Are drugs more important to him than me?

I have been with my partner for nearly 7 years now, about 2 years ago we went off drugs together because we were both trying to get or lives sorted out, now we have moved in together and he has started drugs again, he doesn't help in the house and it is...

really stress full. he tells me that he wont come in stoned as they put it but he still does. I try to reason with him and tell him if it makes him happy to do it but not every day, but he still does. Is he trying to hide something or does he not wont to hurt me by keeping it all inside him?

You have committed yourselves for 7 years and drug free for 2 years. How fair is that to you when he comes home stoned. I don't think its fair at all, and what happened to sorting your lives. Sounds like you've been trying and relationships is about working together.

There are 12 steps programs for drug addiction as well, and group to help you work through your feelings while he's still stoned. I would suggest going to some couples therapy to work through some issues together.

If things don't change take a look at the whole picture is this what you really want for you? and the rest of your life. I wonder what he will replace his drugs with when he needs to feel happy again Just a thought and such a lame excuse.

Dear bonnie33,
Drug addiction is a powerful thing. He isn't doing drugs to make him happy he's doing them because he is addicted and unhappy. You stated you have stopped and have not started again..,be very proud of this and isn't it amazing how clear you can see life now!! So you do see he needs help. Talk with him about a program like Narcotics Anonyms. If he refuses to go YOU GO. This will give you the skills and strength to deal with this. You can't do this alone. We can't change others only ourselves.
Sue...good luck