Is there any chance for "us"?

I'm 19 and work at a Police Department. I'm in love and messing around with a man from work (Police Officer) who is old enough to be my father (41). But we don't see age as the problem! The thing is he's married, butHASN'T been living with her for now...

7months and wants to get a divorce, but doesn't know how his wife will take care of his youngest so he's waiting to see how she files for taxes. The wife is with another man and leading her own life right now, but won't leave him alone. She has told me You can have him, but I think she's just someone that thinks... if I can't have him noone can. She chose to leave him. The other problem is that he has another child that is very close to my age (13). We do love eachother, but we don't know what town and families will think! We really don't care what people think as long as we love eachother, but I know there are people out there in my type of situation and I want to know how it worked out! I've been hurt in the past because of things and I'm shutting him out and won't say things to him. He can tell me the things he wants to do to me, but I can't... I could barely tell him how I felt about him in the beginning. I just step around it or give him a diplomatic answer. What do I do? Is there a chance for Us?!

2 hrs ago you posted something about being 17. so which is it 17 or 19 or maybe 13 ??

I've never posted anything here! I'm 19! I was born in 89! I graduated May 25, 2007! I don't know who you are looking at, but it WASN'T me! I said I was kissed for the first time in the Summer of 2006 when I was 17. That's probably what you saw! But trust me I'm 19! I didn't know a man until I was 18... so yeah!

this is bizare. there is a question on here that says its asked by fau but then other people are coming on and adding stuff to their questions and they have a diferent profile name ? how is that? can someone be taking over other peoples accounts ? go into the members part and type in fau then go to questions and you will see what I have replied to.

No... I put it as anonymous and that's the profile that comes up when you do that! I then replied to your message from mine and then my profile info popped up! You don't have to worry! No hacking here! As for the blog what do you think?

Well what I think is that you shouldn't be seeing an older man its wrong and come on he's a cop he's puts scum like him away and knows that this situation is a little perverted and I only think this way because my dads a cop and I wouldn't want him seeing a 19 yr old girl so I say end it even if you do love him this is wrong and he should know a lot better sorry for being a little cruel but that's just how I think

I wouldnt continue the relationship until he is divorced (if those are really his intentions). So many girls fall for every single line her married lover tells her, only to find out years later, he never intended on leaving his wife. He can tell you what you want to hear, and you can believe it all, but the truth is in his actions.

Your life is just beginning, and he is in midlife, which means hes probably not going to want children anymore. To me, a 22 yr age gap is a big one. You were born in a totally different era than he was. I just dont understand what you could possibly have in common with someone as old as your father. Gap in maturity, can be problematic. The older is often to blame for unhappiness as the younger will be more naive and lovestruck.

I'm trying to wait 'til he is divorced, but we have such a chemistry it is getting more difficult. A lot of people that I work with told me they knew this would come about because they could see it in both of us. We've never talked about kids... I've seen myself as a mother living in this town on a ranch and working as a Police Officer and he knows my intentions, but we've never discussed what he wants out of life! I really don't think maturity is the issue although I can see how the naive would play in. I'm extremely mature for my age... I've had people ask me if I was 25+ and when I told them my age... at that time 17+ they couldn't believe their ears and had to ask again. Everyone my age thinks I'm too mature and they understand why I'm with him. I guess it's just one of those things where you'd have to meet me to see for yourself. Anyways thanks for your comments: I'm starting to figure and realize things.

I think that if you really love this guy and for the right reasons then go for it. its your life and you have tried to do things the right way so yer go for it. I only ever used to go out with older guys when I was young but that was because I think I was looking for someone to look after me. think hard about why you like him and then make your decision. goodluck xx

Thank you. Great Advice! I think that was the case with me before him, but now... I see everything but ya' know! I can take care of myself, I realize that, and I feel better about myself than I did, and he makes me feel even better! But the age thing and him having children that are dang close to my age is the only weird thing! Anything I can do to make things easier on all of us that doesn't deal with breaking-up! I really do love him and I'm sure I'll love his kids because he's the only one they got and he's raised them right! What can I do to make things easier for him

Well the kids might have a problem with it and give him the old your having a mid life crisis thing but if you stick it out and show them that you love him and want to be involoved with their lives too it might work. kids are funny with new partners im going through it with my daughter and hes been her dad since 3 and shes now 12. it just takes some adjusting.
with your man id be honest about your worries and im sure he will put them at reast for you. you dont have to rush into anything bug just take baby steps. if anyone else has a problem with it tell them to get a life. some people will pick on anything because they dont have a happy love life. xx

Thank you... believe it or not you are really helpful! I do love him and I want the kids and MY PARENTS to see that! My dad says that I'm really emotionally instable, but I think it's because he doesn't want to lose me especially to someone his age, but I think that they see that I do love him and we are trying to be reasonable and think EVERYTHING through! Could you possibly go comment my other blogs?! One is called I want to tell him what I think, but I'm shy! (something like that) and then the other one is what does this mean? I think you are a great advice giver and I'd appreciate it if you would help me in those areas too if you feel comfortable giving advice like that! It is under the profile fau, but it's really me that posted them! THANKS ! We are both grateful for your help! xx