Are handjobs and fingering considered sex?

Hey, well first of all, I dont want to have sex with my girlfriend yet, and she does want to, but I told her I could finger her, and she could give me hand jobs, is that still considerd sex?

Well not technically. But it is still taking another step forward toward sex. Believe me sex is not bad by any means but I have been a father since I was 17 and it was extremely rough so tread lightly on the final fronteir.

no. . .

its foreplay...so yes it is a part of sex...

well since it is boder line sex, should I just have sex with her?

No, it's best to work your way slowly into sex don't rush into anything that could have traverse effects on your future.

hmmm, anything fun to do that keeps you occupide from sex, but is still fun? othere than handjobs and fingering

Well is your looking for intimacy then making out in odd places or with ice or sweet stuff might be fun but if you're looking to avoid any type of sexual encounter then find a hobby you both can enjoy together.

But once a woman is wanting and willing there's not too much that can stop her without hurting her feelings.

hahaha well, she is really into the hole, chocolate and whipped cream scene, so ima buy some before she comes over tonight. well I guess its not that im not ready to have sex, or that I dont want to have sex, its that im kinda scared of it, see'n as how rubbers might brake, or other things, it will be both our first time, so its not like she is experenced or anything, so maybe I should just suck it up and screw her like a man XD.

Well being scared is part of the process but you and her are both consiously making this decision, there should not be any regret left behind. Always make sure there's plenty of lubrication and do not plow in. She will bleed and it is natural. She probably won't enjoy it the first time so don't be down whenever she's like "ya it was ok". It's okay to use fingers to prepare entering her because a condom will numb your ... a little. Check her reactions throughout the whole process because the first time is always worse on her side.

It does not make you any less of a man to be a virgin. Just think once you pass the line, there's no going back and then you start the craving afterwards.

hahaha I pretty much knew all that, but thanks for telling me. umm well if I feel comfertable tonight I will try, and what do you mean by "a lot of lube?" like 4 drops or 4 handfulls,, please be spacific

As long as it is smooth and nothing is catching on anything. I'd say it's like the same amount as lotion but the type of lube and the cost always has different effects.

ha ha ha well I got KY non oil based lube

KY is crap but it'll do just don't try it in the shower because it will run off very easily. I'd say adult store but you are a little too young for that mess.