mad at 1st but I started 2 understand, I did hate that girl and she is a slut but they didnt need to banned me... but the longer I stayed at home I started to realise that theyre doing this for me, for my own good, and theyre only doing it because they care even though what they seem to be doing is a bad thing and will only make you worse what if you build that trust again? and show them it isn't your boyfriend then they'll trust you and let you see him again, but they have the right to do it, you've done so many things if I was your mother I might just do the same thing because no parents want to see their child to go through stuff like this to be honest...

think about it, are they doing this just to make you sad or are they doing this to protect you? and help you to be on track with your life again?

Ok, first of all you said you had an abortion... I'm assuming it was your boyfriend's? because then he did have something to do with it...

As for the rest of it, parents have this impossible time believing something is wrong with their kid. They find it so hard to accept it, they look for an excuse... This is their way of dealing with your problems... Because if they say this is all you, then they will feel guilty because they raised you and it's like they failed (no one said it had to make sense). This is their way of dealing. It isnt fair, but it is the way it is. Are you in therapy? Because having your family sit in a session so you can explain how you feel might be helpful...

well my dad locked me away from THE hottest boy who ever talked to me... I didnt even do any thing just talked with him and my cousin
for a couple hours. I cant even talk to him or I'm grounded for longer than I did when I missed my school bus, when I forgot my chores, and all the punnishments put together.

I think its easier for your parents to blame someone else for there daughters mistakes. like I mean I guess in there eyes they dont see you as having problems like that (not to sound mean with the problem thing) and there first reaction is to blame someone elseh

totally know what you mean, I slip up one time and I never get to see him, the trick is to know they have leverage and not let them use it, try to be better and hope you'll see him soon, talk to them, and no its not really fair, but 4 your own good, be more careful please

First of all, every person in your life has an affect on EVERYTHING you do. So don't say that your boyfriend didn't cause you to be like this. Is he into drugs? Does he do any selfharm? Was he okay with you getting an abortion? If he was or did any of this... he had an affect on you. If not, then yes, it was all on you and it was only your fault. As for your parents locking you up away from him, that's not right on any level. I can understand why they'd do this but they should at least allow you to see him once or twice a week...something more along the lines of fairness. Since you've had an abortion, your parents need to be more considerate of you and your boyfriend and that you two need to cope with this together, not apart because that's not how you can handle it. You need to do it together.