Is 3 years too much. how to get parents to trust us.

Do you think it's wrong if I am 14 and he is 17 for us to be together, because he is responsible and we share a really close understanding, and I love him soo much. my parents hate it, but it would b different if we were 20 and 23. they are just scared...

of him doing anything to me, but he is the exact opposite to that, and said if he ever did he wuldnt forgive himself bec I mean so much to him. what do you feel about this. also, how can I get my parents to see that he is a genuin guy? because they dont let me go hardly anywhere with him, and I want them to b able to trust him?
please help we are struggling to pull us both through =(
thanks

well it is a little wierd, its more of an acceptable age gap at a older age, but considering you're only 14 your parents probably would let you go out with anyone else a lot even if they were closer to your age, just have him come over sometimes

It is just weird, because he is almost 18 and you will still be a minor. You will get a lot of funny looks since he will me a legal adult dating a minor. You sound responsible and it seems like you really have feelings for him, but three years is a really big gap. I would wait a little bit, maybe just stay friends and move very slowly. If you keep pestering your parents, its not mature and it may be best to work something out and listen to them. Because the truth of it is, you just only started puberty, whereas your guy is a growing into an adult now. I think you should just consider the gap a little more...
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Well. I've been in your position before. except he was 20 and I was 15 which is a little worse. And he was totally like I dont wanna get in your pants or anything. so I trusted him. Just be very very careful and if you're responsible in other areas of your life you parents should be able to trust you in this area. And for them trusting your boyfriend?.. I'm sorry honey.. they're parents.. thats what they're there for. They might even be like that even if the guy was your age.

thx ashleyelizabeth buts I have had a few boyfriend's who were my age and they did trust em, not fully but WAY more than now
its not fair
why shuld age get in the way of genuin love =(

Perhaps if they got to know him a lot better, and he was to sort of become a family friend, and you two promised to refrain from sex, then maybe they'll trust him. 3 years is a bit much... I won't go out with anyone more than 2 years younger than me right now.

You're saying all this that he isn't interested in sex - but you're posting questions on how to do sexual things to him. Think about it from your parents point of view, they're older and had more expeirances and can probably see that he's not right for you. And also are scared for your wellbeing. Maybe you should find someone you're own age and stay out of sexual relationships for a couple of years.