Is my relationship healthy or is it controlling?

My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. I used to be this really fun, outgoing girl that everyone loved, and I was always out being social. Now, over a year ago, I have lost my best friend, and am not in touch with almost anyone. I have...

designated days that I have to have with my boyfriend and if we both have free time, we have to spend it with each other. I'm not allowed to talk to any boys. Don't get me wrong, he treats me like a princess, and my parents love him, but my mom thinks we spend too much time together, as do I. I want to hang out with my girls again, and I want to be fun, and outgoing. What should I do? It's like a circle. We have a problem, we talk, it gets bad, and he cries and takes it out on himself, it gets better, we have a problem, etc. I'm at a total loss. I'm off to college next year, and we'll be an hour away if not longer.

Yeah, he does sound a little controlling. Try talking to him about it, and tell him you need a little space.

What if I have talked to him before?

If you have already talked to him about this, that isn't a good sign because that means he knows how you feel and isn't respecting your wishes. So that means you can try talking to him again, you can stay with him and keep quiet, or you can leave. If he isn't going to respect your wishes, you might have to decide what you want the most, him or your space.

he does sound controlling. try talking to him

It is simple. Do what you want, and tell him how you feel. Not as a quarrel, rather as a notification. If you want to hang out with your friends without him, tell him that you want to hang out without him. If you want to flirt with other boys, tell him that you want to flirt with other boys. Do not let to subordinate yourself, and tell him that you dont let to subordinate yourself. And avoid the too long disucussions on the topic. Tell him that you do not like that he cannot do anything without you, he has no friends, sport-acitivities, etc. Tell him that this way you will get on each other's nerves, and you want to avoid it.

Love is NOT controlling the other person. It respects/trusts one another. You both need other activities outside of your relationship. Being together 24/7 is very unhealthy and shows alot of insecurities! You are/have lost touch with your friends, and later it could be your family. Basically what this means is you have lost touch with who you are. This is not good. In your mid teens, life is about finding out who you are. It takes a lot of your teen years to work it out. You are losing those years to someone who doesn't care about you.

Get back in touch with your friends. or- whoever you feel you can talk to. Let them know how bad it is. Talk to your boyfriend, but don't take any guff from him. He will try to manipulate you, with threats of suicide and claims of love, but he doesn't mean it. If he meant it, he would treat you better. Tell him you're leaving and that you will need space to do so, so he's to leave you alone.

I feel bad for you, because this situation will definitely take some time to get over. Give yourself that time and don't be hard on yourself. But believe me, you need to get out. This is NOT your problem, so you cant blame yourself for his behavior/insecurities!!

Good Luck!