Why are adults giving so much irresponsible advice?

Why are adults giving children irresponsible advice?

On this site, time and time again, grown men and women are giving advice to children about how to go about anorexia, where to buy laxatives, and other things, without warning against the dangers.

How...

can you tell a fourteen year old kid where to buy condoms without at least trying to tell her she probably shouldn't be having s*x at her age?

As angel said, some people feel that they have nowhere else to go to learn about sex. There's a big difference between giving sex information (how pregnancy occurs, how birth control works, etc) and giving sex advice/tips. I give sex information to people of all ages, but I do not give out tips or techniques. That's when I tell people that if they are not ready to try it on their own without us holding their hand, then they're not ready to do it anyway.

its not my job to tell a teenager to not have s*x at 14 since I started having s*x at 16, plus I think most people probably would rather the person in question protect themselves gainst stds and prevent pregnancy, because its more likely that the teen will ignore anyone who tells them that they should not be doing that.

Personally, if i am giving advice about say, laxatives, I always tell them that they should read all directions and warnings about it first.

About the other things, such as anorexia, I personally would never advise anyone to do that to themselves, being bulemic myself I know how addictive that type of behavior is, and also how much you hurt yourself by doing that.

I never said anyone should tell anyone not to have s*x.

But do you really think it's ok for grown adults to be giving s*x advice to children?

I think adults should be giving advice to their own children and maybe there wouldn't be so many uninformed kids on this site asking so many juvenile questions.

i agree with fototag. Plus, as far as high schoolers on down, if i can figure that's the age group, I dont encourage what their question is about. I try to give my 2cents advice and then answer depending on the question, or maybe i dont even answer the question. But no i dont agree with adults giving underage advice but ..hey, if their parents arent gonna do it, that's what this site is for. What you need to do (since you can't control everybody) is make sure you answer their questions too..give your side of the story, make your point. Because you can't stop ppl from giving advice.

Because this is a site for advise and if theyre gunna have it you might as well give then at advise on how to do it safely and to really thing about it.

I suppose you guys are right. It just seems weird to me.

Alot of these teens that come here, usually dont have anyone they can talk to, and i think thats really sad, that girls cant even talk to their mothers about sex! It all begins at home. Im glad that my mom and dad taught me about values, and morality! Alot of girls dont feel good about themselves, so they are easily pursuaded into doing something they arent ready for, because their bfs tell them everything they want to hear. Then after theyve given their virginity to them, they are devasted when the relationship ends!

Ive had my share of complaints from teens telling me im being too harsh! There was a girl that wanted to know HOW to commit suicide, and i told her that she needed help. I couldnt believe when i saw a couple teens that actually told her what to do! Another girl wanted to know where the best place to cut herself where no one would see. Again...kids we're actually telling her where to do it. I feel alot of teens just arent capable of giving out advice on some topics that are being asked. They are just as troubled, and they dont give out sound advice to the teens that really do need the help! Teens today are trying to grow up wayyy to fast. Hopefully they will learn from their mistakes!

I feel 13, 14, and even 15 yr olds are not ready for sex, even though they think they are,but the thing is, you cant tell them NOT to, because theyre gonna do it anyway.

I feel that if someone has to ask for step by step instructions on how to kiss, make out, and especially on how to have sex, they arent old enough, or educated enough to know! Thats just where i stand on that issue. If kids and parents would start communicating more with one another, kids wont have to look outside for answers, and thats why we're here!

You are a very smart and impressive person. Someone cared enough about you to teach you right from wrong and encourage you in such positive ways that you feel good about yourself. You have obviously developed good morals and values and a concern for others. I would never give any advice on how to become anorexic and I would encourage young boys and girls not have sex. In fact, some of my recent advice was abstinence being the best birth control. It is very surpising how many young people ask such explicit questions, a lot of the time not having a clue what they are really getting into and as angelfire2708 said, so many young girls and teens have no one to talk to or to guide them. This place must be such a warm welcome for them and hopefully adults will try to help with their questions in a responsible way, yet caring. There are always going to be some bad apples in the bunch, but with a lot of good advice to choose from, we just hope the right decision will be made.

But do you really think it's ok for grown adults to be giving s*x advice to children?

Who is most likely to have been through it and seen the results? Along the lines Llewellyn says its ok, I think.

Personally, I don't feel right about it.. I've gotten funmail asking me to answer a kid's question - I think she was only 15 asking me something about intercourse with her boyfriend.. As a mother of a child around the same age, I just could not stomach it!

I know where your coming from. I think your right. It is weird, and some of the adults on here probably wouldnt like it if strangers gave this advice to their children.

its not my choice to decide if she is going to have s*x at the age of fourteen but I dont like seeing fourteen year olds being pregnant so I try to help them out ok

its not my choice to decide if she is going to have s*x at the age of fourteen but I dont like seeing fourteen year olds being pregnant so I try to help them out ok

as a parent to a 12 yr old I like to think that if my child needed advise on these matters she would be able to get it from me. thats no the case with some parents and some children also dont feel comfortable talking to there parents either. its like the argument about condom vending machines in schools. is it encouraging them to have sex if they are there? I dont think so...I would rather they have them to buy and put away for if the occasion presented itself. too many kids on here for example are talking about having sex at 14 and not using protection. then they are like oh my god what do I do. if they had a way of getting the contraception they may have used it. its a hard one isnt it.