Is there anything i can do to make these two along?

I have been a stay at home mom with my son who will be 2 in a couple of weeks. Well monday I started watching a little girl who will be 2 in october. They take each others toys and she keeps trying to bit him. Does anyone have any ideas on what I can do...

to try and make them get along? Besides time out, cause that is where they are right now!
Anything is greatly appericated thanks

It's going to take a while because they're behaving fairly naturally for their age at the moment. But once they get used to each other and your gentle sanctions/encouragement, I think they will get used to each other, at the least.

This is the stage where children are described as 'playing alongside each other' rather than 'playing with each other'. At this age they can learn to 'play nicely' without snatching, but aren't really old enough to get into each other's imaginary worlds and play 'together'.

Having them together now is going to be really good training for them, and in the end they will learn to share and not to attack. For now, you need to set a really constant example for them, I think. Always say: 'May I look at your toy, please?' before you touch it, so that they learn to ask, instead of grabbing. Keep doing that, over and over, so they get the idea. Gently but firmly say 'no' when the other child grabs. and say 'we don't snatch other people's toys'. If the child gives the toy back, praise them loads! Only do time out (for a very short while at this age) if the child won't give the toy back. You want to get into modelling and praising good behaviour more than you are punishing bad behaviour.

The biting - oh yes, I did that, and so did my son... That is a time out thing, for sure! The first time my son did it he was jealous because I was breastfeeding his new baby brother. I just passed the baby to his grandma, swept my son up in my arms and said: 'You can't stay in this room if you bite people'. I put him down on the floor in the other room and ignored him for a while, then asked if he was ready to go back in with the nice people, and not bite again. He looked a bit sorry and nodded, and that was the end for a while. The being picked up and swept out was very convincing - he didn't need me to be angry with him, being moved was enough of a shock.

Biting always meant time out for my kids. Sometimes they do it because they are exhausted and need a break from the other child, anyway, so it's a good 'calm down' thing to get them away from the others, and all the fun. Talk to the girl's mother about what you want to do, and encourage her to gently try to get the message across the same way at home. Don't let her make it into a huge issue, but make sure you're both 'singing from the same song sheet'!

I'm pretty certain that you can make this work, but it will take a bit of time and a lot of gentleness, patience and fairness from you. Best of luck!

My sister had the same problem with her three kids, and they were 5, 3 and 2. She removed them from the situation (time out, timed by how old they were) then went and talked to them. She asked them to show her or tell her what feelings they had that made them bite or hit their sister or brother. They still have their little problems here and there, but mostly you'll hear them say you're making me mad or some other verbal emotional release that lets the others know that they're getting upset.
Good luck :]

I could imagine that is cute to see. I have an autistic deaf sis. and ugggh was it intollerable!! when she was 3 she was very strong abusive also.. I think I was 7 tho. anyway when she would want my toys I wouldnt give them to her just to be mean, then she would beat me and stuff. so my mom would give her ginger tea to calm her down or sleepy time tea then she would be more tollerable but not quite... then with the toy thing--- it was miiine or she has her toys to play with... it is jelousy I think or just how the toy appeals to them... like my sis liked the color blue so whatever toy was blue and pretty she wanted... ask them their fav color if they have 1 and take them to the store to find a toy in that color so they get the idea that oh this is MY toy and when it is toy playing time seperate them a little...
hope this helps