Is it that simple to accept all of this?

You answered one o fmy questions about why my boyfriend left me. Thank you for your answer, here in South Africa you dont get straight forward answers. The thing that made my break up so complicated is the fact that I have a 14 month daughter and even...

though he wasnt the dad, he took to the role as per his wish. The problem was my daughter became attached to him and even called him dadda.When he left he left a lot of hurt. What man cries while breaking up with someone? We have tried being friends but I kept on asking the same questions so I pushed him away so its my fault there. I also miscarried with his child a week after we broke up, so I am really full of hurt. HOw do I accept all this?

Your question is how do I accept this? By focusing on raising your child and not letting her call any other man dada ever again. Then you get on some seriously good birth control and be consistent with it, because you are making babies with men who are *not* fathers and you will continue to hurt your daughter and to hurt any other child you bring into your messes.

I know I can be harsh, but protecting children is the number one priority and I don't take excuses. STOP having babies with the wrong men. Focus on your daughter, forget about these guys, I don't care how good your realtionship is, no man would ever let a baby girl call him daddy if he was just going to decide one day he didn't want it out of the blue. I wouldn't be friends with that man. He has hurt your daugher!! Your family, your child(ren) are the most important things on earth, and protecting them is your priority. Isn't it?