Is thinking about cheating the same as cheating?

My boyfriend and I have been having problems and he told me he thought about cheating on me(kissing a girl,not having sex with her), He told me though he isnt cheating on me and wont cheat on me.But is thinking about it bad enough,was the relationship over from the time he started thinking that or is there still a chance because I dont trust him at all anymore.What do you think?

If you dont trust him then it's not a relationship. You need to trust him or leave him end of story.

He shouldnt have said that to you and I guess not even thought of it becauz if he really liked you he wouldnt have to think about doin that wit any other girl than you and without trust I dont think the relationship could work

Why did he bring the subject up in the first place? I think you and your boyfriend need to have a real heart to heart talk. If your trust in him is no longer there then this is serious enough to possibly ruin your relationship (ex.: it can lead to fights, to jealousy, to insecurity..). You both have to concentrate on the real problems at hand. 1-Trust and communication int he relationship 2-The problems you talked about above. That's the only way to know if it's possible to find real solutions or if it's time for both of you to move on.