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Is it okay not to be hurt this time?

Shark Atack Asked by funadvice over 2 years ago, 3 answers.

I just wrote up a freaking novel in an attempt to ask one simple question, lol. So I'm just going to scrap that, and cut it short.

I was with a girl for two and a half years, and we recently broke up, for the last time. I'm 18, I graduated a year...

early from High School, I put off college for a while now to wait for her, I was always there for her, I was loyal, I was honest, I was understanding, I listened, I supported, I massaged her feet every day after school even though they smelled funny, and I pushed her to achieve whatever goals in life she may have, seeing as her family didn't really care.

She did nothing but lie, cheat, take, take some more, and just when I thought I had nothing left to sacrifice, she began to take things away from me that I didn't even know I had. Here's the stupid generic part that you hear every man and woman say in this situation, But I loved her! Sad but true. She didn't even have the respect to at least call me and end things over the phone. She threw away two and a half years of my life through a text message.

So on to the question. As soon as I finished reading the text message, I didn't cry, I didn't get angry, I didn't even fight it. I just stopped feeling.... I didn't even go through the rolling around on the floor screaming, OH GOD I WANT TO DIIIIIIE phase. Everything just stopped, I stopped talking for a few days, didn't sleep for about 4 days, didn't eat, didn't anything. When I finally fell asleep, I woke up at 5am, went for a really really long run, came back home, took a shower, and just went on with life like nothing happened.

Is this really okay? I really thought I was supposed to face a long period of, I miss her's, and I still love her's, and oh god this is her shirt, and all of that depressing junk, but I feel as if I'm completely over it... I feel nothing, and I really don't understand it. This was the girl that I chose to spend the rest of my life with, she still has the ring that I proposed with, I wasted so much money on flowers and random junk that if I had all of that money back, I could probably have a car by now. Yet, I feel nothing. I laugh, I regained my sense of humor, I got back in touch with old friends, even old ex's. I'm supposed to be sleeping right now because I have plans to meet up with a few of them today, and I haven't seen them for ages... Crap, it turned out long anyway, lol. I'm sorry, I tend to get lost in my thoughts and such.

So yeah, is it really okay if I go on like this? Or will it all just come crashing down when I least expect it?

aint i cute? lol... Answered by baybiex3mc18 on Jun 21, 2007, 07:36AM
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yes its perfectly normal.. believe it or not you went through your mourning phase by not eating adn not sleeping.. I went through a similar situation.. 3yrs on n off with this guy who i thought was amazing until on sunday morning some girl called and asked y i was saved in his phone as my future wife and she informed me they had been seeing eachother for over 9months.. I cried for a day or so.. locked my self in my room and wouldnt talk or eat only thing i could was cry n sleep.. But after about a week or so i got up and realized it wasnt the end of the world. now a year later im fine. it took me a few months to realize he wasnt worth any of it.. even thou i thought he was.. so yes its perfectly normal to not want to mope around ur house.. getting back in touch with old friends and even Xgf's is a great way to get over her.. just bc u think u are now u may not be.. but it'll come keep urself busy.. thats all i can tell you!! and keep ur head up.. sounds like ur a great guy and deserve a great girl! hope all works out for you!!

woohoo Answered by texaskimmie on Jun 23, 2007, 10:18AM
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I'm not sure..it seems like you are okay, but maybe you are going through a denial phase? Denial comes before anger, greiving, and then acceptance. I do think it's great that you are getting on with your life, and maybe the fact that she did this to you so callously helped with you moving on quickly. Your not eating and not sleeping phase may have rapidly gotten you through things, or maybe you are just very mature and see that after all the things you did for her and for her to end things through a text message, she was not the one for you. Good luck.

I love Richard Answered by richard4life on Jun 23, 2007, 05:36PM
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Believe me, you'll feel it. One day, you'll feel it. I understand the feeling because when I was thirteen ( I'm fifteen) I had been with this guy for what seemed like eternity for a thirteen year old ( a year, lol) We did everything together and one day he just told me that it was over. I knew someone else was on his mind. It didn't hit me until like, a month or two later. I was BAWLING!! But even if you don't, you're better off, because the chick didn't even have the balls to tell you at least over the phone that it was over. Hell, it got me crying. Just go on with your life the way you are now. You'll find someone who is three times the woman she was or could ever be.

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